"Love is not a contract between two narcissists. It's more than that. It's a construction that compels the participants to go beyond narcissism. In order that love lasts one has to reinvent oneself.” –French Philosopher Alain Badiou Resentment and anger in relationships often stem from utter dismay at how your spouse could have possibly done what they did. You just can't understand it – you never would have done such a thing. Here are a few scenarios as examples:
Solo sex is safe, fun and good for you? What? Absolutely, read on: Scientists are putting women in CAT scan machines and then allowing them to stimulate themselves to orgasm. (Where can I volunteer for that!) What they are finding is astounding. The entire woman's brain lights up during the Big O. Blood flows through the body and brings floods of oxygen and fabulous brain chemistry to play.
A little girl was mean to my toddler on the playground. I am not proud of what happened next, but let's just say I crossed a line. I was a real a**hole to a 6-year-old girl.
The last few weeks I have read several books that have encouraged some self-reflection and the issue of bullying. Bullying at one time was most commonly seen in kids at school. More recently the Internet has incited cyber bullying, and the more traditional schoolyard torments have transcended to an inescapable virtual hell. Upon deeper contemplation, I realized I was bullied in many ways, and at times I was a bully to others.
How can a regular guy attract women? Stan is an intelligent, attractive and kind man who wants to be in a committed relationship. His biggest challenge has been that he believes he's not interesting enough to attract women. "I'm just an ordinary guy. I go to work every day. I like to go out to eat on weekends, dance a couple of nights a week and watch the Giants." He told me in a recent coaching session.
As I was posting a note to the ladies in the Healthy Relationship Challenge tonight, I thought I’d share the post in a blog for your value as well. Sometimes things can feel stale in your dating life. Perhaps, you are online dating and online dating and online dating, hoping for different results. Here are some new and fresh ideas to try, if things are starting to feel stale, boring or stuck in your dating life.
You don't have to be old for sex to be painful. There is a huge misunderstanding about who and why so many are experiencing the problem. When the topic arises, I constantly hear, "well I’m not that age so I don’t need to worry". Sexual pain affects 15-30 million women according to the Women’s Health Organization and up to 43% of women will be affected by sexual pain during their lifetime. That’s almost one in two women and it’s not necessarily because of hormonal imbalance associated with menopause.
If you haven't been through it yet consider yourself lucky! After the initial elation of being engaged or married wears off, we find ourselves facing the reality that merging financially can be very one-sided. In an ideal world both partners will come into the relationship with little to no debt, no history, ex's, child support, and both financially stable enough to succeed on their own on any given day. However, life throws us curve balls! So should we share everything?
You can’t think straight, you can’t sleep, you can’t eat or you eat too much, you keep asking yourself why, how, when and where did this happen? You’ve been cheated on by the man you thought was the love of your life. You want the relationship to continue but how?
There are a lot of reasons why women remain single these days and many are happy to do so. Unfortunately, other people often view single women with pity or misunderstanding. They think single women sit home every night eating Ben and Jerry’s by the gallon, feeling lonely and miserable. But studies show that single people actually have more active lives than married people; they're more likely to go out, be involved in their communities, join groups, have more friends and be more social.