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27 Years Of Dating Lesson #1 Stepping Forward Is Not Stepping Up

27 Years Of Dating Lesson #1 Stepping Forward Is Not Stepping Up

That's right. You read it correctly. I dated for 27 years—starting with the lifeguard at camp when I was 15 (which, looking back was rather scandalous. . . he was 19 and on staff!) until I married the love of my life at 42. Add 'em up. That's 27 years. So I definitely know a thing or two about the dating scene.  Over coffee with a friend, I mentioned the idea for this series. She was like, "Twenty-seven years? That's longer than most marriages!" Yep, she nailed it. My relationship with dating went the distance.

Want More and Better Sex?

Want More and Better Sex?

This guest article from Psych Central was written by Linda and Charlie Bloom If you haven’t read the latest research about the sexual habits of American marrieds and singles, you are probably among the majority of people who have the belief that singles are having a lot more sex than folks who are married. Well guess what. They’re not.

15 Guidelines for Successful Intimate Relationships

15 Guidelines for Successful Intimate Relationships

1) Honor Your Feelings. We are feeling, sensing beings. Feel your feelings fully. Work actively to remove any barriers to feelings that arise within you. We have a logical brain whose main objective is to survive and be ‘right’ and it sometimes fools us and gets in the way of what we truly want. Get out of your own way. Express how you are feeling using ‘I’ language. No one can force you to feel anything – you are responsible for the way you choose to feel.

Are You A Bystander to Bullying?

Are You A Bystander to Bullying?

If you have found yourself observing the behavior of a bully (or a bullying relationship) and not acted, then you are not only supporting this vicious cycle, but you are feeding it. A bully needs supporters to make him/herself feel powerful.  So, even if you are not the person who is actively bullying someone, you are still playing an active role in the process.  Not only are you allowing someone to be physically or verbally abused, but your very presence provides support to the aggressor. 

5 WAYS TO REBOUND FROM A FIGHT

5 WAYS TO REBOUND FROM A FIGHT

1. KINDLY ACKNOWLEDGE After a period of time you first want to briefly kindly acknowledge (to yourself) what happened. Let yourself think over what happened for no more than five minutes. Check in with yourself and see if there are deep wounds. Now bring a feeling of kindness towards yourself like you would as you comfort a child who misses their mother. Simply say, “it’s okay.” An example of how this may play out in your mind is: “I can’t believe he hurt me like that. And why did I have to say that hurtful thing to him?

We All Need A Dose Of Inspiration

We All Need A Dose Of Inspiration

We all need a sense of wonder and mystery in our lives. Sometimes a fast paced adventure movie or a good mystery read will satisfy that urge inside of ourselves. But sometimes we need to reach into the past and see that all through the centuries people have reported strange phenomenon, and of course, even miracles. Even dire predictions have not always come true! Stories from the past where people overcame negative predictions, whether by what appeared to be a miracle or by sheer will, can revitalize us and give us hope. And that is so important.

Conflict is hard… Resolution is SIMPLE

Conflict is hard… Resolution is SIMPLE

The SIMPLE Philosophy Several years ago, I met Tom Fentiman, a fellow mediator who made conflict resolution look easy.  He was a savvy, wise, and principled mediator, who solved disputes all over the world.  As my mentor, he taught me to use his process with great results. In this newsletter, I offer the six step SIMPLE approach to resolving conflicts excerpted from my POWW! books.  It is a method anyone can use to solve interpersonal, business, or other confounding conflicts. 

10 Reasons Why He Refuses to Wrap It Up

10 Reasons Why He Refuses to Wrap It Up

1. He thinks condoms reduce pleasure The number one reason for men refusing to wrap their willies is that they say it doesn’t have the same pleasurable sensation as going bare. This may very well be a true for a lot of men, however that’s no excuse to skip wearing a condom. Brands like Durex Natural Feeling Lubricated Condoms and Trojan Bareskin offer you and your lover the protection you need without compromising pleasure. 2. He is wearing the wrong size condom