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5 Steps To Resolving Conflicts In Intimate Relationships

5 Steps To Resolving Conflicts In Intimate Relationships

It may seem obvious to some, but not all, that the best relationships are ones born out of trust and vulnerability.  Each partner approaches one another as an equal. The relationship does not drain its participants; instead it nourishes. Differences between partners are complementary. These differences are advantageous and desirable and do not create a hindrance to the relationship; instead they contribute to its growth.

Reclaiming Your Vitality - The Journey

Reclaiming Your Vitality - The Journey

I realize that good health takes practice each and every moment of each and every day. I realize that vitality is a spiritual and emotional state as much as it is physical and mental. I realize that my definition of vitality is different that yours and that I should live into my definition and no one else's; not Dr. Oz, not Oprah, not Iyanla Vanzant, Halle Berry, Beyoncé, Angelina Jolie, Sandra Bullock or even Jillian Michaels can tell me how I should look or feel. I realize that this is going to take work.

The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds

The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds

I received the following in an email: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had  driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all.

After the Breakup, Change Up Your Playlist To Put On A Happy Face

After the Breakup, Change Up Your Playlist To Put On A Happy Face

What do Lucinda Williams’ Essence, Annie Lennox’s "Bare" and Steely Dan’s "Everything Must Go," have in common?  They're all breakup CDs that came out roughly around the time of my divorce.  Perhaps gray skies were gonna clear up, but in the meantime, I had to have them.  I’m not even sure I knew why when I bought them.  Warren Zevon’s "The Wind" is not a breakup CD, unless you count the fact that he was dying, kind of a breakup with the universe. I had to have that one too.

How do I know if I’m drinking too much?

How do I know if I’m drinking too much?

It’s easy to slip into the alcohol habit; alcohol abuse causes several problems that get in the way of health and well-being. A simple rule of thumb is to answer these two questions; • Do you drink alcohol every day? • Do you remember the last day you did not have a drink? If the answers are “yes” to the first question and “no” to the second, you need to be aware you have a potential problem. There are other symptoms, too, but we’ll come to those in a moment.

Never go to the Opposite Sex for Relationship Advice

Never go to the Opposite Sex for Relationship Advice

Have you ever had a relationship where your partner has gone behind your back and talked about you and your relationship with them to one of their friends, who just happened to be of the opposite sex? I have had this happen on numerous occasions. I still cannot fathom why this happens and why partners think this is the best way to get advice about your relationship. Never go to the opposite sex for relationship advice, especially if you are seeking advice from another woman!

Communicate About Commitment Without Scaring Him Away

Communicate About Commitment Without Scaring Him Away

It’s the “C” word that so many people dread talking about. (We’re not referring to a disease that’s the subject of a popular tv series, by the way.) At some point when you’ve been dating, hanging out, having fun and possibly sleeping together too, you might start to wonder. You wonder whether it’s okay for you to spend the night at his place as often as you do.