Feeling jealous in a relationship may be one of the yuckiest feeling you could have. One: You don't always know if your reason for being jealous makes sense;Two: You don't want to mention to your partner that you're feeling jealous; Three: It dampens your sex life and not the way you'd like it to. Jealousy is natural but let's work on not letting it get too far in your relationship. Read the article by The Romance Code for new sex advice!
Are you in an interracial relationship? Here's an inspiring piece on an interracial relationship, struggles faced and how to build intimacy.
I rarely read the Craigslist women-seeking-women posts. Most of them seemed to be written by women who were home alone for a few hours and just wanted to fool around. Still, that night eight years ago, for some reason I couldn’t explain, I clicked on them. When I entered the key word “spiritual,” it eliminated 99% of the ads. And there she was. Her ad had a cheesy title – “Are You Out There?” But she was in my age range, and nearby. So I clicked to read it.
It’s pouring rain today, and our Internet is down – again. It doesn’t like changes in weather. But when I saw the telltale extra red light on the modem (3 red lights is a good sign, but 4 is a very, very bad sign) I felt happy instead of crushed – because finally, after 3+ months of constant outages, I actually ordered a backup internet service which got installed yesterday. I couldn’t get over my own wisdom and good fortune! I gloated! I basked in gratitude!
It all started out so wonderfully, as many lesbian love stories do. Mary was smart, cute, insightful and interesting, and we connected on many levels. We first met while working on a feminist newspaper together, and although we came from different class backgrounds, I could understand the ways she’d been wounded as a child. We were co-activists, engaged in many of the same activities. She introduced me to a beautiful pond nearby, and I could see how nature fed her, as it fed me.
When Michelle and I first started thinking about offering relationship tools to lesbians & queer women, we did a search to see who else was doing that kind of thing. And we found absolutely nothing. Well, that’s not completely true. Let’s say, almost nothing.
This astonishingly powerful guest post comes to us from Nicole Ditz (www.holisticdepththerapy.com), who sent it in response to my invitation for readers to send their worst breakup stories. When I asked if we could publish it, anonymously or with attribution, Nicole wrote back, “Ruth, please do post it with my full name and web link. I am no longer ashamed of my history, my struggles, or my vulnerabilities. I have earned my substantiality as a woman the hard way. Please send me the link. I want to see my truths look me in the eyes!”
This is a guest post in response to our call for "worst breakup" stories. This writer chose to remain anonymous – talks about loving a woman named Jane, and loving herself after the breakup.
This guest post by “Ellen” (not her real name) shares the story of a young woman’s first devastating breakup – and how and what she learned from it. We’re still accepting stories, so if you have a “worst breakup” story too, please send it along!
Many people have no idea they inspire others. Some people even take their own lives without knowing they inspired someone to have courage during a desperate time or fall in love when they were afraid of being hurt or follow their dream even when everyone said it would never come true. What if you were inspired by them and didn’t say anything until you spoke at their funeral? What if they’d known before? Could it have made a difference?