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Why You Can't Buy Happiness (No Matter How Cute Those Shoes Are)

It's easy to believe that more money or more stuff will make you happier (until you have those things and still feel miserable). Your Tango Expert Debra Smouse gives some self love insight answering the age old question "can money buy happiness?" And if not, what do we need to invest in, instead?

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17 Happiness Truths From Love & Relationship Experts

Everyone wants to live a happy life but not everyone knows how (and isn’t it different for everyone?). To cut through the confusion, we asked our Your Tango experts to share their insights and wisdom about what it takes to find and sustain deep joy in life. From how differently the sexes handle unhappiness to which age demographic is kicking up their heels and smiling the most (didn’t see this one coming) -- the results of our survey are somewhat surprising.

21 Signs Of A Psychologically Abusive Relationship

21 Signs Of A Psychologically Abusive Relationship

Domestic violence is once again in the forefront of the news. This is in part due to abusive incidents with sports figures or celebrities that have become very public. Abuse is not always as obvious as being hit or shoved, called degrading names or cussed out.  In fact, it can very well be underhanded or subtle. You may find yourself feeling confused about the relationship, off balance or like you are “walking on eggshells” all the time.

Why Don’t Matchmakers Serve More Female Clients?

Why Don’t Matchmakers Serve More Female Clients?

As a relationship coach and professional matchmaker, I believe the work I do brings enormous benefits to both men and women looking for love and long term relationships.  Both men and women seek me out to try and find that special someone to complete their lives.  And it is both an honor and a privilege for me to work with them in this process.  But unfortunately, from the matchmaking side of my business, I’ve had to turn away hundreds of women who I know would not be ideal to work for to match them with their ideal mates.

5 Ways To Stop Being A People Pleaser

5 Ways To Stop Being A People Pleaser

For most of my life, I’ve been a people pleaser and took pride in being easy-going and flexible. But after my divorce, I became intensely aware of how I often gave too much in my marriage and was left feeling depleted. Although I’ve mostly recovered from this tendency, remnants of my former people pleasing self linger. Consequently, I’m on the lookout for situations where I’m likely to revert back to a pattern of approval seeking and to neglect my own needs. 

Why Can't Your Partner Talk About Feelings?

Why Can't Your Partner Talk About Feelings?

Emotions give us important information that we can use to better understand our needs, priorities and limits. We can use emotions to set boundaries and make decisions. “If you’re not authentically experiencing, expressing, and learning from your emotions, then that erodes trust, security, intimacy and closeness,” said Jared DeFife, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and relationship coach in Atlanta, Ga.

How to Behave Like a Grown-Up Through Your Midlife Divorce

How to Behave Like a Grown-Up Through Your Midlife Divorce

If you’re going through midlife divorce — or have gone through it — you’re not alone. Midlife divorce is skyrocketing. And the reasons for that are many. Chiefly, most of us are looking at longer lifespans than our ancestors and we’re not willing to live out those lives in complacent misery.

Take Mel's Love Land Pledge | For the #Next100 Days

Take Mel's Love Land Pledge | For the #Next100 Days

What would the world be like if Love always remained the answer, if 80% of the thoughts flying in the air were loving? Imagine the possibilities of peace, productivity and prosperity on the planet. It is time to find out. Take Mel’s Love Land pledge... For the #Next100 Days I am Going to Consider the Possibility there is Another Way…

The Reconciliation Cheat Sheet: Three Hints to Getting Him Back

The Reconciliation Cheat Sheet: Three Hints to Getting Him Back

If you’re like a lot of women, there’s a good chance that you’ve wondered “how to get my ex-boyfriend back.” Even when breakups are particularly devastating – or the guy is particularly douch-e-stating – this is a common query. In fact, “how to get my ex-boyfriend back” could practically be written on cartons of ice cream and bottles of wine. Following a breakup, asking the question is that normal.