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If Conflict Is Normal...Why Does It Feel So Bad?

If Conflict Is Normal...Why Does It Feel So Bad?

  In all fairness, none of us were taught how to handle conflict productively. Conflict in a relationship can be scary because anger and criticism are typically at the root of conflict and most of us have not had formal training in how to resolve it. Our parents did not teach us to handle conflict appropriately. Instead, we were taught what not to do if we felt angry, e.g. don’t say bad words, don’t hit her, just ignore him, turn the other cheek, etc.

The teenager, in short

The teenager, in short

As if being a kid isn’t hard enough, one day you wake up and realize that your mood is unpredictable, your voice doesn’t sound like your own, you have a bit of a scent on your body, acne is now a constant friend, and what was cool is no longer. And let’s not forget about parents who are probably more in your space and worried about everything from you ‘not thinking things through,’ being in your room too much, being on the phone or computer too much, you having a new style of clothes, and different grades and friends.

 3Tips to turning off an emotional affair.

3Tips to turning off an emotional affair.

Emotional affairs (EAs) are sneaky and it is common to find out you are in one without really understanding when and how it happened. Face book, instant messaging, texting, and tweeting have opened doors for emotional affairs to storm in and have also built the walls necessary to keep it secret. These are two of the absolutes for an emotional affair to exist. EAs begin innocently enough. They take place at work, school, happy hours, and coffee hours, almost anywhere whenever two lonely people can meet up one on one and talk.

The Reluctant Expert

The Reluctant Expert

We don't always get to choose the circumstances of our lives. Sometimes shit happens. When you go through experiences of chronic illness, caregiving or loss you can't help but be changed by them. They break you or they reveal to you inner strength you did not know you had. I love having a plan. I do well with setting goals and working toward them. I've got a pretty high degree of self-discipline and focus. But when life shook my world upside down all I could do was choose to make the most of it.

WHY DO WE MAKE BAD RELATIONSHIP CHOICES?

WHY DO WE MAKE BAD RELATIONSHIP CHOICES?

This is one of the most common questions my clients ask me. There may be as many different answers as there are people asking but I find that many fit into these three categories: 1. To see ourselves differently. Some people convince themselves that they are a reflection of the person they are with. They may have a belief that says, “If my partner is attractive or successful, then I feel attractive or successful”. But there are a couple of problems with this belief.

Over 40 and Dating: Why First Dates Don't Become Seconds (Part 1)

Over 40 and Dating: Why First Dates Don't Become Seconds (Part 1)

I can answer this in three words: You’re not memorable. That’s it. Whether it’s the hot man you had a nice chat with at the local coffee shop or the guy you had a great first date with, getting him to ask you out can take some skill. Yep, I said skill. You’re not 18 anymore, and the men you are interested in (or should be) are mature men of depth. They have busy lives (like you) and would probably rather be single than in a bad relationship (like you).

How To Save A Marriage After An Affair

How To Save A Marriage After An Affair

Do you know anyone whose marriage has been affected by an extramarital affair? If you asked this question to any group of adults, what percentage do you think would say yes? It’s a fact of life in the modern world. Surveys differ as to the exact percentage, but Bill Harley, author of His Needs, Her Needs, is on target when he states that 60% of American marriages are affected by an extramarital affair sometime in the course of the marriage.

Are you Dating a Gold Digger or Someone Who is Just Into You?

Are you Dating a Gold Digger or Someone Who is Just Into You?

You just started dating. It is going hot and heavy. And heavenly. But there is a little nagging worry in the back of your mind. Is this person truly just into me, or what I bring to the table? Whether it is your apartment, your lifestyle, your family’s money or your own that may be stoking your newbie’s interest, you feel like you need to know. Does this person truly like me for me???

You can attract a mate from three different levels

You can attract a mate from three different levels

Ever wonder how to find the ever elusive Mr. or Ms. Right?  Wanting deperately to ensure that you don't choose the wrong one, you are sometimes too cautious and at other times may have thrown caution to the wind.  Here's a key:  Start looking inside first.  "What?!", you ask, " How do I find something outside of me on the inside  of me?"  The Law of Attraction, that invisible, magnetic force that brings people together works on a number of levels.  All of the levels involve karmic ties.  Some relationshi

New Year, New Love, New Attitude!

New Year, New Love, New Attitude!

 If you want a sweet love, and feel it doesn’t exist take heart because it does. You do not have to settle for less than what you want. In fact, 2011 can be the year you find yourself head-over-heels in love! To get from here to there, take a look at some of the beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors that often get in the way.