As the holidays approach, so do messages of gratitude. It is Thanksgiving week in the United States—a time traditionally set aside to celebrate the abundance of the harvest with family and friends, and to give thanks for all the gifts that life has given us over the past year. You probably already know that developing a gratitude practice is valuable any time of the year. Feeling grateful can open your heart and actually rewire your brain, allowing feelings of peace and happiness to flow more easily into your day-to-day consciousness.
Yes, you can recover from the betrayal of an affair. The sense of hurt and betrayal may feel unbearable to you. The first stage of shock and awe will pass. You need to turn your attention to the healing process. Here are steps to help you get started. Prepare as if for a marathon in which you do everything to increase your resilience. Intensity of feelings can best be dealt with when you have had good sleep, eaten well, exercised. Spend time with friends who get that you want to do what you can do rebuild.
Two poles of money Is money your master or your servant? Money can be under your control, and you can make it work in your best interests. That is, money is your servant and will provide you freedom to live the life of your choice, and freedom to be free from the oppression of society.
The boyfriend and I are six months in and the holidays are creeping up. He’s an LA implant so choosing where to spend the holidays would be simple if this were an ordinary situation, but it’s not. My dad is not a fan of this relationship so for the first time ever I have to choose; spend the holidays with my family or with the boyfriend?
Gratitude isn’t just a dish served on Thanksgiving. Researcher and author Brene Brown found that it wasn’t that happy people were grateful; it was the grateful people experienced more joy. Here are eight ways to take gratitude beyond the Thanksgiving table.
Most of us understand that hugging is beneficial to our health. Family therapist, Virginia Satir stated that, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” Based on that - many of us are barely surviving.
You broke up with your boyfriend, or you left your husband, because he cheated on you, or he was neglectful, hyper-critical and uncommunicative, or he physically or verbally abused you. You had a decent week without your partner around to repeatedly lie to you, berate you, or constantly tell you that you’re inept, overweight, aging and stupid. And you want him back — WHY?
Say YES…then figure out the HOW later! I know you’ve heard that before…and you might be thinking “I already know that!” but are you LIVING it when it’s tough??? There’s an easy way to figure it out….when was the last time you said NO? When was the last time you knew you should do something, but you didn’t? When was the last time you chose not to ask for what you really wanted? Those are all ways that you are not saying YES and figuring out the HOW later! Ouch!
In every breakup there are two roles: the Dumper and the Dumpee. Put it another way, the person who actually says “I’m outta here” and the person who is left behind. Sometimes we try to save face by agreeing that yes, it’s over, when the other person says they’re leaving. But almost always there is one person who is the first to throw in the towel emotionally.
Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Susan Winter – Author of the book ‘Allowing Magnificence: Living the Expanded Version of Your Life’: Speaking of recalibration and no mistakes, what are the biggest pitfalls that a woman could make today in trying to find love? This is given all the challenges that you mentioned. Susan Winter