We're women. We're famous for it. We hide our power, give it away, put ourselves down, hold ourselves back or we don't acknowledge our own real power. We don't always acknowledge our power to shine, to make the most of our lives, to accept and to feel that we truly deserve the best life for ourselves.
“I’m dating skid-marks guy. When your boyfriend is so comfortable that he cannot be bothered to wipe his ass, there’s a problem.” – Miranda Hobbes You may be chuckling when you read this quote but getting too comfortable in your relationship may be the source of the lack of romance, or worse….lack of SEX. I don’t want to make generalizations because I know a-plenty of men that don’t do these things and likewise woman who would never touch some of these topics.
Dictionary.com defines intimacy as a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. While it may sound contradictory or harsh, the truth is that many of us have sex without being intimate. If you've had your share of one night stands, relationships with men or women that just didn't "get" you, or found yourself longing for a partner who would really feel like a partner, then perhaps what you really may be missing is intimacy.
People have a love-hate relationship with online dating. If they go on a couple good dates, they love it. A couple bad dates in one week? Not so much love. And then there are the people who are too afraid to give it a shot at all.
Being a "whisperer" is a booming new business. Whisperers can motivate the best behavior in wild, untamed horses, dogs, snakes, rats, and even ghosts. Would you like to apply the same motivational techniques in your social life to become a date whisperer?
Hopefully from reading Part II of this series, you're ready to shed any guilt, resentment, blame or shame about spending time with anyone. The goal of this series is to bring you a whole lot closer to true love by teaching you how to love yourself first. Now, it's time to tango! Can you trust your chemistry? Is your "picker" broken?
In the first segment to this series I said that 50% of the population has a “broken picker”. This is because Chemistry is a result of a “hard wired” energetic pattern you were born with. The old adage that “Men are attracted to women like their mothers” and “Women are attracted to men like their fathers” is true.
Recently I was chatting with a good friend of mine, and bless his heart…… one of his EX girlfriends….. was giving him the….. longest…… line about how hopeless life looked because she feared she’d be single forever AND he being the good guy he is… asked me what he could do to make her feel better.
Part of finding more dates is getting right with yourself. If you're too busy listening to the conversations in your head, then chances are that opportunities are passing you by right and left. If you are stuck on past failed attempts, how can you be successful at talking to the person right in front of you? When you engage in these destructive behaviors, your relationships continue to suffer.
How do you know when you’ve found “the One?” Allow me to first dispel a common myth. Most of us have more than one “the One” in our life. With very few exceptions, we will all experience more than one great love in our lives. Each person who shows up as a great love is there to teach us a lesson (or two) and to bring us closer to unconditional love. Everyone who shows up as love in your life is one of your soul mates. Did you know you had more than one soul mate? We all do.