If you are not talking openly about money, there are probably other things that are being avoided that then add to the widening distance between you and your spouse.
As you settle into a long-term relationship, you settle into its particular rhythm. Every relationship has one and every rhythm is unique to that relationship. Sometimes you will affect your relationship; sometimes life will impact its ebb and flow. Either way, you can be sure that your path will not be a smooth ride without any bumps or detours. Yours may look something like this—
One of the trends I dislike in our culture is the reluctance of people to take responsibility, or to respond with care to each other. In my counseling practice, I hear a lot of self-justification, mind-reading, defensiveness, blaming and complaining; which is why relationships, friendships, business connections and day-to-day living are not going well for that client. Their lives are not about trying to understand their own role in the problem, so they can deal with it effectively, but to push the responsibility off onto someone else, and avoid it.
Be kind to yourself today. Affirmations by themselves are not all that need to do to enact change within yourself, but are a wonderful enhancement to positive self-development. Positive parenting and feeling well and confident take conscious, daily effort. The conscious processing of perceived hurts and events helps clear out old habits, making way for new thoughts and ways of being.
This story comes from a recent excerpt from The Writer's Almanac published by Garrison Keillor. It's an inspiring story because it reveals how a gifted man used his feelings of shame to create something beautiful. We often use the story as a metaphor to encourage the men we work with to show their deeper feelings of shame and vulnerability to their lovers, something that's usually much harder for men to do than women.
Most women over 30 just aren't that open to going out to meet men after they've been running errands all day or working 10 hours straight. We'd rather curl up with a good book or the dog.
By Marcus Osborne, Dudeologist for GalTime.com Celebrity couples have been the target of admonition and admiration for years. The Jekyll and Hyde reaction to whatever the latest or hottest pop culture pairing happens to be is as over the top as ever. I’ve always theorized that these couples’ break up rates aren’t as dramatically different from the general population.