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Creating Your Own Happiness

Creating Your Own Happiness

I'd like to give a special shout-out to Hannah Marcotti and her amaaazing program The Joy Up which was the inspiration for this post. If she offers The Joy Up again......y'all should get in on it. It came as huge news to me a few years ago when I learned that it isn't actually possible to be happy all the time. I was stunned. And confused.

Satisfy Him Without Going All The Way

Satisfy Him Without Going All The Way

Most of the time we have no problem getting it on with our significant other. But once in a while there may be something preventing you from doing the deed. Maybe you're hugely pregnant or post-partum. Maybe you're injured. Perhaps Aunt Flo's in town or there's just no birth control on hand. It can be tempting to just roll over and go to sleep, but according to sex expert, Jaiya, author of Red Hot Touch and founder of New World Sex Education--staying sexually close, even when you can't go all the way--is important.

Stop "Existing," Start "Living"

Stop "Existing," Start "Living"

The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation ~Thoreau If you have eyes to see, you’ll see it everywhere. If you listen carefully, you’ll hear it. Most times, logging into Facebook provides an overwhelming dose of it. Desperation. It looks a lot like the person who can’t wait for the weekend. It sounds like the person who walks into the office saying “I hate Monday!!”. It’s the person who hates their job but needs the money.

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From Gal Pal To Girlfriend In 3 Easy Steps!

You're already best buds. But when you look at him, you want something more. So how do you turn that BFF into a BF — and go from gal pal to girlfriend? We asked Galtime Dating Coach Dr. Jenn Oikle, Ph.D. of My Soulmate Solution for some pointers. First up — how do you know if your guy pal may be looking for more?

Are Other People's Problems Ruining Your Relationships?

Are Other People's Problems Ruining Your Relationships?

Have you ever had the experience of being overwhelmed by problems? Most people have. But, what about feeling overwhelmed by problems that aren't even your own, but belong to somebody else? If this has happened to you, keep reading to learn what to do about it and how to take care of yourself if it happens again.

Love Outlook: Update Your Fairytale

Love Outlook: Update Your Fairytale

As children, most girls are introduced to Disney movies before the ability to speak in complete sentences. While Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast and The Little Mermaid are inspirational on many levels, the fairytale element is the same: Guy likes girl, guy woos girl, guy and girl live happily ever after.

Men And The Raw Deal They're Getting

Men And The Raw Deal They're Getting

I realize the dangerousness of my actions. I’m betraying my sex by talking about how hard men have it. It almost seems like a crime against nature. I’m willing to embrace the fallout (in a public women’s forum, no less), for the sake of the greater good. We’re at the height of a relationship revolution and if you decide to be one of the proactive few that apply this information, your boyfriend or husband will pay you back in kind. I’m here to say, men are getting a raw deal.

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Got Willpower? How To Fight Fast Food Cravings

A new book on willpower asserts that it's a muscle. That is, you can strengthen it with practice, and you can exhaust it with stress and overuse. This makes sense, and years of research back the idea. For those trying to eat differently — to lose weight or simply to choose more wisely — the strength of this muscle can determine whether change occurs or not. As with physical exercise, many of us struggle to start and stick with it. However, even those who can flex the muscle in other situations can find it too weak to budge when it comes to food. So if self-control's a muscle, why can't you exercise it here, too?

The Two Choice Dilemma

The Two Choice Dilemma

David Schnarch, PhD, founder of Crucible Therapy and author of Passionate Marriage, wrote about the two choice dilemma. I have to confess that when I read about it, I thought it was redundant. Of course a dilemma involves choosing between two things.
 Schnarch coined the phrase over a decade ago. He used the phrase to define what happens when you want two things to happen, but only one can actually happen.

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3 Ways To Overcome The Stress Of Infertility

Infertility often becomes a personal nightmare. Women faced with infertility tend to be emotionally overwhelmed, experiencing a rainbow of emotions including sadness, frustration, shame, anxiety and fear, including thoughts like 'What if we can't ever get pregnant?' You never get a break from being infertile. As a result of the emotional struggle with infertility, women also commonly experience low self-esteem, wondering, 'What is wrong with me?!' Infertility often becomes a personal nightmare. Women faced with infertility tend to be emotionally overwhelmed, experiencing a rainbow of emotions including sadness, frustration, shame, anxiety and fear, including thoughts like 'What if we can't ever get pregnant?' You never get a break from being infertile. As a result of the emotional struggle with infertility, women also commonly experience low self-esteem, wondering, 'What is wrong with me?!'