What makes you happy? Money? Cars? Vacations in Aspen? What if none of that existed? What if it took you years to achieve it? What would make you happy then? Thomas Jefferson may have gotten it wrong about the "pursuit of happiness." Lulu Lemon was more on the right page.
Wow. So many meanings to this. One story comes to mind specifically that I would love to share with you. So, I have an irrational fear of birds. I hate them. While some see beautiful, graceful creatures… I see dirty, disease filled, flying rats. No, I am not just talking about pigeons, although they are the worst. Seagulls (mine! mine!), crows (seriously?!)…. just ew. I understand this is irrational — however, it is the perfect example of how we all see things differently in our own little worlds.
When I was in my master’s degree program, one of the teachers presenting had us do a “self-care assessment.” I had never even heard the word self-care when she started presenting. We often forget to take care of the most important thing: ourselves. When we are on an airplane, the flight attendant tells us at the beginning of the flight that in the event of emergency to put our own oxygen mask on before helping other people – if we do not take care of ourselves, we cannot be there for those around us.
Have you ever heard the term self-care? I hadn’t until my Master’s Program orientation. The director of the department stands up in front of 15 of us. 15 bright-eyed people who all had a dream of becoming a therapist. The director stands up and says, “Well, this is going to be a lot of work… so, I want to talk to you all about self-care.” I drew a blank.
It happened again. You went out with some friends, and everyone hooked up with someone but you ended up alone, nursing your drink, making unnecessary trips to the bathroom to stare at yourself in the mirror and go, “Why? Why didn’t we connect?” Sometimes it’s timing, sometimes it’s chemistry. But often it’s because your unconscious body language sent the wrong, even the opposite signal to the person you want to attract. There are tons of body language books out there telling people how to hold their arms, or not to cross their legs.
Do you remember back in high school or college when you had this terrific guy that was hot and sexy in every way? He was simply perfect for you, or so you thought, so you were absolutely devastated when he dropped you. Nearly everyone has someone like this in their past. That's not the part that can continue to be a problem in your current and future relationships, though.
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My girlfriend, whom I’ll call Mary to protect her privacy, was sharing her frustration with me about her mother. Every time she talked to her mom she felt there was no real connection, no ability to have a meaningful conversation. Everything was always just fine according to her mother even when Mary knew otherwise. Mary’s angry that there’s no depth to their relationship and that her mother always has her head in the sand, living in denial about all aspects of her life and the family in particular.