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Intimacy is not in your pants (Achieving mind blowing intimacy)

Intimacy is not in your pants (Achieving mind blowing intimacy)

One difficult phrase and concept that I try to get clients to understand is “Mind Blowing Intimacy.” This is no surprise as we are inundated with “Mind Blowing Sex” on reality TV, magazines, the internet, and movies. “Mind Blowing Sex” gets the highest media ratings, as well as most couples’ attention. In truth, Mind Blowing Sex is nothing compared to Mind Blowing Intimacy. In real life, Mind Blowing Sex cannot save a marriage nor can the lack of it destroy one.

Monogamy For The Long Haul

Monogamy For The Long Haul

Can you stay monogamous for the long haul?  In 2011 we are wondering about this question, as divorce rates have not changed that dramatically for almost 30 years.  Fifty percent of all married couples will trade in their spouse for a new model at least once and sometimes twice in their lifetime.  And 35% to 50% of everyone will cheat at some point in their marriage.  Why is it so difficult to stay married

More Sex Cements Bonds for Certain Couples

More Sex Cements Bonds for Certain Couples

This guest article from Psych Central was written by Rick Nauert. Experts — and the films of Woody Allen — have documented that neurotic individuals often have more difficulty with relationships and marriage. A new study further suggests the remedy may be lots of sex, at least for newlyweds. In fact, researchers have determined if neurotic newlyweds have frequent sexual relations, their marital satisfaction is every bit as high as their less neurotic counterparts.

Are you a 'default woman'?

Are you a 'default woman'?

I was thinking about the plight and sadness of the 'default woman' today. Then I thought to compose a definition. DEFAULT WOMAN A default woman prides herself in the depth of her love and the strength of her commitment to the man of her dreams, although her position is consistently ‘backseat’ and ’second best.’ She is the woman who is always available when there is nothing better.

Date Night: Not Just Another Chore

Date Night: Not Just Another Chore

Date night. You know it’s good for your relationship. You want to. You mean to. But, darn it, you’re busy with a house to run, bills to pay, bosses to please, projects to complete, kids to care for—and on and on. Add the unexpected—sick kids, car problems, leaking pipes—and it’s hard to find the time to even grab a cup of coffee together. But think of it this way: that laundry list of responsibilities and worries shouldn’t be what stands in your way, it should also be what fuels you.

Lowering Your Standards...Not in My World!

Lowering Your Standards...Not in My World!

When I was in my mid-twenties and many of my friends were either in long term relationships, engaged or married well-meaning confidents would suggest from time to time that the answer to my single status was lowering my standards. I’ll admit, they were high. I was very clear I wanted to be with someone who was intelligent, driven, creative, strong, successful, handsome, sexy and who knew how to treat a woman. The list was longer than that but you get the idea.

Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Is There Something Wrong With Me?

If you are not getting asked out, or can't get to the second date, you might wonder what is wrong. I recently got an email from a woman asking me if I thought that there might be something wrong with her since she rarely got asked out on a second date. Without meeting this woman and finding out what exactly she was doing on the dates, it was hard for me to give her a direct answer, but I do have some suggestions that everyone can do to ensure more success in not only dating but life in general.

What Not To Wear

What Not To Wear

What not to wear during Fashion Week or every day of the week for that matter… Fashion is always changing and with a new year comes new style. Some of this year’s fashion musts may not even be on your mind yet, so let me fill you in before it's too late! What's In, What's Out, What’s Hot Now!

WHAT DO BABY BOOMER MEN WANT?

WHAT DO BABY BOOMER MEN WANT?

I asked a group of accomplished 50-something single men, many of whom have been looking for the right woman for a long time, how they felt about the “mature” single dating life. Few thought it was what it was cracked up to be. Most longed to find one true, deep, exciting, and lasting love; some went so far as to say they worked two jobs: one during the day making money, and one at night looking for love.

Talk to your children about healthy sex

Talk to your children about healthy sex

One of my colleagues works exclusively with teens and is noting an increase in oral sex among teens. It is interesting because the teens report being virgins and are adamant that they aren’t having sex. According to a recent study researchers in California found that oral sex is the most frequent practiced sex act among teenagers engaging in sexual activity. Only 9 percent of high school students who have had oral sex are still virgins two years later. Oral sex has become the gateway to intercourse.