Research into good marriages indicates that the most important choice healthy couples make is to have goodwill toward each other. This may seems like a simple requirement, yet many couples have anything but goodwill toward each other. Instead, they make it far more important to: • Attempt to control each other with criticism, judgments, blame, anger, resistance, withdrawal or compliance.
I often hear from my clients that they feel overwhelmed. Generally, feeling overwhelmed means one of three things: • Overwhelmed by their feelings • Overwhelmed by time pressures • Overwhelmed by how to do things ‘right’ The feeling of overwhelm is generally caused by how we are treating ourselves and what we are telling ourselves. Peter
All of us have "triggers" that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you into your fear or anxiety. Are you triggered by:
You’re communicating online with someone at a remote location, and suddenly, the person doesn’t respond anymore. Was it your mistake? Did you say something wrong that turned them off? How do you know what went wrong? These tips below will clue you in on what to do and how to resolve the situation, and finding a soulmate will be that much easier. Stop Communicating
“What are men to rocks and mountains?” —Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice Love is so much sweeter when we put it into perspective – when we don’t imbue our lovers with too much responsibility for our own sense of fulfillment or meaning or self-definition. It can be difficult (but perhaps not as difficult as we often think) to let go of how our spouses are not meeting our needs, and love them nonetheless.
Doesn’t it feel good to get a compliment? It kind of brightens your day, right? But guess what… don’t take it personally, because that compliment has nothing to do with you. “Huh,” you ask? Let’s say you are standing in line at the grocery store check-out and you notice the woman standing in front of you has an awesome Michael Kors bag. You may say to her, “Wow, I love your bag!” – but most likely, you are saying that to her because in that moment, you are feeling good, and you may be in a good mood.
Lately I’ve been thinking about the subject of money as it relates to marriage, especially when couples discover that trouble arises in their relationships. Sure, things might sound all lovey-dovey and good in the beginning, during the throes of passionate meeting and amore, but what happens if the inevitable changes of life shift the balance of power in the union?
“I just don’t know what to do,” I lamented to one of my oldest college friends, Kristy. “Do I stay in California or do I move to Austin?” “Well,” she asked pragmatically, “in six months would you regret more staying or going?”
The relationship is new, you're excited, and sharing your thoughts and feelings seems like a great way to build connection. Turns out, too much chatter at the start of new love can be a serious turn off. YourTango Expert Ronnie Ann Ryan, The Dating Coach, explains.
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