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Mistake No. 3 After a Breakup: Thinking You're Undesirable

Mistake No. 3 After a Breakup: Thinking You're Undesirable

You broke up with your boyfriend, or you left your husband, because he cheated on you, or he was neglectful, hyper-critical and uncommunicative, or he physically or verbally abused you. You had a decent week without your partner around to repeatedly lie to you, berate you, or constantly tell you that you’re inept, overweight, aging and stupid.  And you want him back — WHY?

Say YES…then figure out the HOW later!

Say YES…then figure out the HOW later!

Say YES…then figure out the HOW later! I know you’ve heard that before…and you might be thinking “I already know that!” but are you LIVING it when it’s tough??? There’s an easy way to figure it out….when was the last time you said NO? When was the last time you knew you should do something, but you didn’t? When was the last time you chose not to ask for what you really wanted? Those are all ways that you are not saying YES and figuring out the HOW later! Ouch!

Dumpers and Dumpees: Part One

Dumpers and Dumpees: Part One

In every breakup there are two roles: the Dumper and the Dumpee. Put it another way, the person who actually says “I’m outta here” and the person who is left behind. Sometimes we try to save face by agreeing that yes, it’s over, when the other person says they’re leaving. But almost always there is one person who is the first to throw in the towel emotionally.

Regret, Shame, Compassion & Self-Forgiveness

Regret, Shame, Compassion & Self-Forgiveness

Facing any addiction is a tough business. Facing sex addiction or porn addiction can bring with it waves of shame, of regret. But there can be a gift in this. Learning to work with the shame, the regret can lead to a deeper understanding of compassion and self-forgiveness.  

Baby Boomer's Unite…We're not done yet!

Baby Boomer's Unite…We're not done yet!

Boomergal.me  We Boomers  weren’t  the norm and that's a good thing.  As a generation, we made a hugh impact on the world.  We  rocked the world awake, literally.  Through our large numbers and strong voices, we protested. Strange new music came on the  scene as a voice of a generation.

4 Ways to Have More Affectionate, Loving Relationships

4 Ways to Have More Affectionate, Loving Relationships

“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” ~Simone Weil This morning I was busy French pressing coffee for my husband and me. Everything was going great; I was happily humming along, looking forward to starting my day. My lovely husband came up behind me and bear hugged me gently.

The World According To Dunham

The World According To Dunham

Whether they're 20-, 30- or 60-something, my clients often bemoan the unfairness of life. They are frequently bemused, as in "I've been so good to him, how could he have lied to me for all that time?" or, "My boss has totally got it in for me…no reason whatsoever…I don't get it." They are shocked by the randomness.