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Do You Follow These 4 Relationship Rules?

End your pattern by becoming aware. Uber aware. Know what triggers your pattern (e.g., what tips off that nightly conversation) so you can stop the cycle before it starts running without your permission. Then decide how you want to act instead. What's your ideal state if your pattern didn't exist? Consciously replace your patterned response with an action that matches how you want things to look.

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What's Your Attachment Style?

Can you remember what was going on in your life from birth to about six years old? Probably not, but rest assured you were doing something that affects you deeply to this very day: forming your attachment style. We form our attachment styles early based on the availability and responsiveness of our parents. When we're young, if our needs are met in a warm, loving, stable environment, then we have a better chance of growing into adults who can attach to others in healthy ways. If our need for support and reassurance was not met, it can lead to problems attaching to others and forging healthy relationships later in life.

Online Dating: Writing The Profile

Online Dating: Writing The Profile

When you look at the millions of profiles on Match.com or eHarmony or OKCupid.com or any of the websites out there attempting to match you up with the person of your dreams, what do you see? Is there anything in the profile that stands out, that helps you feel as if you can really "see" that person?

Allow the Universe to Help

Allow the Universe to Help

Are you trying to push on a closed door that won’t open? Let me explain what I mean. There have been a number of times in my life and in the lives of my clients that we want something to happen so badly, that we just keep trying and trying and trying to make “IT” happen… to no avail. It really makes no difference what the IT is. It can be finding your ideal partner, starting your new business, or even loving yourself. Sometimes it feels the harder you try the faster your objective slips away!

Key #1 To Finding Hope And Finding Him: Me First

Key #1 To Finding Hope And Finding Him: Me First

This is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. A single man I know once said, “If a woman doesn’t seem to love herself, why should I love her?”

Nice Guys Don't Have to Finish Last

Nice Guys Don't Have to Finish Last

Nice has become the new four letter word for many women. They associate “nice” men with having qualities such as boring, passive, and unromantic. I’m not sure how this happened. My guess is that it is part related to how the media portrays “strong” versus “weak” men and part related to our biology—women neurologically look for traits in men that will ensure that their offspring will have good genes, be provided for and protected.

How To Recognize A Boy From A Man: A Lesson In Love From Gene Sim

How To Recognize A Boy From A Man: A Lesson In Love From Gene Sim

Guys Suck! They only care about Sex. They don't know how to treat a woman. If you’ve been single more than a week and dated more than one guy in your life I'd bet my life that you have used one or more of these statements at some time. And you know, you may be right. Because there are some men out there who can’t commit, who only are interested in women for what is between their legs and who will cheat on women at the drop of the hat.

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Top 5 Tricks & Treats Of Dating

In the spirit of Halloween, I offer you dating's top five tricks — the things that keep you alone and feeling frustrated in dating and love. I would be a bad witch if I did not give you the corresponding 5 treats — the things that make dating all worthwhile — that dispel these myths once and for all! Ladies, I am not here to sugar-coat today's dating scene. I will concede that dating can be a challenge and at times be down right horrible! The problem is if we don't question the tricks we have playing out in the hidden corners of our minds — the ones that influence our behavior and make us doubt our capabilities of attracting and keeping lasting love — we will never get to the treats that love has in store for us.

Sex And New Relationships

Sex And New Relationships

Brad was just completing his divorce after having been married for over 25 years. He had not dated in what seemed like forever to him, and had no idea how to start. "How do you start a new relationship?" he asked me in our counseling session. "What are you most concerned about?" I asked. "Sex," he answered. "What about sex?" I asked.

Isotonic Vitamins- Why They Are a Better Choice.

Isotonic Vitamins- Why They Are a Better Choice.

Have you ever taken you vitamins in the morning and felt like they were just sitting in your stomach? Wouldn’t it be great if you could drink your vitamins vs. swallowing pills and know that they were almost 100% absorbed? You can with Isotonic supplements. An isotonic solution is a solution which has the same concentration as present in the blood or cells of body. Taking vitamins in an isotonic form allows the nutrients to be quickly absorbed in the small intestine without having to first be broken down in the stomach by stomach acids.