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Give Names to Our Happy Times

Give Names to Our Happy Times

Rabbi Pliskin in one of his messages suggests giving names to our positive states of being so we can remember them more easily later.  I think this is a great idea.  In fact, that is the main reason that I came up with the title, THE ENCHANTED SELF, so women would begin to recognize when they are happy and call it by a name, THE ENCHANTED SELF, so they would not let these times just slip by.  And it has worked very well.  Women write to me and tell me that they had an Enchanted Sel

Authentic Love

Authentic Love

Since seeking a partner is a natural part of the human experience, it makes sense to focus on love. It is one thing to play the game by yourself, but when you add a partner, learning opportunities multiply exponentially. With a partner in the equation, one and one equal three: your own experience, your partner's, and the experiences shared by the two of you. Entering the arena of love provides you and your partner with an entirely

What We Can Do When Our Heroes Fail Us

What We Can Do When Our Heroes Fail Us

Where have all our heroes gone? Who knew Robin Williams was depressed? Who realized that so many celebrity and athletes’ wives were abused? And now,  comedian, educator and television icon Bill Cosby is alleged to have slipped date rape drugs into beautiful women’s cappuccinos. Our heroes’ stories have often ended in tragedy for them, and for us, as long as humans have graced the earth. As ancient playwright Sophocles’ tragic hero Oedipus Rex puts it:  “They are dying…. Nowhere Apollo’s glory now.

A Word About Grief At The Holidays

A Word About Grief At The Holidays

The Christmas before my friend and soul sister  Laura Schmidt died, she gave me back my plant. Actually, she gave me back some shoots from my original plant, which had evolved from another shoot off its parent plant circa 1978. The office assistant at my first job had given it to me when I admired it. The plant had lived through a lot in its various incarnations, including the breadth and depth of Laura’s and my entire friendship. 

How To Solve Your Biggest Holiday Dating Dilemmas

How To Solve Your Biggest Holiday Dating Dilemmas

You’ve met someone amazing, its going really well but it’s still early and along comes the holiday season, bringing up all kinds of questions. What’s a dater to do? This time of year can be so much fun for a couple but it can add a layer of anxiety if it’s still fairly new and you’re unsure of etiquette and each other’s expectations. Here are the top 3 dating questions I get asked from those in the early stages of a relationship around the holidays and how to deal with them.

4 Ways a Therapist Can Help You in Your Day-to-Day Life

4 Ways a Therapist Can Help You in Your Day-to-Day Life

“But, I’m not crazy. How can you help me if you’re a therapist?” I get asked this question ALL THE TIME. I don’t know where the idea started that you have to be losing your mind to go to therapy, (although you can be!) but you don’t have to be!! Here are four reasons why a therapist can help you in your day-to-day life and why it’s even better to see someone when there isn’t a crisis going on.

4 Ways of Communicating in a Relationship

4 Ways of Communicating in a Relationship

While on a recent business trip, I treated myself to dinner at a nice restaurant. I couldn’t help but notice the couple sitting nearby. They were married to each other, but other than the rings on their fingers and the man calling his wife “honey” once or twice, I didn’t see any other evidence of closeness.

Quality vs. Quantity: 4 Reasons Numbers Will Never Make Us Happy

Quality vs. Quantity: 4 Reasons Numbers Will Never Make Us Happy

Here's what will make us content.  My clients come seeking happiness and prosperity. They think they have a block to abundance that can be quantified, like lack of time, or money. They must lose so many pounds. They need to meet x-number of deadlines by COB. They must achieve y-number of specific goals in just so much time. Yet they soon realize what they are truly missing:  Quality, not time or money. Quality—not Quantity—is what makes us happy and fulfilled.