I was people-watching at a posh restaurant while waiting for my friend to join me. People with money, power, expensive clothes, cars, and dates arrived. I began wondering what I was doing; was the great food going to somehow make this display of affluence okay? I was underdressed and evaluating that in my mind, when all of a sudden I heard someone laugh. It wasn't the laugh that caught my attention, but rather the lack of laughter from most of the guests there. In fact, prior to her laugh, people had the right clothes and accessories, but none of them looked very happy. These people were what Sidney Sheldon would call social skeletons.
Halloween is the perfect time for expressing your wild side with adventurous role-playing and sexy costumes. It can be a lot of fun for you and your partner to dress up and go out to a party, or just stay home in costume as you hand out candy to the trick-or-treaters. Afterwards, take your role-playing into the bedroom and really spice up the cool October evening. Taking on different characters can add excitement and variety to your relationship, as you have the opportunity to explore your secret fantasies and private fetishes.
The focus of this article is to elaborate on two related themes: One, the differences between resentful compliance and commitment; Two, how understanding those differences can alter the course of a relationship. Resentful Compliance Resentful compliance is an agreement that is not an agreement, but sounds like one. Right away you can see the potential problems resentful compliance might spawn.
Believe what you hear, divorce is hard. Actually, that's an understatement. Divorce is devastating. Other than perhaps the death of a family member, the severing of what was expected to be a lifelong union is about as emotionally crippling as any life as experience an individual will ever survive. I speak from experience. Multiply that agony by ten if there are children involved. Even when the divorce is amicable, as mine was over a decade ago, the massive weight of the realization that the world you had built with your soon-to-be-ex and the end of your journey with a person who at some point was the closest person in the world to you is downright smothering. It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. If you honestly believe that, you've never been through a divorce.
A couple weeks ago, I saw the Anna Ferris “What’s Your Number?” movie. In case you haven’t seen it or a preview of the film, it has nothing to do with guys using lame pick-up lines at bars to get phone numbers written on napkins. Or, ummm, entered in the iPhone 5.
When you're looking for love it's a struggle not to get impatient and to put your trust in Divine Timing. The longer it takes, the more desperate you feel and the harder you have to work at keeping the faith that it's going to happen. There's a contradiction you have to work through: that as much as you need to hold the vision of the man and relationship you want in your mind -- you also need to be able to stop focusing on it and let it go.
Men and women can be so completely opposite sometimes in how they think, act and communicate. They might as well be from different planets! We’ve all heard the old saying, Women are from Venus. Men are from Mars. Well there is a lot more to that aphorism that dates back several centuries – not suggesting that we come from other planets, rather our universal gender traits stem from ancient archetypes from Greek mythology; the goddess Venus and the god Mars.
I recently returned from a trip to Italy and I was captivated at how comfortable women are with their bodies, every curve, every hair strand, every toe nail. They embrace the figure they were born with (no matter the shape or size) and work every body part to their advantage. They are at ease with the fact that men love to look at women and women love to be admired by men. In fact, male and female courtship is a regular discussion at the dinner table.
When I was little I was told that if I became a Brownie, I’d get to play games, visit zoos and learn to make Oreo cookies. Instead, I had to sing sobering songs around a creepy wooden owl. I was also taught needlepoint (ugh). This wasn’t the first time I thought I had scored only to be sorely disappointed. In high school, I was told that if I took band class I’d make friends, meet boys and learn the drums. In truth, I was stuck with a recorder that was shared among the other students. When I wouldn’t wrap my mouth on it, I was suspended for being insolent (right…because not wanting to swap communal gob somehow made me the bad guy, ugh!).
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Erika Krull. Good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Many marriages could be saved if spouses improved the ways they communicate with each other.