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The Synergy of Mind, Body, Spirit, and Attracting Lasting Love

The Synergy of Mind, Body, Spirit, and Attracting Lasting Love

The sweetest love you have ever known is waiting for you. You have everything you need to create it, attract it, and allow it into your life. The next step is to tap into your internal resources, and create the love you have always wanted. Not sure how to do that? Mind: When you think about how your thoughts influence the quality of relationships you attract, and are attracted to, what comes up for you? What do you say to yourself quietly or out loud about having the love relationship you want, and has not shown up yet?

The Salve of Love

The Salve of Love

I had a sensory overload last night – of the welcomed kind. The TSO (Trans-Siberian Orchestra) entertained me, enthralled me, and saturated every cell of my body with their holiday extravaganza. The rapturous music was accompanied by dazzling lights, psychedelic lasers, fog, and fire (the real, hot kind). Mother Nature must have been there, as we were sprinkled with snow flakes – the kind big enough to catch and feel a second of cold before the thaw. The kid in me wanted to stick out my tongue and run through the aisles catching every one.

5 Ways to Unwrap Your Holiday Honey

5 Ways to Unwrap Your Holiday Honey

Yep, the holidays are here. It’s December 23—the work day is ending early, the final bows are getting tied and the fruitcakes are being boxed to regift. Ha! 

If your holiday haze is getting thicker and heavier, here are a few ways to release the ho hum and bring back the wow! For this to work, you’ll need your holiday honey.



Learning to Trust & Stop Predicting Your Love Life

Learning to Trust & Stop Predicting Your Love Life

You don't have a GPS for love. All you have is trust and faith. I remember the day when I was driving to work in my brand new Jeep Grand Cherokee thinking about the layoffs that were going to happen in a few hours. Not being sure if my job was safe, I wondered if this was going to be the last day I would be on this road that took me to my office near Boulder, Colorado. The mood was quiet all morning and then I got the fated call from one of the officers of the company. That familiar sinking feeling came over me and I just knew what was ahead of me.

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10 Christmas Survival Tips For The Newly Divorced

When you are newly divorced or separated this can feel like an overwhelming loss. Hauling out the ornaments and decorations may bring a flood of memories. It is common to ask yourself if the divorce or separation was necessary. Could you have worked through it? This ambiguity is heightened when you go to the mall and see couples hand in hand. You begin to wonder if you could have done something differently to make it work. Remembering the good times makes you more likely to feel depressed when you are newly divorced. Feeling sorry for yourself won’t make the situation go away. There are things you can do to make this Christmas less heartbreaking and give you a deeper sense of gratitude. Children are barometers for parents, and if they see a parent unhappy it will make them feel sad. Don’t make your kids suffer your loneliness in your first Christmas without them. Make a plan now, and Christmas Eve will be a bit less painful.

The Ho-Hum Holiday

The Ho-Hum Holiday

The holiday season can be really tough on relationships and expectations. Often the holidays are times when relationship problems become the most evident. Everywhere we turn is pictures of “perfect” holiday celebrations; these pictures are on movies, commercials, television, in stores, etc. In all, there is a lot of pressure to make everything meaningful. It seems like if we are not like “everyone else”, then our relationships are flawed. Here are some tips to help you get your relationships through the holidays:

Five Steps for Navigating Arguments

Five Steps for Navigating Arguments

  One of the dynamics that plays out with long term relationships is that you get into arguments.  And not just any kind of arguments, but the kind that push every last button you have.  The fight may begin innocently enough, but it escalates to the point where you feel totally unsafe around your partner.

Gay Breakups: When the Rainbow Ends

Gay Breakups: When the Rainbow Ends

INTRODUCTION "It just hit me out of the blue when Mike left me. We hadn't really been together all that long, but I thought I'd finally found my true soul mate. Now it's over and I feel totally rejected, like nobody's ever going to want me again. It's so hard finding a decent guy and now I have to start all over again; I don't know if I can. I feel like a failure at relationships. I just don't know what to do." --Eric

5 Relationship Resolutions for the New Year!

5 Relationship Resolutions for the New Year!

What are YOUR relationship resolutions for the New Year? Since my work is to help couples have more romance, more passion, more sexuality and more intimacy in their lives, this is an important question to reflect upon. I've reviewed my previous blog posts for the year and I've compiled five relationship resolutions that will definitely benefit you.

9 Pointers for Dealing with Difficult Family at the Holidays

9 Pointers for Dealing with Difficult Family at the Holidays

Maybe it’s your family of origin. Or maybe your in-laws, or your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family is the issue. At any rate, it’s the holidays and you’re most likely going to be around someone’s family in the next couple of weeks. If time spent with family is not always easy, light, and fun, you’re not alone. Here are 9 tips to help you survive the holiday season with difficult family members. Yours or theirs.