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Sister in Law Puts You Down

What makes your sister in law think she has the right to put you down? Why does she have to pick on you, when you've never done a thing to her? Your sister in law, who never thought you were good enough to marry her brother, snubs you at every opportunity, saying things like "You have gained a pound or 2, haven't you," or "What a lovely dress, did you get that on sale? It looks like last year's fashion." She carries herself as if she's far better than you, is overtly condescending, and in general makes you want to scream! When you complain to your husband, he laughs and says "Oh, hey – don't take it so seriously, that's just the way she is." Argh, no help there. How do you deal with her?

The Death of Romantic Love

The Death of Romantic Love

I’ve been working on my new book and it’s thrown me back into the time I left my partner in 2007. As I re-read what I’ve written so far, it occurred to me that we had a ridiculously long honeymoon phase in our relationship. For most couples, the honeymoon lasts a few months to a few years. For us it lasted sixteen years. Once the honeymoon phase is over, a couple is faced with a power struggle. That power struggle can last a few months, or it can last the rest of their lives, depending on how each person deals with it.

New Area Code; Same Love Road

New Area Code; Same Love Road

Lately a recurring conversation theme I’ve had with women and even overheard in my frequent coffeehouse haunts is that of moving for love. I’ve heard that the midwest has more family oriented guys and that the south has nicer guys. I’ve heard that big city guys don’t take women seriously and that big cities are the only place to meet men due to sheer numbers. Single women alike seem to think they live in the world’s worst dating city (cue: violin) and if they simply packed up all of their stuff, found a new apartment, new job, new friends and new life, they would instantly find a perfectly wonderful new great love. I’m so sorry to be the bearer of bummer news, but it just doesn’t work that way. There’s simply no treasure trove of perfect guys in some hidden valley awaiting your arrival.

What to Do When He's Not "In Love" With You

What to Do When He's Not "In Love" With You

You're dating a guy and from what you can tell, things seem to be going well. Ok, fine, if you MUST admit it, you have a few teensy doubts... * He's spending a lot less time with you than he used to (e.g. your regular Saturday night date has been replaced with guys' night out.) * He's not as affectionate with you as he was in the beginning. * Whenever you ask him about future plans (e.g. "Have you checked your calendar to see if you can make it to my cousin Sheila's wedding with me next month?") he dodges the question.

Happy Relationships are Contagious

Happy Relationships are Contagious

My grandmother used to say, “Cows hang out with cows.” At age nine that adage didn’t make a lot of sense to me. However, through the years, I’ve grown to understand that everyone hangs out with people who are similar. If you aren’t similar to your peers in the beginning, chances are you will become more and more alike as time goes on. Marriage satisfaction is no exception -- and most importantly, it’s contagious.