By Straight Male Friend's Marcus Osborne for GalTime.com These are supposed to be columns about the general dynamic between men and women and how we do and don't relate and communicate well. But sometimes I like to make these columns about me. Because there are times I simply don't "get it" and I need your input for a little clarity.
Most women and men will never learn these secrets, but if you're ready for love now, here are the immediate action steps that will put you on the fast track to meet quality men, have a hot date, a long-term relationship or whatever it is you desire.
It doesn't matter if you're in a new relationship or you've been married for decades. Choosing a gift that will bring a smile to your partner's lips can be difficult and fraught with traps.
The R’n’B singer Rhianna recently quipped that all she wants this Christmas is “some great food and great sex.” What a wish list! Creating beautiful, tasty dishes, and the time and space for connected love-making, are two of my favorites of the Sixty-Four Tantric Arts. We know about the healing properties of fresh, home-made food. But what about fresh, home-made, loving sex?
Many people think that they are too open minded to have any shame and guilt about their sex lives, but negative emotions have learned how to hide deep in the psyche because they clash with the intellectual part of the brain. Hidden shame and/or guilt about not being perfect are still sabotaging many relationships. I’m always amazed how it is possible for these to be hiding away in our subconscious, sometimes for many years.
Some people are so in love with each other when they first meet, that they don’t have to think how to make each other happy and deepen the relationship. It seems to happen as of by itself: no effort at all. As a matter of fact you can’t wait to spend quality time with each other and talk a lot. You do so much eye gazing, naturally, that when you go to a restaurant to eat, you forget to order food until you are reminded.
It might have been a huge blow-up where you and your partner both said awful, hurtful words. It could have been a slow-building tension that brought coldness and distance. The effects are the same...your relationship feels like it has collapsed. The strong foundation of trust, communication, respect and even love has been shaken and maybe feels destroyed. You're wondering if it is even possible for you two to repair the damage and rebuild your connection.
Jane is planning for the holidays. The majority of her time is spent planning menus, dinner parties, and shopping excursions. She's also planning gift-giving, card-sending, trips to visit family. Volunteer work and end-of-year giving activities are planned by Jane as well. Now, Jane feels stressed. What has she forgotten?
Relationships are based on three; it’s what the mistress role is about. I set out to make the best of it myself due to the circumstances of my marriage and the state my life was in at the time. I’ll say it’s no joke to unravel life’s doings, which left me with the question “did I choose my life or did my life choose me?”
Do you ever feel you aren't good enough or deserving of love? Do you think all the good ones are taken so you should lower your expectations and settle for less? Do you think you will be abandoned or hurt if you love too much?