Articles by our experts in love, dating, sex and marriage
Mirrors and Teachers

Mirrors and Teachers

There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to not take what they say the wrong way, or use a little more patience around them, because their personalities or styles are quite different from mine. I find it worth the work, because our differences stretch me a bit, and enrich my life and understanding in ways that more similar people don’t.

Enlightened Interaction

Enlightened Interaction

You have more control over how people treat you than you may think.  If you have encountered difficult people in your life (and who has not?)  You may feel that you have little to no power over the situation. It is true that you cannot change these difficult people and the way they view the world.  It is also true, and very important to understand, that you are not responsible for these people’s hurtful behavior.  However, you can influence the behavior of others so that they treat you more respectfully.  You can have far more influence than comm

To My Sons: 20 Lessons for a Meaningful Life

To My Sons: 20 Lessons for a Meaningful Life

Author and artist Austin Kleon writes that when people give advice, they’re really just talking to themselves in the past. I’ll buy that. And, by midlife, there’s plenty of the past to draw from in the advice department. Because there are no do-overs (and how we sometimes wish there were), the closest we can come is to offer what we’ve learned to our children. 

What My College Sweetheart's Death Taught Me

What My College Sweetheart's Death Taught Me

                   What My College’s Sweetheart Death Taught Me 1)Get busy living or get busy dying. The choice is yours. Kathy, my college sweetheart’s death was untimely to me. Although I know such is not true. We all have an appointed time to live and die for which no man can pass.  When are we ever ready for death in our lives from people we love?  There are so many people who are alive,but not living.

The First Rule of Being a Great Lover

The First Rule of Being a Great Lover

We all know the script. You come back to your place with your date. The energy is right—you’ve got your hopes up. And so you turn on the music. You create the mood. Music and love—they go together like lips and lips (I’m thinking two pairs here). I don’t believe there are any statistics about this, but I’ll bet that if the date is romantic, more often than not there’s music in the background. It may be Bruno Mars for some and Barry White for others, but it’s ultimately all the same song: Soundtrack for Our Love.

Why Did Brangelina Get Married If They Were Already Committed?
He already had everything he wanted, or did he?

Why Did Brangelina Get Married If They Were Already Committed?

When Brad and Angelina started living together they believed they didn't need a little piece of paper to prove to the world they are going to be together forever. Many children and one serious health scare later, however, now they are married. They also stated that they wouldn't marry until everyone else could, throwing their mega-watt star power behind LGBT marriage right efforts. But they walked down the aisle anyway. So, what happened?

 A Man Needs Safety More Than Sex
If you want him to fall for you make opening up feel safe.

Want Him To Fall For You? Make Him Feel Safe

What makes a man fall for one woman and not another? She's the one who makes him feel accepted for who he is, warts and all. Unless you can create this safety with a man, he will not be able to let his guard down with you...and share the emotional intimacy required for a lasting relationship.