We’ve long heard of premature ejaculation in men as a significant sexual dysfunction that many men experience. Premature ejaculation is when the man orgasms before he intends or wants to (for instance, long before the woman has had a chance to get close to her own orgasm).
Couples in long-term relationships often take each other for granted. Although our partners mean the world to us, sometimes we can get bogged down in the everyday pressures of life and we unknowingly ignore their sexy side. How can someone we once thought to be the sexiest person walking on the face of the earth slowly turn into more of a friend than a lover? Actually, this stage of a relationship is normal.
When I set out on a quest (for my book, 'Are All Guys Assholes?') to prove that guys aren't actually as bad as we assume, I thought women would embrace the message as good news. "Guys actually want relationships and care about more than just sex? That's awesome!" Instead, many of them have wanted fight me on it. I've been met with an army of "evidence" seemingly suggesting that my own research is wrong, and that the stereotype we have about men being commitment-phobic, sex-fiends is firmly rooted in scientific fact. The problem is, many of these so-called facts have been used to jump to faulty conclusions.
Secrecy and privacy are different, and understanding these differences may be crucial in your relationship. For instance, what if you think that talking to a friend of the opposite sex on the phone or having lunch together is simply a part of your private life and doesn’t need to be shared with your spouse? You are not purposely keeping it from them, but what if they find out? Will they feel that you were keeping the information from them?
"It's over, it's done and we won't ever talk about this again." Those were the words of my boyfriend when we walked out of the state hospital where my abortion happened. Well, one thing for sure...we never did talk about that.
Ah, the sex-and-run. For some, it's like being the victim of a crime. Like the hit-and-run, the sex-and-run catches you totally off guard. It often involves alcohol or drug use by one or both parties. It usually happens after dark and much more quickly than you'd ever imagine. One minute you are talking, ignoring anything but the moment, guard down. The next, it's like something creeps up on a girl like The Situation on 'The Jersey Shore.'
Robert Frost said it best in his famous quote, “I can sum life up in three words- IT GOES ON.” Unless you live under a rock or in a the world’s biggest bubble, a relationship, maybe an important one to you, has gone belly-up. Maria left Arnold, J-Lo walked away from Mark-Anthony , and Jennifer dealt with the angst and upset of her very public divorce with Brad. Heartache, struggle, humiliation, sadness, rage, pain, defeat… and ultimately triumph are a part of the human condition.
Perhaps we've all had an intimate partner who has said or done things to us that seem simply unforgivable. Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. Maybe you were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration.
It doesn't seem to make sense: You used to be best friends, but now you can't go a day without fighting. Your partner says something that triggers you - you feel attacked or devalued - and you react: Maybe you yell, slam the door and walk out, or you shut down and refuse to continue the conversation. Looking back, it may be hard to tell how you even got into the argument in the first place. It might have been something very subtle that made you see red: a smirk, rolled eyes, a certain body posture, or tone of voice.
Goin' Through The Big D. That was the title and chorus of a song I loved in high school ... nice country twang, good lyrics and a toe-tappin' beat made it easy to dance to and listen loud as I drove through my hometown. I thought it was a fun song and a good, lighthearted way to talk about divorce. Of course, that was until I went through 'the big D' myself. Suddenly, it wasn't so funny.