I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even marry you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults. And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage. And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that promise.-Thornton Wilder
I hate rules. I hate telling women to follow them. I like offering mindful 'dos' and 'don'ts' that women can use as guidelines to make sure they are on track with acting like one half of a considerate, respectful, loving, and caring whole. Rules, on the other hand, seem stifling and repressing to a woman’s individuality. I think, however, that the following rule is very empowering and actually helps relieve women of stifling insecurities and releases repressed sexual urges. So I will allow myself to suggest it. Here it is:
Whether your summer breakup still stings, your fall heartbreak feels fresh, or your holiday heartache has yet to happen, one thing’s for sure. The holiday season is here and dealing with a broken heart can be especially tough during these “feel good” months. After all, there are holiday gatherings to attend, mistletoe to stand under (GASP – alone!), and happy couples cozying up to one another wherever you turn.
One method of dealing with stress is learning how to recognize and talk back to that internal critic you have in your head. Write down all the self-critical thoughts going through your mind. Write down why these thoughts are incorrect. Then, practice talking back to them, explaining why they are wrong.
by Gregg DeMammos The holidays present couples with extraordinary challenges and opportunities for relationship and personal growth. If we look ahead at what we already know will happen, we can challenge ourselves to rise to the occasion better than ever before. Making agreements as a couple will support the two of you being on the same page, which can be vital as all heck breaks loose as it inevitably does during holiday time. We can also use these opportunities outside of the family situation and bring it into the workplace.
Holidays are prime time for out-of-town family to show up on your doorstep – or for you to appear on theirs. You might think that sharing space with mom, dad, or siblings will put quite a damper on your sex-life, but it actually doesn’t have to cramp your style. In fact, those “walls with ears” can even set the scene for a hotter happy holiday. Here's how.
This topic may be taboo for some and a reality for others. If you have dated for any length of time you have been a “Booty Call” a time or two. Yes, this means you! There is no shame in it, hell there has even been a movie titled Booty Call. Some of us have been a willing “Booty Call” and others have been one unsuspectingly.
If you are in the process of divorcing or are recently divorced, please know that you are not alone. The feelings and thoughts you are having are typical, universal, and even healthy – as long as you process them in a healthy manner. Fear, denial, guilt, failure, self-doubt, anger, low self-esteem, sadness, anxiety may all be present. Divorcing a spouse is often an emotionally-charged transition, a life change replete with mental, physical, emotional, even spiritual hurdles.
Now that the holidays are looming and people are ramping up for parties and gatherings of all kinds, I'm starting to hear single people murmuring about wanting to shrink and hibernate for a while. They admit they don't find the glamour of the holidays quite as tinsel perfect as their dating and married friends.