Say What You Need to Say I can not count the number of times I have I heard, “But, she knows I love her…I married her.” or “He knows how I feel.” Communication, as we all know, is a B-I-G D-E-A-L in relationships…the biggest. But, life happens and we forget. We become complacent. We assume that some things are understood. Then there are things that should have been said, that weren’t and things that never should have been said.
Divorce is rampant in America; 50% of first marriages end in divorce, and over 70% of subsequent marriages fail as well. Even with those staggering statistics, some people stay in marriages that should have ended years, if not decades, ago. At the same time, many of the divorces that do happen could be prevented. I don’t judge people who’ve gotten divorced; I believe that everything happens in divine order.
I can’t lie to you. I love technology. I do. The gadgets, the games and the advancements that make our lives so much easier are a dream come true. There is however, no sweet without the bitter and no appreciation without the pain. But before we get to ‘the pain,’ I couldn’t perch myself atop a soapbox, blasting the ramifications of these fantasy items without providing a balanced appraisal of just how wonderful these toys can be.
Back in the 1970s—and I know I’m dating myself—a Yale law professor named Erich Segal penned a bestselling tearjerker called Love Story. His definition of love: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Straight out of the Woodstock era and ethos, it sounded good at the time. Freedom! No guilt! Just be yourself! Spread your wings and fly! It hasn’t worn well, though. Today it’s the other side of the coin we’re more likely to see: You don’t owe anyone anything.
Are you giving your body the right kind of gas? Okay, now that I have your full attention, it’s not the kind of gas you may be imagining. I thought this this might be worth sharing again especially since I’ve taken on a new challenge. And depending on what’s happening with your life right now, it’s a good reminder about the importance of valuing YOU.
Do you feel like your relationship is suffering because of a lack of communication between your partner or the people you attempt to date? You are not alone! On psychotherapists' couches and coaches' offices throughout the country, couples-both young and old- are revealing that they need help developing better communication skills.
Remember Seinfeld? One of the running gags was Jerry's amazing ability to spotlight every annoying habit or imperfection his date had. There was the date who had “man hands,” the one who had a laugh like Elmer Fudd, and the one who ate her peas one at a time. All good reasons to break up, according to Jerry, and a never-ending source of ridicule from his friend (and former girlfriend) Elaine. We might think Jerry's faultfinding is as crazy as Elaine does, but still, it makes us laugh. Why? Because it's so common.
My husband and I were having coffee last January first, having had our share of champagne, the night before, and I got a call from a client ... After years as a single parent, she had met someone whom she loved. After years of rejecting relationships, she found someone who really valued her, who returned her love. The relationship was now three months old; my client felt happy, safe, fulfilled.
There are many feelings that people experience after discovering that their spouse has had an affair. The first is usually shock so strong that it feels like being punched in the stomach or having difficulty catching your breath. The shock can feel painful and like living in a dream. Soon, this shock turns into disbelief: It can’t be. There is some mistake. I heard incorrectly. This isn’t happening…
All you have to do is pick up any magazine in line at the grocery store to know that people are especially eager to connect with the perfect partner—and hold onto him or her for good. This is nothing new; mankind has searched for aphrodisiacs for centuries. The ancient Romans slurped down oysters, the Chinese swore by shark fin soup, and the Arabs were keen on camel’s hump. But for modern romantics, science has some encouraging news: Our body equips us with some natural and powerful aphrodisiacs, along with the tools to make romance last.