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How To Calm Down After A Fight

How To Calm Down After A Fight

You’re on the couch and he’s in the bed, but neither of you is sleeping. After the heated argument over your summer vacation destination, he stomped angrily upstairs and you sit sobbing on the couch. He wants to go to camping with tents and backpacks and you want to stay at a resort by the ocean.

A Simple Relationship Success Test

A Simple Relationship Success Test

Many, many years ago when I was new in my search for figuring out who the heck I am and how I can make a better life or feel better about myself or something, I spent lots of time in a monthly workshop here in Los Angeles called “Making Love Work”. It was taught by the very young, unfamous married couple, John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) and his then wife, Barbara deAngelis. (John’s been married to his wife Bonnie for 26 years currently.)

The Pros and Cons of Being a Guys' Girl

The Pros and Cons of Being a Guys' Girl

By Julie Fishman If you do have trouble acting “normal” around men, you probably admire the guys’ girl, that rare breed of female that can almost automatically relate to dudes. From talking sports to tossing back drinks, these women seem completely comfortable in front of their male cohorts. However, I can tell you from experience that being a guys’ girl isn’t all fist pounds and high fives.

Love in the “Likes” of FaceBook

Love in the “Likes” of FaceBook

Mars Venus Coaching talks about social media and relationships. Today we use social media like FaceBook, MySpace, LinkedIn, and Twitter to check on the lives of many people whom we call family and “friends.” Our relationships run the gamut of son or daughter, to best friends from high school, college drinking buddies, alumni, acquaintances, co-workers, bosses, exes, and the nebulous is he or isn’t she my boyfriend/girlfriend?

Stop Your Internal Verbal Abuse

Stop Your Internal Verbal Abuse

Negativity is often a huge part of divorce, even when the divorce is conducted under the best of circumstances. In many cases a negative attitude habitually becomes the norm. When was the last time you paid attention to your self-talk? Are you telling yourself that you are fabulous, pretty, intelligent and amazing? Unfortunately, it is most likely, I can't do that, I'm not good enough, my body is too large, I don't have the right degree and...on and on and on! Sound familiar? Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D.

Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom

Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom

What is Emotional Dependency? Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, Lydia's emotional dependency was getting even worse. She was deeply addicted to Andrew making her feel better, if only through a brief text message.

Don't Forget to Laugh

Don't Forget to Laugh

“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” ~Victor Borge I forgot that I’m supposed to be having fun; I even forgot that I wanted to have fun. My anxiety levels matched to the first few pages of the daily news. Life was all seriousness and problem solving and I had forgotten how much fun there was to be had. It is easy to get blindsided by the day’s business, the details of caring for those we love and the onslaught of ever mounting cultural despair.

The Recession-Proof Relationship

The Recession-Proof Relationship

“I am convinced, both by faith and experience, that to maintain one’s self on the earth is not a hardship but a pastime- if we live simply and wisely.” -Henry David Thoreau We are living in anxious times. Improvements in our economy are inconsistent and our sense of security in the systems that we have long looked to for stability feels weak and fragile. There are no quick fixes for the long-term issues that have gotten us to this point and our governmental leaders are as fractured and disconnected as ever.

Another Reason to Hug

Another Reason to Hug

“A hug is a universal medicine, it is how we handshake from the heart.” -Anonymous For decades we’ve known that babies won’t thrive without physical holding and affection. There is little that will comfort and settle small children as the warm embrace of their family. Yet it is still not uncommon for parents to stop hugging their kids as they reach puberty.