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Relationships: The Power of Goodwill

Relationships: The Power of Goodwill

Research into good marriages indicates that the most important choice healthy couples make is to have goodwill toward each other. This may seems like a simple requirement, yet many couples have anything but goodwill toward each other. Instead, they make it far more important to: • Attempt to control each other with criticism, judgments, blame, anger, resistance, withdrawal or compliance.

“I Feel Overwhelmed”

“I Feel Overwhelmed”

I often hear from my clients that they feel overwhelmed. Generally, feeling overwhelmed means one of three things: • Overwhelmed by their feelings • Overwhelmed by time pressures • Overwhelmed by how to do things ‘right’ The feeling of overwhelm is generally caused by how we are treating ourselves and what we are telling ourselves. Peter

The Moment of Choice – To Love or React

The Moment of Choice – To Love or React

All of us have "triggers" that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you into your fear or anxiety. Are you triggered by:

4 Ways to Deal with a Non-responsive Online Contact

4 Ways to Deal with a Non-responsive Online Contact

You’re communicating online with someone at a remote location, and suddenly, the person doesn’t respond anymore. Was it your mistake? Did you say something wrong that turned them off? How do you know what went wrong? These tips below will clue you in on what to do and how to resolve the situation, and finding a soulmate will be that much easier. Stop Communicating

Rocks and Mountains

Rocks and Mountains

“What are men to rocks and mountains?” —Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice Love is so much sweeter when we put it into perspective – when we don’t imbue our lovers with too much responsibility for our own sense of fulfillment or meaning or self-definition. It can be difficult (but perhaps not as difficult as we often think) to let go of how our spouses are not meeting our needs, and love them nonetheless.

Breaking Up? Don't Take it Personally

Breaking Up? Don't Take it Personally

Doesn’t it feel good to get a compliment? It kind of brightens your day, right? But guess what… don’t take it personally, because that compliment has nothing to do with you. “Huh,” you ask? Let’s say you are standing in line at the grocery store check-out and you notice the woman standing in front of you has an awesome Michael Kors bag. You may say to her, “Wow, I love your bag!” – but most likely, you are saying that to her because in that moment, you are feeling good, and you may be in a good mood.

Money, Power and Marriage

Money, Power and Marriage

Lately I’ve been thinking about the subject of money as it relates to marriage, especially when couples discover that trouble arises in their relationships. Sure, things might sound all lovey-dovey and good in the beginning, during the throes of passionate meeting and amore, but what happens if the inevitable changes of life shift the balance of power in the union?

The Key to Living Without Regrets

The Key to Living Without Regrets

“I just don’t know what to do,” I lamented to one of my oldest college friends, Kristy.  “Do I stay in California or do I move to Austin?”  “Well,” she asked pragmatically, “in six months would you regret more staying or going?” 

10 Lyrics That Make Us Wish Taylor Swift Was Our Dating Coach
She's got some great dating insight.

10 Lyrics That Make Us Wish Taylor Swift Was Our Dating Coach

Even if you're not crazy about Taylor Swift, the girl's got tons of dating experience. It's no surprise that her lyrics are full of dating do's and don'ts that everyone should keep in mind. Find out if you should stick with your current relationship or if it's time to "Shake If Off."