I think the first thing to recognize and understand is that a long term relationship, arrangement or marriage is a choice, a commitment one makes not just to their partner, but also to themselves to adhere to the rules and guidelines of the relationships as is determined by the couple together.
Can you believe that it is the middle of the year! Summer is upon us and it is hot, hot, hot! I remember the summers of my youth in North Carolina, with no air conditioning, with fans in the ceiling and window. Staying inside wasn’t an option so I spent many days outside on the porch or running up and down the street. Looking back on it, summer didn’t seem as hot then. We’d have ice water and sometimes lemonade to keep us cool. The living was easy!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the basic philosophical difference between people who think in terms of “either/or” and those who think in terms of “both/and”. The latter is the (albeit in its most simplistic form) basis of Tantric philosophy. In a non-dual world view such as Tantra, either/or doesn’t usually make sense. Either/or supports a belief that one must choose between two things; as if the world were not infinitely abundant with enough room for “both”.
Buster was always there. Our family companion throughout my childhood, Buster somehow found his way in all the pictures and videos from birthdays and holidays now decades back. The Black lab who aged alongside me, went from an energized, playful puppy in the backyard to a sedentary, reliable presence when I returned home every day from school. Life was unknown without Buster who loved doggy treats, loved walks, and most importantly loved us.
Summer is here, and with it comes ideas of lemonade, hammocks on the beach, the breeze blowing through your hair, sounds of the ocean and better sex. What, better sex? Yes, you need to take a break for your marriage. A vacation is good for the heart, soul and your sex life. Most of the recent polls I’ve read reinforce the fact that two thirds of all married couples report having better sex on vacation than they do at home.
Us women know that when it comes to one-night stands, there's always a chance that the guy we choose will be sexually selfish - he'll only be interested in his own sexual satisfaction and couldn't care less about the woman's. Case in point, my client, Shelley. Last week, she went over to a man’s house with nothing but great sex (for both of them) on her agenda.
Tired of nagging, fighting, and blaming your children to get their chores done? You want to have your children clean their room, help around the house, and pick-up after themselves without fighting. Children need support and reminders, yet you are tired of reminding them and nagging. So what's a parent to do? Create a chore chart!
We've all been there. Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl. Boy takes girl to dinner. Boy and girl enjoy a delicious courtship filled with weekend brunches, impressive candle-lit dinners and double spoons for dessert. We love this period don't we? Exploring fancy restaurants and putting on our chef's hat to prepare that impossible dinner that even Ina Garten would applaud.
Here's the thing about sex: it's different for every woman. The way we think about it, talk about it, do it or choose not to do it is unique to pretty much every single one of us. Some girls are adamant about only having one partner their whole lives. Some of us see it as sacred, only to be shared within committed relationships, while others are more free and look at various partners as forms of sexual exploration or ways to get to know themselves. And, there are those of us who see it as just plain fun, no strings attached.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsy, M.S. Conflict gets a bad rap. We automatically assume that conflict will collapse a relationship. Some of us avoid conflict like the plague, thinking that if we close our eyes to a potential clash, it doesn’t exist.