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What I Learned About Communication From a Cold Shower

What I Learned About Communication From a Cold Shower

Back when Dale (the man who became my husband) and I were first spending nights together at my home, I gave him the guest bath to use. One morning, as we were getting up to prepare for our day, he asked, “Can we shower at the same time?” I said, “Sure!” and headed off to my shower, hopped in, got the temperature just right, and was ready for sexy, sudsy, morning delight.

Is Casual Sex Harmful?

Is Casual Sex Harmful?

Admit it, you've always wondered whether casual sex is really okay or not. Read and find out. This guest article from Psych Central was written by Rick Nauert, Ph.D. Researchers have discovered casual sex among young adults is not associated with harmful psychological outcomes as compared to sexually active young adults in more committed relationships. Naturally, the physical risks of casual sex should always be addressed.

How To Achieve the Perfect Relationship

How To Achieve the Perfect Relationship

Marriage is serious. In todays throw away society, you need to learn the secrets. After being together with my wife for 32 years and married for 26 years; coupled with successful marital coaching of many couples during my 25 years of practice, has led me to some major distinctions. In today's throwaway society it is far too easy to abandon ship and move on. While sometimes moving on is the absolute right thing to do, sometimes staying together and working things out should prevail.

You want it, he wants it, but you have no desire to give or get i

You want it, he wants it, but you have no desire to give or get i

You want it, he wants it, but you have no desire to give or get it One of the most common complaints I hear from women is their lack of sexual desire. A woman’s sexual desire changes with years and life events. It is normal for her desire to lessen after the birth of a baby or during stressful periods in her life. But what happens when she has lost all desire and finds herself counting ceiling tiles while in the middle of making love?

Imperfection Does Not Equal Rejection

Imperfection Does Not Equal Rejection

Are you perfect? Do you know anyone who is? Look at the people you know who are in midlife or older: do you know any people who doesn’t have some rough times behind them or are not currently facing life challenges? It’s doubtful—because you are in real life and not the movies! All grownups have some less-than-flattering “stuff.” I received an email recently from Lisa, a woman who, after describing her life situation, asked: “Is there any hope for me?” Ugh. I can’t tell you how sad this makes me feel.

The Psychology Of Food

The Psychology Of Food

As a psychologist who has treated those suffering from eating disorders for many years, one thing has become very clear...eating disorders are not about food. In my work, I have repeatedly discovered that underneath invasive and negative symptoms related to food and body image is some kind of psychic pain. The psychic pain is vastly different for all individuals and can be related to a myriad of issues: low self esteem, feelings of helplessness or hopelessness, unresolved grief or anger, dissatisfaction in relationships and career...and on and on.

3 Musts for an "Honest On-LIne Profile"

3 Musts for an "Honest On-LIne Profile"

I have clients who date online. Writing the profile is one of the most difficult parts of online dating. How honest can they be? How honest are the people they are trying to attract? One of my clients is the nicest guy; in fact, his inability to assert and defend himself enables others to take advantage of him. His profile looks something like this: “single, 40ish male seeks 40ish single female.” He goes on to say he likes to bike, ski (both on water and snow) and try new restaurants. He wrote that he was a professional, but not addicted to his work.

Sex Therapy & Kids

Sex Therapy & Kids

Parents are often afraid to talk to their kids about sex. Parents are often concerned about saying too much, saying the wrong thing, being inappropriate and/or encouraging sex too early and too soon. Many parents want to protect their children from the ugly world of sex that often accompanies the idea of sex, not realizing that what you don’t talk about at home is getting into your child’s brain through other sources, whether it be via friends and peers at school, or the media. Most parents don’t realize that their silence is communication too.