This guest article from Psych Central was written by Danielle B. Klotzkin, MFT. We make ourselves crazy trying to figure it out. We look for signs and ask psychics. We go over it again and again in conversations with ourselves and with our friends: "Is this the right relationship for me?"
Well, it is that time of year again! Many of you around the world are beginning to think about holiday gift-giving. I believe that some issues in our lives come up over and over and that helpful reminders are timeless. The holidays can be a confusing time for those who are "just" dating. There are so many considerations and questions that arise. Gifts:
The holiday season is supposed to be a time to spend relaxing meals and converse with family and friends. After all, that’s what we see in movies and TV shows, isn’t it? Not every family’s holiday dinner looks like a Norman Rockwell painting. For many, holiday dinners can mean stressful family get-togethers and controlling in-laws. How do you survive this difficult period of time?
I recently wrote an article entitled, “Compatibility: 11 Point Checklist Challenge” (http://www.yourtango.com/proconnect/201064124/dating-compatibility-11-po...). I deliberately left the category of sexual compatibility off my checklist. My rationale for doing so hinges on one reason: the topic of sex and sexual compatibility deserves a separate, more in-depth discussion.
Eight years of on and off dating. Public scrutiny at every step that would be enough to drive anyone batty. The daunting prospect of negotiating both a public and personal life together. And yet Kate Middleton hung in there with her real life prince. Finally, while the couple is on vacay in Kenya, Prince William pops the question. One wonders, what were the inner workings of the relationship that made it all work out? Just how did the couple go from casual to committed?
I am so pooped! It has been a great week filled with many things accomplished and a lot of running around, so I am so happy a new week is about to start! Sometimes we have so much on our plate, though we check off quite a few things, there are more that linger. I also still have more to check off of my list from last week, some of them I have not felt like doing at all, and this constant state of overwhelm sometimes keeps us stagnant enough to trickle into our love life.
As an Imago therapist, this is one of my favorite subjects. What is the powerful initial attraction all about? Why can 50 potential partners cross your radar at gatherings, parties, or just going through daily life, and then that one special person shows up and you feel like you just took a strong drug? Why do you feel more alive perhaps than at any point in your life?
Are you looking to say "I Do"? I hope you're saying Yes to yourself first with all the glitz and glam life has to offer. There's nothing wrong if the word glamour is synonymous with your name. I think Sheila E. started it with her classic 1984 hit, The Glamorous Life.
We are the ones holding tight to our man’s hands, or flashing our wedding bands/engagement rings as we pass. Yes, everyone knows that we are involved and that someone loves us. That’s not even to question. We are in relationships with good men, and we are proud of them! We have so much for which to be thankful, yet we are becoming more and more lackadaisical—lazy! We are all too comfortable wearing his pajamas and t-shirts on Thursdays, laying on the couch all day on Fridays, going straight to sleep at night on Saturdays, and wearing our head scarf ALL day on Sundays.