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Unbreakable! 3 Ways to Bounce Back After A Relationship Ends

Unbreakable! 3 Ways to Bounce Back After A Relationship Ends

Jack pulled into his driveway like every other day and nothing looked unusual – until he opened his front door and found an empty house. No furniture. No Plants. Even the cat and fish were gone.   “And that was my damn cat!’ he thought to himself.   He knew he had not been robbed, because no self respecting burglar would take the cheap pictures off the wall. He had been having problems with his wife, but this… he never saw coming.  

Certification, Certificate, or Just Plain Certifiable?

Certification, Certificate, or Just Plain Certifiable?

With coaching having become such a fast growing field over the past decade, there's a lot of information out there about coach training and certification, and it can be a bit confusing. Let's see if we can sort out a few things. Certification - A certification program is one that requires you to complete a program that has an established set of core competencies; that evaluates you on your proficiency within these competencies; that has been audited by an accrediting agency; and that requires the institute delivering the program to be approved as

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Don't Let Attraction Blind You To Dating Dealbreakers

When you find someone with whom you share a strong sense of attraction and connection, you're apt to feel compelled to dive into a relationship. Tessa, a stunning 48-year-old client, was reeling with disappointment over her last break-up. She told me that she knew he was the one after their first date. I soon discovered that he wasn't the only Mr. Right who had loved and left her. A strong feeling of attraction often propelled her into premature relationships with men who she hadn't known for long.

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How Control Cuts Off Communication

What do you really mean when you say, "We can't communicate?" The trick is understanding what you mean by the word "communicate." All too often, when a partner says, "we can't communicate," what he or she means is "I can't get my partner to listen to me and understand things from my point of view." And underneath this, they may be saying, "If my partner only understood things through my eyes, he or she would change and do things my way." So, what partners often mean when they say, "We can't communicate," is "I want to control my partner but he or she won't listen."

Break Up Boot Camp

Break Up Boot Camp

Getting through a break up can be incredibly difficult. It is one of the most common reasons that people decide to seek therapy. That said, if you are broken-hearted, you probably have a lot you can learn from the awful feelings you are experiencing. My work as a therapist consistently confirms that what matters most is not how we respond to our successes, it's how we respond to our disappointments.

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Understanding Stress & How To Manage It

What is stress? Stress seems to seethe all around us — you read about it in the newspapers and magazines, hear about it on TV, Google it online. There appears to be a consensus out there: stress is hazardous to your health and well-being. But stress is seldom defined. They tell you to avoid it, that you need to "de-stress" your life, but only rarely does anyone tell you just how to do that. So you worry — you even stress about having stress — rather than doing something about it. After all, what in the world can you do?

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The Monogamy Myth: Nothing Lasts Forever

Recently, I heard this line in a movie, "You're just horny and afraid of being abandoned," in reference to a girl who was pining away for a boy who did not appear to love her back. The statement struck me, to say the least. Obviously true for many people, myself included, I began to wonder if our fear of being abandoned is somehow contributing to this whole myth of monogamy or is it the myth of monogamy that is causing us to feel abandoned?

Depression: Step-by-step plan for getting back the spark of joy

Depression: Step-by-step plan for getting back the spark of joy

Have you been suffering from depression and feeling hopeless?  Have you tried but don’t know how to change these feelings?  Are you wishing for something, some “guiding light,” some technique, anything that’s will help you to get out from under the dark spell of depression?  I want you to know that here is hope !  I have a step-by-step plan of actions for you to take.  They are it easy to follow, because I know that when you are depressed it’s difficult to concentrate or to have energy to even read a short a