2012 is quickly approaching and many of us will start thinking of resolutions for the New Year. It can actually feel uplifting to begin a new plan such as joining a gym to get fit, writing one page a day for the next Great American novel, or more prosaically, keeping up with your inbox). But, as most of us know, the novelty wears off as we get bored and discouraged. We’re suddenly confronted with the day to day challenge of sustaining our goals. Unexpected events throw us off course. We need to stay late at work, we can’t leave our smart phone or a relative gets sick. Disappointingly, one day of missing the goal then leads to missing the next and next day, until we feel defeated and our goal is abandoned.
Once upon a time you guys talked for hours...about nothing. Now you read each others minds. Not that it is bad to know each other so well. It can just be a bit quiet around the house. Creating experiences with one another is what will light up the embers of romance. The simpler the better. When you don't fuss about details, you have more to bring to your time with your mate.
Hypnotizing a woman is not the key to getting her to fall in love with you, or even to move past the "friendzone". The secret to connecting with the one you're falling for is to make sure both parties feel the same way. If she does not want to move past being friends, then no amount of hypnotizing is going to work. The other key to love success is gaining self-esteem in who you are and what you want.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. As you’re creating your resolutions for 2012, don’t forget about your relationship. Making goals together can greatly improve your relationship in the New Year. Below, Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, offers seven resolutions to help improve your relationship.
There are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described all-important goal? Are you doing the same routine each day, expecting things to be different? Are you staying closed in your head and your heart, unwilling to learn to better understand and love men...and yourself?
My phone rang one afternoon at 3:45 pm, and on the other end was silence. I said “Hello,” but there was no answer. I waited a moment, said “Hello” again, and finally I heard a shy, quiet male voice asking if I liked men who wore stockings. Well, truthfully, I never really thought about men in stockings, or panties, high heels, or anything. I just never really thought about cross-dressers. I was all of the sudden very curious and very interested in learning about this “new” fetish.
"Why would my boyfriend cheat on me?" "I'm pretty sure my wife is cheating on me. I want to know why." "I know that my husband has been cheating on me for years. I don't get why he does this." Why do people cheat on their partners? Why do others have affairs that their partners know about? Here are some of the reasons for cheating that I have encountered in my many years of counseling.
Recently, my son and his long-time girlfriend, with whom I had a close relationship, broke up and although these things happen usually for the best, I couldn’t help but feel saddened by the news. I could not imagine just letting her slip out of my life as if she had never been there and mattered, so I decided to give her a compassion call. Well, according to some, you would have thought that this was absolutely the worst imaginable decision I could have ever made! I heard things like this: