When we feel out of control, we feel helpless, powerless or hopeless. When we're sick, worried about finances, feeling a sense of lack or just woke up on the wrong side of the bed, the need to be in control increases. Subconsciously, we tell ourselves we are a victim, not lovable or not good enough. We get angry at our situation and try to control whatever or whomever else we can. You can be sure that the power struggles aren't far behind as we jockey to be heard, to be right, to tell our partner how to do things. Thinking someone or something has "happened to us", we talk over one another or diverge from the agenda at hand all in the name of eliminating the uncomfortable tension of the situation. It seems like the harder we try to control another person, the more we lose it ourselves. Can you relate?
February - the Month of Love. For singles hoping to be couples, February can be a month of loneliness and agony instead. For centuries, poets have captured this pain with a romantic sincerity. This pain is powerful and can make us do the most ridiculous things in the name of finding Happily Ever After, especially with so many potential mistakes being available to us at the stroke of a keyboard.
Over the years I have had so many different kids of friendships. When we're kids we share toys and have fun sleepovers. As adults we can be friends first and trying dating second... oops, that doesn't really work now does it? Then there's the notion of becoming a couple and hopefully friends too, ouch!
Today’s couple building assignment is to snuggle on the couch for an evening and talk, without turning the TV on. This positive interaction will especially fill the love tank of anyone who has “Quality Time” as a primary Love Language. When children enter the picture, it’s very easy for the couple relationship to morph into a sort of business partnership.
Many have their own personal laundry list of qualities for the "ideal mate." Some of the items on the laundry list might include: loyal, kind, attractive, generous or successful. The technical term for meeting our laundry list is called the self-ideal-perception consistency. But what happens when our date does not meet all of the requirements on our laundry list? Can we change him to meet our expectations? Does he meet enough of our laundry list to qualify to be a cookie mate?
5 Tips for Family Resilience - Bounce Back From Adversity © Judy Helm Wright http://www.judyhwright Family resilience is the ability to bounce back from the adversities and bad luck that befall us. No family or individual is immune from misfortune and tragedy. Daily life is filled with challenges to individual members of the family and sometimes to the family unit itself.
The only sexuality education I received in secondary school (or high school in the U.S.) was in the form of annual school talks presented by pharmaceutical companies promoting sanitary pads or tampons (depending where they were from). The boys got to first jeer at us, as they went out to play in the sun. We, the young ladies, had the burden of listening to instruction on menstruation and the need to clean up after ourselves.
Count the Compliments Its nearly Valentines Day, which means the season of love is upon us! I have a little project for all of you - count all the compliments that you receive this month - even the little ones. I guarantee that you'll be positively glowing by Feb 14th, when you open your eyes and start paying attention! Yes, even those ones from your mom or your best friend count :) Give Compliments
Many people identify approaching a potential partner as still being one of their biggest fears! In this article, I've decided to use my experience of getting over stage fright, to help you boost your confidence to approach that special person who’s caught your eye! I will never forget the first time I sang in public. I was put in a position where I was performing in front of an audience of about 120 people.
At the risk of sounding like I’m going back to caveman times, the secret of a true sizzler is when a man is in his masculine and a woman is in her feminine (your "core energy"). Relationships are like batteries....if you put them into a TV remote control the wrong way around, they are NOT going to work. They need that spark! For the men, this means not being afraid of taking charge and taking care of your lady. For the ladies, don't be afraid of using your femininity; we all know how to do it, but don't do it often enough.