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Why It's Okay for Men to Do Nothing, It Saves Marriages

Why It's Okay for Men to Do Nothing, It Saves Marriages

Men's bodies need the time to sit and do nothing. If you knew why men need time to relax, then will it save your relationship? I think it just may. Equally important, women need time to nurture themselves and connect with other women. Read on for the science behind the phenomenon. The stress-reducing hormone responsible for lowering your stress level is different depending on your gender. For men--the stress-reducing hormone is: TESTOSTERONE. For women--the stress-reducing hormone is: OXYTOCIN. The way we reduce our stress actually increases stress in the opposite sex.

Communication Using Imago

Communication Using Imago

COMMUNICATION USING IMAGO By Tammy Nelson, PhD The Imago Dialogue process is a type of communication developed by Harville Hendrix, the bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want, a book about communication and couple’s therapy.  The dialogue is a structured technique that you can use to talk to communicate when you are frustrated or just want to feel closer.  This dialogue  is a wayto talk about conflict in your relationship that lets you each feel heard.  To practice the technique, first ask your partner,

Soul Mate Love

Soul Mate Love

One question I get asked often when a client comes to me for guidance in finding a romantic partner is “ am I aiming too high”? Is it really possible for me to find a soul mate or is that something only found in fairy tales. After we have established that it is not only possible it is very worthwhile and can be one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have the conversation turns to the HOW. How does one go about finding a soul mate?

Five Spiritual Lessons Learned At The Rotary

Five Spiritual Lessons Learned At The Rotary

Close to my house, and on my way to just about every place I drive, there is a five way intersection. If you’ve ever been through a five way intersection, you know that things can get a little dicey when there are more than a couple cars at any one time. As long as everyone can count, and follows basic rules of courtesy, things can flow pretty smoothly. Introduce an uncertain or aggressive driver into the mix, however, and things can go bad very quickly!

Bouncing Back From Failure: 5 Keys To Emotional Resilency

Bouncing Back From Failure: 5 Keys To Emotional Resilency

 Emotional resilience—the ability to bounce back from failure, or perceived failure, and delay gratification—is at the heart of children's emotional and social development. A child going back to school, especially if she's changing schools and taking on more academic and social complexities, can feel as though she's taking the ultimate resliency test. As parents we see, hear and feel the emotional fallout at the end of the school day and desperately want to help our kids make it through these challenging transitions.

How To (Re)Ignite the Romance

How To (Re)Ignite the Romance

Say What You Need to Say I can not count the number of times I have I heard, “But, she knows I love her…I married her.” or “He knows how I feel.” Communication, as we all know, is a B-I-G D-E-A-L in relationships…the biggest. But, life happens and we forget. We become complacent. We assume that some things are understood. Then there are things that should have been said, that weren’t and things that never should have been said.

Knowing When to Call it Quits

Knowing When to Call it Quits

    Divorce is rampant in America; 50% of first marriages end in divorce, and over 70% of subsequent marriages fail as well. Even with those staggering statistics, some people stay in marriages that should have ended years, if not decades, ago. At the same time, many of the divorces that do happen could be prevented. I don’t judge people who’ve gotten divorced; I believe that everything happens in divine order.

Is Technology Damaging Our Relationships?

Is Technology Damaging Our Relationships?

I can’t lie to you. I love technology. I do. The gadgets, the games and the advancements that make our lives so much easier are a dream come true. There is however, no sweet without the bitter and no appreciation without the pain. But before we get to ‘the pain,’ I couldn’t perch myself atop a soapbox, blasting the ramifications of these fantasy items without providing a balanced appraisal of just how wonderful these toys can be.

The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship

The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship

Back in the 1970s—and I know I’m dating myself—a Yale law professor named Erich Segal penned a bestselling tearjerker called Love Story. His definition of love: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Straight out of the Woodstock era and ethos, it sounded good at the time. Freedom! No guilt! Just be yourself! Spread your wings and fly! It hasn’t worn well, though. Today it’s the other side of the coin we’re more likely to see: You don’t owe anyone anything.

Fueling and Feeding Your Body

Fueling and Feeding Your Body

Are you giving your body the right kind of gas? Okay, now that I have your full attention, it’s not the kind of gas you may be imagining. I thought this this might be worth sharing again especially since I’ve taken on a new challenge. And depending on what’s happening with your life right now, it’s a good reminder about the importance of valuing YOU.