Think back on your inner dialogue today. If you’ve like the average American woman, you have 13 negative thoughts about your body each day. Well, guess what? Your self-esteem has been listening, internalizing every perceived inadequacy. Here’s a question: do your thighs really make you unsexy? or does your negative perception of your thighs make you feel unsexy? It’s time to start treating our bodies with the same kid gloves we use on the ones we love—if not, it’s not just our self-esteem that suffers, it’s our whole sense of well-being, relationship satisfaction included.
Our relationships with our bodies is one of the most sensitive and critical relationships of our lives. The messages of abuse, tenderness, love, hate and everything in between that we send our bodies have a major impact on both body image and functionality. A study published on Glamour.com found that the average woman has 13 negative thoughts about her body each day with several women reporting 35, 50 and even 100 negative thoughts a day.
Why does your husband get cranky when you spend time with the kids? Why is he so demanding of your time when he knows you don’t have any!? A woman laments: “I don’t get it, Mom, he sees me dealing with the kids – diapering one, holding the other back from hitting the cat, and chasing the third down before he runs naked into the street - and all my husband does is get home from work, plop into the couch and complain “We never go out anymore”?!” “Men are like that,” her Mom says sympathetically.
The secret to success is feeling like your soulmate is here BEFORE he arrives. A Shaman's Lesson. In his book, Secrets of the Lost Mode of Prayer, Gregg Braden shares one of my favorite stories about accompanying a tribal shaman on a rain dance. He expected a big production of music, costumes and dance. However, he was quite surprised by what he saw.
By Meagan McCrary Sex is a topic that most of us can't help talking about. It’s not the guys who share intimate details of their latest conquest with their buddies — it’s the ladies. Most women love to gab about their sexcapades. And when we do, we typically don’t hold anything back.
When facing tough times in relationships, will you make the right choice? We've all heard the words a thousand times or more. "For better or for worse." But often when relationships hit the hard stuff, people find it easier to quit...to duck and run, than to stay put and work things through. There are, of course, situations that require leaving immediately such as being in danger. For that, you need to get immediate professional help and support.
What’s needed to understand the facts and determine if it's possible to create Better Marriages As an advocate of marriage, I pay very close attention to the current information about what’s happening for real people on the marriage front. Truth be told, all of it is a little confusing at times.
The other day, using my new iPad, I went on amazon.com, and ordered a copy of a new book with a very clever title: The consuming instinct: What juicy burgers, Ferraris, pornography, and gift-giving reveal about human nature. Dr. Saad has been a pioneer in bringing evolutionary ideas to the field of business. An overwhelming body of literature has demonstrated that human decision-making is influenced by adaptively motivated biases we inherited from our ancestors.