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The Real Reason It Didn't Work Out
There's always something new to learn, Even when your heart's in pieces.

The Real Reason It Didn't Work Out

"Nothing good together ever breaks apart." When I finally learned to embrace those words endings, no matter how abrupt or painful, no longer stopped me in my tracks or left me feeling as though the rug had been pulled from underneath my feet.

New Pillow Talk Connects Long Distance Lovers

New Pillow Talk Connects Long Distance Lovers

Long distance relationships aren't fun and they last for what seems like forever. They make you yearn for your lover morning, day and especially night.  Now, with Pillow Talk, you can at least cuddle with the thought that he is sleeping at the same time you are with a paired pillow. How?

What Kind Of Man Is Right For Kim Kardashian?

What Kind Of Man Is Right For Kim Kardashian?

Here’s a fascinating question that landed in my inbox recently:   Hey Scot: I don't even know if this is worth asking but can you write a newsletter on what kind of man would be right for Kim Kardashian? Is she even what you consider a high quality woman? She is not someone that I would go for personally. She is great to look at but there is something missing. Thanks a million, Isaac

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How to tell if he's running away emotionally.

3 Signs He's Not The Marrying Kind

I want to spare you the disappointment of getting your hopes up over a man who's going to waste your time, get you to fall for him and then leave. You can find out early in a relationship which men are good prospects for marriage and avoid a lot of heartache. But you need to pay attention, you can't sweep things you don't want to see under the rug or pretend they don't matter. You don't want to make the mistake of giving up your heart and your freedom to a man who only wants to use you.

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For kids, dealing with divorce is easier than having unmarried, cohabitating parents.

Get Hitched For The Kids: Why Cohabitation Isn't Enough

The popular view is often not the truth, and cohabitation is one of those times. Living together prior to marriage is still one of the best predictors for divorce and if you have a child in that union prior to marriage you set them up for an unstable life. The latest research has found that for children, going through a divorce is more stable than being raised by a cohabitating couple. Many couples find someone with whom they can relate or have sex, and before you know what is happening they decide they will live together. They tell me or anyone listening that they want to make sure they are compatible.

Some Simple Facts About Anger

Some Simple Facts About Anger

ANGER IS A FEELING— There is a difference between feelings and actions. As a man, you have learned to emphasize action over feelings. In order to deal more effectively with your anger, you must separate the emotion of anger from feeling like you have to act it out in any way, on others or on yourself. Although I will give you some ideas on how to focus and discharge your anger, there really is no need to do anything when you are angry other than feel it.

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Are you giving the green light to bad behavior in your relationship?

Do You Enable Bad Behavior?

There is a way to be lovingly strict. I am referring to the boundaries and limits you set in relationships that send the message that you have needs which deserve to be respected.

Managing Stress in Modern Times

Managing Stress in Modern Times

We are in an ever-accelerating “hurry up” culture, one in which human beings are required to make remarkable adaptations to increasingly technologically driven lifestyles and consumer-oriented pressures. This spiraling pace requires us to move so quickly that we tend to override and become desensitized to our bodily sensations and our feelings. In this anesthetized state we ironically require more stimulation— bigger, better, newer, louder, faster— just to grab and hold our attention.

Compassionate Listening

Compassionate Listening

Too often we think of listening as waiting for the other person to stop talking so we can get our opinion, feelings, or thoughts expressed. Although this is a common habit, with your willingness and steady practice you can develop the very fundamental skill of listening into a true art form, one that conveys compassion for the other. Here I offer three simple steps to work with: Hearing, Absorbing, and Reflecting.