Before God’s Eyes When I was just a little boy, my mother made things clear. Just tell the truth, behave yourself, there’s nothing you should fear. The years went by, I told a lie, and learned the hardest way. Her punishment was justified; I remember to this very day.
As a behavioral health therapist, I’ve been asked many times since Gabby Gifford’s assault to give my thoughts as to the shooter’s inner process. Please understand; I refuse to use his name. Attention-getting behaviors of this nature deserve anonymity, nothing more. What caused such reckless abandon? What was he thinking and more importantly, why did it lead to such heinous behavior?
INTRODUCTION For those singles unhappy with their relationship status, Valentine's Day can represent a sense of foreboding and dread as it highlights all the things they wish they had in their lives. Everywhere they look it seems like there is a happy couple on every street corner, and it seems inescapable to walk into a store without some image or product associated with the holiday being shoved in one's face to reinforce the value of love and relationships.
Growing up, Valentine’s Day was one of the greatest days of the school year. For one day, classmates tried to be kind to each other, and everyone got a valentine from everyone else. It was difficult to find a valentine that came in a box that said anything negative. In fact, I use to worry about sending something like “You rock” to someone who really didn’t. I had no idea that Valentine’s Day would become such a big deal with expensive gifts, flowers, and candy.
In yesterday’s blog, I let you in on a little secret I discovered recently that I am using to give myself permission to take more risks and be my more authentic self. I realized that when I hold myself back from really putting it out there it is because I am afraid of what others will think.
Francine has a bone to pick with her boyfriend. Eddie comes home haggard and stressed, night after night, unwilling to share the drama that’s obviously going on at his office. When she asks him how he’s feeling, rather than welcoming her concern, she senses that he tenses up. Eddie’s face seems to turn to stone as he grunts, “I don’t want to talk about it.” If she badgers him further, he turns his head away, becomes absorbed in the newspaper, and withdraws all eye contact—leaving Francine feeling left out in the cold and probably angry.
Want to know the real secret to dating and healthy love success? It’s actually simple. It lies in doing ONE thing… ONE thing, really really REALLY well. What’s that thing? I’ll tell you. Dating and healthy love success relies on you becoming your own biggest dating and healthy love advocate. That’s right, YOU and only you are in charge of your love destiny.
So you may have heard by now that Ashlee Simpson Wentz and Pete Wentz are on the journey towards divorce. According to sources, “they’ve just grown apart.” For you regular readers, you know that I rarely comment on celeb love lives or lack thereof, but I thought this particular dissolution bore a little insight and discussion.
What is it about bumping into your ex that turns you into a bumbling fool? How can someone you no longer love cause you such emotional havoc? I'm out shopping with a girlfriend, and we're wandering around the mall, having a great time, when suddenly she grabs my arm, shoves me in front of her and says, "Don't move. Hide me. He's coming right at us." "Who?" I ask, immediately panicked. I look around. I'm expecting a gun-toting madman, but all I see is this somewhat distracted fellow trying to balance his packages.
Discover the qualities that make a man see you as the woman he just has to get to know. Are you the kind of woman a great guy is attracted to and wants to have a deep,connected relationship with? Just what is it that makes a man see you as someone he thinks of as relationship material rather than something casual? To share a few tips on how attraction works with men, let me tell you about the “cool girl”.