One of the biggest obstacles to our becoming happy is our inability to be satisfied, says Dennis Prager, author of Happiness is a Serious Problem. In case you didn’t notice, human nature makes us insatiable. We are never completely satisfied with ourselves, our partner, our income, our homes, our children, our jobs, our sex lives, or our bodies. We’re never completely satisfied with our entire lives, and due to our human nature, we may never be.
The day after Valentine’s Day always strikes me as such a wonderful opportunity. Not only can you score the cutest love inspiring trinkets for half-price (you know that’s what I’ll be doing today!) but it serves as an occasion to take stock of how loves serves or doesn’t serve you… and what you can do about it.
Lots of people understand the value of hiring a professional coach to help them get a job or a promotion. They also understand that a trained coach can help them reach personal goals, such as losing weight or training for a marathon. But did you realize that a life coach can also help you find a romantic partner? Somehow, finding a partner seems a little more nebulous than other, more concrete goals. Besides, can you be coached into love? I believe you can, and I’ve helped countless people find love.
“My wife joined Facebook and was spending an incredible amount of time reconnecting with old friends…(t)hen, she found one of her high school sweethearts from 22 years ago. And yes, they were soon involved in an emotional affair…(S)he informed me that she wanted out of the marriage because she was involved with someone else. I soon discovered who he was and that it started with FB. She moved out and our divorce was final 3 weeks ago today. She walked away from her husband, her children, and her home for this guy. Only to find that after all of his sweet talking and promises, he was not going to leave his wife and kids as they had originally planned…So, here she is…no husband, children that don’t want to see her, no home…and no FB boyfriend (yet). She’s lost her good girl reputation not only with my family and friends, but with her own family and friends as well. 18 years together. 13 years married. It just feels as if it was all for nothing.”
He cheated. Now you know the truth. What are you going to do? All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies he had been telling had you tied up in knots. You wanted so much to believe him, to trust that he was really faithful and just busy. You wanted so much to forgive him for neglecting you, letting you down, disappointing you because you felt he really has good intentions and he really loves you.
You cheated and she discovered the truth. What do you do now? All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies had you tied up in knots. You got yourself into a situation which felt great at first but started to eat away at you. The other woman seemed so appealing, so exciting, so understanding and so different from your wife. This other woman played up to you, flattered your faltering ego, and provided the hot sex you had been craving but not receiving at home.
Oxytocin is a stress reducing hormone released in women. When a woman does somthing that produces Oxytocin, her Cortisol (stress hormone) levels begin to drop and she starts to feel less stressed and more relaxed. Below is a list of 10 sure fire ways a women can produce Oxytocin for herself this Valentine's Day. Some of them might just surprise you. 1. Get a massage 2. Get your hair done 3. Get a manicure or pedicure 4. Take yourself on a shopping spree 5. Volunteer or give to a charity
WHAT HAPPENED TO MY VALENTINE? Do you feel alone even at home with your spouse and family? Do you wonder what happened to the love you once had for each other? Vanished love and missed genuine connection paralyze many couples. Despair turns some to alcohol, affairs, internet exploration, hobbies, or having children to fill the void of emptiness. How do couples evolve to this state and how it can be repaired?
Seven Ways to Celebrate Love All Year Whose idea was it to celebrate love one day of the year? I can’t stand Valentine’s Day. I know that might be a shock, seeing as how I’m a relationship coach, but hear me out. Having one day singled out to celebrate love takes the pressure off people to show their love all year round. It also puts pressure on people (men, mostly) to think they have to come up with the perfect gift or the perfect celebration.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Rick Nauert. Research in time for Valentine’s Day suggests a key indicator for a fulfilling and stable romantic relationship is a partner who recovers from conflict well. University of Minnesota scientists found that if your romantic partner recoups well after the two of you have a spat, you reap the benefits.