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Psychiatric Diagnosis: Too Little Science, Conflicts of Interest

Psychiatric Diagnosis: Too Little Science, Conflicts of Interest

The Concerns There is a lot of pain and suffering in the world, and it is tempting to believe that the mental health community knows how to help. It is widely believed, both by mental health professionals and the general population, that if only a person gets the right psychiatric diagnosis, the therapist will know what kind of measures will be the most helpful.

I am NOT mentally ill!!

I am NOT mentally ill!!

I AM NOT "MENTALLY ILL"!! I am a complex person, a beautiful and sometimes fragile being of light. My problem is not that I have emotional and psychological pain, but that I live in a society of separation, judgment, and fear. Modern psychology has labeled me sick, dumbed me down with pharmaceuticals, marginalized me, and led me down a path that all but destroyed my soul. I have given away my power to counselors and doctors in the past, to my sad childhood. to partners, family, institutions, to religion, and a multitude of "others".

Six steps to claim your sensual confidence

Six steps to claim your sensual confidence

One of my younger female friends reminds me a lot of myself before I came into my sexual confidence. Despite having the slim and fit build and striking looks envied by many women and admired by many men, her insecurity about having smaller breasts not only feeds her jealousy of her loving boyfriend’s perceived attraction to other, curvier women, but also interferes with her ability to fully accept his open adoration (and wild lust) for her physical self. A conversation we had one day inspired these six steps to claim your sensual confidence.

When you reach a crossroad in a relationship

When you reach a crossroad in a relationship

Sometimes the future sneaks up on you sooner than you predicted. You really have two choices when a serendipitous opportunity is right at your fingertips. You can hide your head in the sand like an ostrich, too overwhelmed with anxiety over the unknown to look it in the face —or in reality, sprint away from the situation with fear. Or you can raise your head, unfurl your wings, and trust where the wind will take you after removing the safety net of the well-trodden ground beneath you. When you reach a crossroad in a relationship, are you an ostrich or eagle?

Fathers Need To Talk About Sex
"It's all about the birds and the bees..."

Fathers Need To Talk About Sex

Parents help raise their children together, so there's no reason as to why the sex talk can't come from both parents too. Fathers need to step in when teaching their kids about sex.

Turning Poison Into Medicine

The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing work which I love, and I’m thankful (yes, really) for being diagnosed with diabetes this year. Why am I thankful?

The Hookup Chronicles: Adrianna the Slut with the Perfect Butt

The Hookup Chronicles: Adrianna the Slut with the Perfect Butt

Adrianna was 18 and knew she was hot. She had dark brown hair that hung below her shoulders and wore sweats with a tight tank top and bare midriff that made it hard to avoid admiring her Survivor abs Her face was clear and beautiful which made it easy to miss the fear in her eyes. Adrianna was tough. She grew up in Bed-Sty and never took shit from anybody. Once in her junior year in high school, on the subway returning from a football game, a guy in her algebra class started squeezing her thigh. She dumped her hot latte on him and punched him hard in the face.

Reclaiming Your Vitality: One Woman's Journey

Reclaiming Your Vitality: One Woman's Journey

So I've chosen to share my journey back to vitality in the hopes that it might inspire some, motivate others, and to encourage my own accountability by publically sharing my vulnerabilities with respect to health and fitness. Generally speaking I am well.  I am also not as healthy or fit as I would like to be.  Also, as we age, we lose muscle mass, elasticity of the skin, certain types of vitamins and minerals become more scarce in the body.  I am a woman in my 40's (yes I said it) and in this stage of life entering Perimenopause and that has created man

Senior Dating: Is It For You?

Senior Dating: Is It For You?

In this day and age, there are women that are getting married and divorced at all different ages. There are particular challenges that older women face. It can be harder for older women because they’ve been in their marriage for so long and it does take longer. The longer the marriage is, the longer the recovery period usually.  A lot of times, women, older women don’t feel so attractive and they feel like they’re not going to be attractive to men and that’s probably not true.