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When "should" you end your marriage?

When "should" you end your marriage?

How do you know when your marriage is over? This is a question asked by many who call our office and do searches on the internet for marriage help. Many experts and couples themselves (and maybe even you) think that it is possible for couples to simply grow apart and that alone is a valid reason for divorce. It makes sense why they (you) would think that there is no point to stay in relationship. After all, their marriage feels lifeless, boring, and that maybe their spouse is holding them back from a better life.

What you can’t stand in your spouse may be your own reflection.

What you can’t stand in your spouse may be your own reflection.

"My husband is controlling!” “My wife is driving me crazy!” What drives you crazy about your spouse? Do you have a judgment that your husband is controlling and cheap? Do you feel that your wife is impulsive and irresponsible? If you take a few moments to reflect on the very traits that you can’t stand in others, you may be able to see a valuable gift that will teach you a little more about yourself and help you experience great change in your relationship. Projection: An age-old defense

Are you guilty of comparing marriages?

Are you guilty of comparing marriages?

The good news is, if you’re guilty of comparing marriages, know that looks can be deceiving. You’d never know from our recent photo shoot that we couldn’t wait for it to end. Between the baby crying and the other kids trying to run away, we couldn’t wait for the photo shoot to be done. But when the pictures came out beautifully, we realized how easy it is for people to compare marriages to others’ even when we have no idea what is going on behind closed doors!

I'm in a Healthy Relationship and I Hate it!

I'm in a Healthy Relationship and I Hate it!

Recently I received the following note from a reader: So the story about the woman who was in the marriage for 13 years and she hated her husband and realized she was secretly into rejection...Yeah, I get that. But I turned the corner, went to therapy, etc…. and now find myself in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP for the first time EVER with a HEALTHY fella and I hate it. LOL.

17 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic and 5 Steps to Fix It

17 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic and 5 Steps to Fix It

Toxic relationships come in various shapes and sizes, but the end result is always that they diminish you instead of building you up. It could be that you get along like oil and water or that the other person is not a nice person. Toxic doesn’t always mean evil or abusive, but lots of things on this list are indeed evil and abusive. Either way, wrong is wrong. Here are 17 signs that your relationship is damaging and that changes need to be made.

Mastering the Basics of Body Language

Mastering the Basics of Body Language

Believe it or not, most communication is nonverbal. Are you really saying what you think you’re saying? If you often find that people misunderstand you, perhaps your body language is communicating different thoughts than what your voice is saying! Mastering your body language can strengthen your communications and help you make a better impression in all kinds of social and professional settings. Facial expressions, hand gestures, and posture all communicate certain meanings.

Don't Disqualify Yourself from Love

Don't Disqualify Yourself from Love

In love as in life, you might miss out on great things by making faulty assumptions. As my dear friend Tita once told me: “Don’t disqualify yourself; let others do that for you.” In this context, you might be worried that the wonderful, exotic, interesting person in front of you would never be interested in a schlub like you. And maybe they aren’t interested. But maybe, just maybe, they could get interested. This is an easy point to make, but sometimes it’s hard not to disqualify yourself out of the fear of rejection.

5 Good Reasons Kids Should Do Chores

5 Good Reasons Kids Should Do Chores

5 Good Reasons Kids Should Do Chores Research has shown that only 28% of children today are asked to do chores, a figure that is in sharp contrast to what their parents experienced, 82% of whom were expected to help out at home when they were children. Why is there such a marked decrease?  Is it a positive change or are we doing our children a dis- service? Does asking children to help around the house help or hinder their development?