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Change Your Mind & Open Your Life!

Change Your Mind & Open Your Life!

I can’t tell you how to live your life or what to think, but I can share with you what I have learned and what has helped me in my life. I am a sex therapist. I consider myself to be predominantly hetero-sexual, but I am open to whatever feeling possess me on any given day because I also believe that sexuality is fluid, in that in changes and that our sexuality lay on a continuum, with hetero-sexuality being on one extreme, and homo-sexuality being on the opposite extreme. Most people fall somewhere in between.

Gay Relationship Compatibility—Am I Attracted To You?

Gay Relationship Compatibility—Am I Attracted To You?

Gay Relationship Compatibility tends to be measured by one “super criteria;” that being “Am I attracted to you?”  Unfortunately, the other criteria that ought to be used to consider the compatibility of a partner are, for many gay men, these other criteria take a distant second place to this one over-riding question. If I don’t feel that special feeling in my body when I look at and interact with you, then there is no reason to take it any farther.

Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane?
You CAN control your emotions!

Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane?

Anger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively. If it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger that is allowed to get out of control is as destructive as a hurricane, but anger that is expressed in healthy ways can “clear the air” just as a mild rainstorm does. If you express your anger clearly and cleanly, without too much drama, it will be like a cleansing rain, leaving you calm and relaxed. The problem will then be solved.

Starve Yourself Or Spend Hours In The Gym?

Starve Yourself Or Spend Hours In The Gym?

Starve yourself or spend hours in the gym? What’s a girl to do to have a healthy, sexy body? You can argue whether diet or exercise is more effective in your weight loss. Fact is that both matter. You need both. Just like you need all the ingredients to bake up a recipe. Leave something out and it's not going to taste right. To promote successful weight loss you also need all the pieces to mix together. Diet and exercise do not work alone.

Rush Limbaugh's Bold Remarks On Relationships & Marriage
Don't let someone like Rush Limbaugh ruin your relationship!

Rush Limbaugh's Bold Remarks On Relationships & Marriage

Not only is Rush Limbaugh way wrong on his comments about Georgetown University student Sandra Fluke but there's an even bigger problem that affects relationships and marriages everywhere when someone with a large audience or platform like Rush makes derogatory comments about women like the ones he made recently.

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The above statement was released by Rush Limbaugh in regards to his Sandra Fluke comments.

Sandra Fluke & The S.L.U.T. Hypocrisy

S.L.U.T: A solely, liberated, unbiased truth-teller. If this is true, then I'm game. As a matter of fact, I am a s.l.u.t and I know quite a few who men who share this distinguished title. Recently, Rush Limbaugh slammed Sandra Fluke, a law student at Georgetown, when she spoke in front of the House Democratic Steering and Policy Committee about increasing help from insurance companies for women receiving contraception. Afterward, Limbaugh called her a variety of derogatory names, including "slut" and "prostitute." Now, he has been slammed where it hurts the most, his wallet.

Help For When Your Spouse Won't Go To Therapy

Help For When Your Spouse Won't Go To Therapy

The scenario of one spouse recognizing that therapy might be useful to look at a troubled relationship while the other is resistant has several possible explanations. It may be that your partner has become too anxious as a product of interpreting your request for counseling as a sign that the relationship is in serious danger, and may only have the strength to defend against the anxiety by denial and non-participation.

How To Deal With An Angry Spouse

How To Deal With An Angry Spouse

How to Deal With an Angry Spouse John Gerson, Ph.D, It is important to differentiate the spouse whose anger is a healthy response to various partner insufficiencies, such as lack of attunement, inadequate empathy, neglect, poor partner functioning -in short anger as a protest to loss of love and safety – and anger which is more characterological, i.e., independent of what’s going on situationally.

How Sandra Fluke Relates To 'The Myth Of Feminine Evil'
Sandra Fluke's primitive impulses and behaviors have led to a great deal of controversy!

How Sandra Fluke Relates To 'The Myth Of Feminine Evil'

"The Myth of Feminine Evil" is the tile of a noteworthy volume published by H.R. Hays in 1964. This work occurs to me in the effort to explain the phenomenon of men degrading women for their sexuality. In "The Myth of Feminine Evil," Hays identifies the primitive custom of banning the menstruating woman from working in the fields, lest her fecundity taint the season’s crops. It is unfortunate that a variation of this practice is seen today in some strata of Arab culture, as evidenced by the stoning of women who have had sexual congress with men outside of marriage, and the acceptance of the brothers of such women killing their sisters to remove what is considered the "blight of shame of family honor."

Boomerang Men: Why Exes Come Running Back
Have you ever dated a "Boomerang Man?"

Boomerang Men: Why Exes Come Running Back

BOOMERANG: (noun) A curved piece of wood; when properly thrown will return to thrower. BOOMERANG MAN: Annoying; a man that a woman has stopped being romantically involved with who gets in contact for unknown reasons. (See booMANerang.)