Sometimes it may seem that the one sexual issue in the relationship is at the root of our arguements, anger, frustration and resentment that seems to be building in the relationship. Yes, this in fact may seem true, especially when sexual issues can be really hard to talk about. I've found, however, that while disagreements about sex may seem to be the hang up, there are often underlying issues and feelings that are circulating over and over in the relationship that seem to get caught up or stuck when it comes to the sex stuff.
Many men and women find themselves searching for the “right” partner, the “one” perfect match for them, their “soul mate.” Yes, once in a while someone seems to wander the world alone and then appears to strikes gold when they meet that man or woman of their dreams. And they walk out into the sunset together.
I'd like to tell you that the Rubik's Cube turns 40 this year. I'd like to tell you that Mr. and Ms. Pac-Man celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year. I'd like to tell you that Drew Barrymore, Free to Be You & Me, Star Wars and I were all born in the same year, all turning 40 in 2011. But it's just not true. Those toys, video game icons, and pop-culture references are from my youth, but the conscious years, not the zygote years. Having said that, there ARE some cool things/people turning 40 this year, right along with me. John Lennon's song Imagine. Clint Eastwood's Dirty Harry. And my girl Mary J Blige hits the big 4-0 right alongside me this year.
Such a broad and abstract topic as love, not surprisingly, is hard to define. And, of course, many writers, artists, musicians and psychologists have tried. Tons of theories exist and persist. We spoke with two couples therapists to get their thoughts on this elusive subject. “Being in love is an agreement — made consciously or unconsciously — to participate in the experience of personal growth and transformation,” according to Judy Ford, licensed clinical social worker and author of Every Day Love: The Delicate Art of Caring for Each Other. “When we are in love we are saying ‘yes’ to the process of becoming our best selves.” Terri Orbuch, psychologist and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, believes that true love includes both the arousal-producing, can’t-stop-thinking-about-you passionate love and the supportive and emotionally intimate companionate love. She underscored that both do “wax and wane,” and may need work. In fact, a decline in excitement is “a typical progression or development of a long-term relationship,” she said.
Have you ever wondered what your communication style is when you interact with others? There are four types: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. Which one are you? Take the following quiz to find out. As you read down each item mark or circle each statement that best describes you. Then we’ll talk.
In this uber-competitive economy, selling your services cheap may seem tempting and for a few individuals may seem to be the only way to eek ahead of the competition. After all, a lesser price tag on your services may help you draw additional customers than your competitors, right? But when you are in a field like to consultancy or coaching you want to ask yourself, is undercharging for your services worth it in the long run?
Everyone, at some point of her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who finds the ‘silver bullet’ for weight loss? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships? Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust on the shelves jammed with self-help books.
I just finished working with a grieving widow. Her husband of 28 years died an untimely death from an unfortunate accident. His was 52 years old. As she went through her list of regrets, something came to mind that really surprised her. Early on in her marriage, they had shared an abortion together. They were struggling college students and "this" was not the time to go through a pregnancy. She was amazed that they had never talked. Now it was too late. "I thought about it many times, " she said. "I wanted to
By Mary Schwager, GalTime.com It's the question that sparks dread into women’s psyches: "Is your man cheating on you?" Shudder. If I were to tell you there’s a new book to help you figure it out you may think, “Oh yeah, right!" This Consumer Watchdog is tellin' you, this book actually makes sense and it's not written with a 'down with men' kinda mantra.