“Cheers to the perfect couple!” Heart-felt words like these can actually doom a relationship! Did you know that your well-meaning congratulations to a new couple could solidify dangerous myths about love?
Are you a “stick-a-rounder?” What’s a “stick-a-rounder?” David I hear you ask. Well a “stick-a-rounder” is someone who stays in a relationship even when its way past it’s sell by date. So many people do this. They get involved in a relationship where to begin with the positives and negatives are equal. The thing is, the relationship doesn’t truly satisfy their soul, and doesn’t make their heart sing. Trouble is, they stay in the relationship because it’s better than nothing.
In a recent study at the University of Virginia, people were asked to sit alone for a few minutes with no access to cell phones, books, or other distractions. In the room was a device that gave harmless but uncomfortable electric shocks. Everyone agreed to experience one shock at the beginning of the session. After feeling it, they all stated that, if necessary, they would give money to prevent more shocks. But additional shocks were optional. Participants were asked only to remain seated, to stay awake, and to entertain themselves with their thoughts for the next 15 minutes.
1 We don’t have to be so body conscious. Though many of us still are self-conscious, disdainful of excess weight or various parts of the body; we already know from life experience that the ability to attract a good sexual partner is less dependent on our body size and shape than we were led to believe. Also, there is leeway given by others because of age. It is assumed that our bodies are not in as good shape because we are older.
Understanding Boundaries: Learning How to Draw the “LINE”. In order for you to feel socially and emotionally integrated in your life, you may need to consider and re-define your boundaries. Just Draw the “LINE”. This involves: L Listen to the symptoms of burnout. I Identify ways you can take responsibility for change as it’s needed. N No is one of the only full sentence words in the English language.
I am making it on my own and having a very good time being single. It is no fun being with the wrong person. I have been second and third guessing myself. What did I miss? How did I not see? Loved ones tell me, don’t be so hard on yourself. I know, but still. At the end of the day, I picked a dick. I thought he was the right man, it felt right. What went wrong? (Does an old breakup sabotage you? Click Here)
"Never give up." "You don't want to be a quitter, do you?" "You've got to fight for your right to party." The above are all messages that we hear commonly in our society (minus the last one; I can't resist making musical references.) At the same time, there is a growing understanding of the value in "surrender" and "going with the flow." Spiritual
I actually had a reaction to thinking about this title. It sounds like it’s something we’d say in “Fantasy Land.” It may seem counterintuitive to even think that responding from a love is something that can be done in our age of chaos, uncertainty and escalating worldwide violent acts.
Talking about your relationship with a man may make you feel more connected, but it doesn't always work that way for him. Relationship Coach Christian Carter explains why and tells you how to truly create the kind of rock-solid connection a man longs for.
When learning how to get comfortable with quiet, Dr. Jamie Turndorf says the way to be happy is not to convert your condo into a convent. Instead, learn to create your own "pockets of peace" moments in order to tune out the world and dial down your conscious mind.