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Codependency: A Learned Relationship Addiction

Codependency: A Learned Relationship Addiction

Diebold Behavioral Counseling: Co-dependency Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.

Focus on Fabulous YOU this Valentine's Day

Focus on Fabulous YOU this Valentine's Day

Where do you stand on Valentine's Day? Are you rolling your eyes at the Hallmark-esque commercials and feeling queasy at all the pink and red splashed everywhere?Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less about it.

Repitition Compulsion

Repitition Compulsion

Repetition Compulsion Psychoanalysis is the process by which unconscious dynamics that make us unhappy with our selves and our relationships are made conscious so that healing and growth can occur. As treatment unfolds you will come to understand yourself and your relationships better and experience more freedom to make choices about how you want to live your life.

Before God's Eyes

Before God's Eyes

Before God’s Eyes When I was just a little boy, my mother made things clear.   Just tell the truth, behave yourself, there’s nothing you should fear. The years went by, I told a lie, and learned the hardest way. Her punishment was justified; I remember to this very day.

Murder: Nature VS Nurture

Murder: Nature VS Nurture

As a behavioral health therapist, I’ve been asked many times since Gabby Gifford’s assault to give my thoughts as to the shooter’s inner process. Please understand; I refuse to use his name. Attention-getting behaviors of this nature deserve anonymity, nothing more. What caused such reckless abandon? What was he thinking and more importantly, why did it lead to such heinous behavior?

Gay & Single on Valentine's Day--8 Holiday Survival Strategies

Gay & Single on Valentine's Day--8 Holiday Survival Strategies

INTRODUCTION For those singles unhappy with their relationship status, Valentine's Day can represent a sense of foreboding and dread as it highlights all the things they wish they had in their lives. Everywhere they look it seems like there is a happy couple on every street corner, and it seems inescapable to walk into a store without some image or product associated with the holiday being shoved in one's face to reinforce the value of love and relationships.

Guys, Valentine's Day is your day to SHINE

Guys, Valentine's Day is your day to SHINE

Growing up, Valentine’s Day was one of the greatest days of the school year. For one day, classmates tried to be kind to each other, and everyone got a valentine from everyone else. It was difficult to find a valentine that came in a box that said anything negative. In fact, I use to worry about sending something like “You rock” to someone who really didn’t. I had no idea that Valentine’s Day would become such a big deal with expensive gifts, flowers, and candy.

Part 2 ~ What if No One Was Watching

Part 2 ~ What if No One Was Watching

In yesterday’s blog, I let you in on a little secret I discovered recently that I am using to give myself permission to take more risks and be my more authentic self. I realized that when I hold myself back from really putting it out there it is because I am afraid of what others will think.

Who is that Masked Man, Anyway? Why She Can’t “Read” Him

Who is that Masked Man, Anyway? Why She Can’t “Read” Him

Francine has a bone to pick with her boyfriend. Eddie comes home haggard and stressed, night after night, unwilling to share the drama that’s obviously going on at his office. When she asks him how he’s feeling, rather than welcoming her concern, she senses that he tenses up. Eddie’s face seems to turn to stone as he grunts, “I don’t want to talk about it.” If she badgers him further, he turns his head away, becomes absorbed in the newspaper, and withdraws all eye contact—leaving Francine feeling left out in the cold and probably angry.

Becoming Your Own Love Advocate!

Becoming Your Own Love Advocate!

Want to know the real secret to dating and healthy love success? It’s actually simple. It lies in doing ONE thing… ONE thing, really really REALLY well. What’s that thing? I’ll tell you. Dating and healthy love success relies on you becoming your own biggest dating and healthy love advocate. That’s right, YOU and only you are in charge of your love destiny.