I often hear people complain that their partner is not committed to them. The next question I always ask is “How committed to you are you?” Are there aspects of how we commit to others or how others commit to us that are really a reflection of our commitment to ourselves? Take just one area of your life where you are not meeting your goals or living life the way you want to. This will reflect some way in which you have not made the commitment to yourself. You can look at relationships, business, health…..
We've all been there...the notorious BAD KISSER! And it really doesn't matter how gorgeous he is, how much money he has, the car he drives, or even the equipment he's working with and how he uses it. If a man's a bad kisser, that can easily dominate the situation and make everything else a moot point.
Are you tired of being single? Have you ever considered online dating? I know the very idea of going online looking for love makes you feel like you're a loser. I can understand. If you would have told me when I was in my thirties that I would have met my wife online, I would have laughed in your face, called you a few choice names and bet everything I owned against it happening. But, no matter what I felt and believed at the time…I would have been wrong. Isn't it ironic how life works out?
Male Myth #1: It's not sex unless you have intercourse. FALSE! Sex is more than hitting the target's bull's eye. Male Myth #2: It's not sex unless you have an orgasm. FALSE! Sex is an attitude & self image. An "I love you" qualifies as sex, as does a caring caress.) Male Myth #3: Sex is performance. You either succeed or fail. FALSE! Sex is a process, not a goal.
One of the most common problems I see among single people is attraction to the wrong type. It doesn’t matter if you are a man attracted to “needy divas” or a woman attracted to “bad boys.” The result is the same; someone is going to get used, hurt and rejected and that someone is YOU. I meet these people weekly because they write to me.
Alternative Lifestyles and Same Sex Relationships May Help Bridge the Mind-Body Men-Women Gap. Young girls in our society grow up amongst their girlfriends many of whom are already having sex and are sexually active. Many girls are sexually active by 12 or 14. Physically it may seem that they are ready. Mentally it is a whole other story.
Some people are pro-active and would seek help to enhance their relationship early on. Others would wait until things got so bad they are ready to divorce. Where do you see yourself? How bad would it have to get for you to consider seeking help for your relationship? What kind of help would you seek? Click here to take survey.
Denise Wade PH.D.
Wouldn't it be great to have a crystal ball? Or X-Ray glasses that allowed us to see the truth and the baggage of the person we're trying to date? In reality, all we can do is work on knowing what we want and pay attention to what another brings to the table. If you're alert and intuitive, you can tell a lot about the other person in the first hour or so of meeting them, and certainly within the first few dates.
Intimacy is one of those feel-good words, like "community," whose meaning we tend to take for granted. It's a nuanced concept, though, and merits a closer look. So let's do some unpacking! Intimacy has two components: authentic sharing, and empathetic reception.