WARNING: I will be ranting today! I have some major energy in the above topic. So, if you are easily offended or sensitive, please stop reading now and return for a later blog! That said, let’s chat about tolerance versus acceptance. I see the word “tolerance” everywhere…teach kids tolerance, we need to tolerate others, human resources departments that have tolerance policies…ugh! This drives me crazy. The reality is that tolerance is much different and less positive than acceptance!
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.
As a therapist who sees teenagers, I get this questioned posed to me often…Stacy, I don’t want my child to drop out of school, but they refuse to go and I don’t know what to do. What should I do? I often approach this topic from “what is your child communicating to the rest of us that we aren’t hearing?”
One thing you can usually depend on with men (other than leaving the toilet seat up), is that you can take our words at face value. Our speech is primarily goal-oriented and our words can be taken literary. One important example to the contrary, however, is the phrase, “I’ll call you.” On the surface, this phrase sounds simple enough: Three little words that seem to promise a future interaction.
This decision about whether to stay in or leave your relationship is important. It is not just you and your partner who will be affected, it is an even more significant decision. These six questions can help you decide whether to stay in or leave your relationship:
There is no real test that you take before marriage, and couples are not usually open to talking about their expectations when it comes to sex in marriage. As a clinical sexologist I have studied couples sexual habits and worked with many couples on improving their sex lives for years. There are a few factors that go into sexual compatibly, many are psychological, but some are on a chemical biological level couples may not realize at first.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Candy Czernicki Otto von Bismarck, the German statesman, once said that “Love is blind; friendship tries not to notice.” It’s a lovely sentiment, and often true. When you love someone, after all, you love all of them — the cute, sweet parts and the ucky, evil parts both. When you’re really good friends, you notice all that stuff but try to look past it, even though you don’t have to.
As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing. I couldn't help thinking, "these are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?" As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke.
Do you remember where you were when Marilyn Monroe died 50 years ago? I remember her death even though I was just a little girl in summer camp learning how to shoot an arrow. Marilyn had a lot of arrows in her quiver in the form of timeless wisdom.