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Week #15: New Mom = No Sex Drive

Week #15: New Mom = No Sex Drive

It makes sense then that many new moms feel they have a low libido and search for a ‘magic pill’ to help get them feeling sexual and sexy. In fact, every year millions of women spend billions of dollars on spurious libido enhancement pills, creams and other unproven treatments.

Healthy Mind Set For Higher Awareness

Developing a healthy mind set is crucial if you would like to have higher awareness in your life. This begins with looking holistically at an individual and all of the aspects that make up the Whole person they are: physical body, mind, emotions, soul/spirit. Choosing healthy lifestyle choices such as eating clean, organic diet of fish, lean meats, fresh vegetables and fruits, nuts and healthy fats. Choosing to exercise daily through walking, strength training or finding a creative movement that feels good to you. Choosing to think positive thoughts and keeping free of negative thoughts, letting go of anger, worry, fear. Choosing to nourish our soul through allowing self-reflection time daily, reading something that is spiritual to you or a meditative walk. All of these lifestyle choices can help to support a healthy state of mind, however when the following elements are practiced in your life, you can experience a higher awareness: Acceptance/Awareness

Top 5 Signs He Could Be The One

Top 5 Signs He Could Be The One

Think your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right? Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory of who you’re dating. Before you upgrade Mr. Next to Mr. Right status, you’ll want to ensure you’re reading his signals correctly. See how many of the following 5 essential Mr. Right traits your Mr. Next possesses.

Turning Your Love Luck Around

Turning Your Love Luck Around

When it comes to love, outside of arranged marriages, I don’t believe in luck. To believe in luck you have to believe in the converse. I refuse to believe that Cupid either randomly, karmically, maliciously or otherwise, chooses chosen ones, like a powertripping bouncer at a NY club, to be blessed with the powers of love, leaving the unchosen to sulk in misery as they unknowingly travel a winding path on a quest to eternal loneliness. Nope, I won’t accept that. So while there may not be such a thing as being unlucky in love (removing one more option from your list of explanations offered up to the nagging coupled up population in rebuttal as to why you are still single), there is such a thing as being unopen to love, stupid about love or unavailable in love:

Help! My Ex Wants to Be Sex Buddies

Help! My Ex Wants to Be Sex Buddies

Many women can have a one night stand or a sex buddy without any emotional complications. However, no-strings-attached-sex can be more tricky when it comes to an ex.Here’s some things to think about before hopping into the sack.

The 12 "Ifs" Every Gay Man Must Know About Life

As a Gay Life Coach for gay men, I help guys deal with the "ifs," "ands" and "buts" of life. They are opportunity (ifs), possibility (ands) and uncertainty (buts.) I've developed a list of "if" statements over the years to help make life—surprisingly—a little less "iffy." Here are 12 to get you started: 1. If you think of your body as a device for controlling energy - generating, storing and expending it - you can do truly amazing things with your physical self. 2. If you practice acceptance, responsibility and defenselessness, your life will unfold effortlessly. 3. If you replace your wishbone with your backbone, you will expand beyond measure. Dreaming is critical, but bravery and action are vital. 4. If you move through discomfort, your life will catapult forward. Trust that what's on the other side is better. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Finding Your Authentic Voice

So often, people are careful to not offend anyone with their comments or opinions. What is so bad about disagreeing with someone? Respectful communication doesn't mean we always agree. Censoring everything we say, so as to not offend, is one of the ways we become exhausted. "Mary" was raised in a family where the unspoken rule was "don't make waves". She is a smart, funny and talented woman. When I met her, she had many ideas that she has never shared with her husband. Mary and her husband "Dave" came to see me because they had become empty nesters. With their children gone, they found things awfully quiet between them. Mary felt sad and alone. Dave said he wished he knew how to "make her happy".

Made a mistake? Celebrate!

Are you ever afraid to make a mistake? Do you beat yourself up when you do? "Lindsey" came to me very discouraged. She had put so much effort into applying to art school, building a portfolio, having it photographed, and completing the application for each school. After her first year in college she realized that she had chosen the wrong school, perhaps the wrong major. She was lonely and stressed. Her grades were poor and she no longer enjoyed drawing, something she had always loved. Lindsey's words spilled out about all the things she had done wrong and all the time and money she had wasted. Finally, she said "It was all a big mistake. I am such a loser!" It took some work over a few weeks for Lindsey to see some benefit to all the things she had done, even to having gone to art school at all. She chose to take some time off, work and explore her interests. She took a class at the Junior College in her other love, writing.

A Fairy Tale for Modern Times

Why does dinner at your house resemble feeding time at the zoo? Why is it so difficult to get your kids and husband to all sit down at the same time and share a peaceful meal?