"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot—especially from my father. And the word "picky" was said with such disdain, like I wasn't deserving of being selective. Like I should just grab the next guy who would have me.
To state the obvious - we all need love! Most of us look only for love outside of ourselves – from partners, spouses, family, children, friends, God. But we often forget a most important source of love and that is OURSELF. One big problem is that criticism and blame toward ourselves or others has replaced loving action. And often our lives are so full of activities and demands that we put ourselves at the bottom of the list when it comes to loving action.
Couples that have great relationships will normally site a wide variety of factors as to why that is. However, a common characteristic is the ability to communicate with each other. Great communication is something virtually everyone strives for but very few can come close to achieving. The ability to be understood and to understand others during the communication process is a skill worth developing. Imagine the last time you asked your spouse/partner a question and the response received was not even close to an answer.
Why is it anything you tell your child ends up coming out of your ex's mouth all wrong? How does your ex manage to twist your words no matter how carefully you say things? Your child comes back from his usual "Dad" weekend, all moody and out of sorts. You ask "What's wrong?" He mumbles the usual "Nothing'" but eventually comes out with "Dad says you don't have time for me." "And why does he say that?" you ask, shocked. "Cause you said you wouldn't be calling over the weekend" he replies.
Lipstick and a mirror are the fun ingredients for creating a fast shift on those days when you wake up feeling less powerful and inspired than you want to be. Some mornings are just like that...a low energy hangover from a less than spectacular day before or anticipating or even choosing a major change in your life can bring up feelings of fear, stress or wanting to stay small and safe.
"Honey, I have to join Ashley Madison." So began the pitch I gave my wife to let me join the marrieds-looking-for-affairs website, AshleyMadison.com. It would be part of my research into women who cheat, why infidelity is increasing, and what can be done to possibly affair-proof a marriage. I was proposing to "cheat" on her for a few weeks, to talk to and attempt to seduce as many women as possible, and get a real-world understanding of why women want to stay married but also need some illicit action on the side. Of course, on my end, there'd be nothing more than conversation. She looked at me straight-faced, unflinching. I searched her eyes for any telltale sign of the Charles-I'm-going-to-punch-you-in-the-face-right-after-I-castrate-you look; nothing. After a long pause, I got her only thought: "No, I get it," she said emphatically. "It's a great story. But it’s kinda like asking the newly vegetarian fox to guard the henhouse, isn't it?"
It is possible. You're 80 and still doing it. How is this possible? by Tammy Nelson, PhD Having sex later in life is now available for all willing couples. Because of drugs like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra the ability to have and maintain an erection can mean having intercourse at any age. With erectile dysfunction drugs now the most highly prescribed drug in America, men and women can enjoy an active sex well into old age.
Having a great relationship when everyone is happy and life is going well is the easy part. Things get a little messier when one of you is going through a 'rough period'. This can last from one day to....who knows. So what do most people do when their partner is struggling? They get right down in there in the ditch with them! One client said, "I feel so bad when he is hurting and I know he feels better if I'm right there with him".
"I am tired of the Law of Attraction." "I do everything Abraham says and I am still single." "I am SO tired of being alone." Sound familiar? It can be searingly difficult to keep the faith with you are working with the Universal Laws. The books, audios and coaching programs all promise great results, so what's up? Why can't finding love be easier?
Once upon a time in a land of smart and sassy men and women there lived a myth, a big giant, crazy myth, that true love comes about only when it's "meant to be." These smart and sassy people, who think nothing of tackling big careers, higher education, exotic travel and who are adept at "making life happen," crumble when it comes to insisting on a love life.