"There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others." - John Lennon
We all have the times in our lives when we feel like absolutely nothing is going our way. The daily stresses we face can make us feel completely inundated with bad luck. Perhaps we have too many problems to face, and do not even see a way out of our difficulties. How can one even begin to start solving so many problems?
Is there something new you would like to see happen in your life this year? Here is one of the questions I often get asked by clients who are working on their Visions. “ how do I choose what I want to include” Some ask this because they don’t think they know what they want, others inquire because they have too many wonderful ideas and desires that they are overwhelmed and get exhausted before they even start.
Do you allow your kids to give you the joy of laughter? Do you let yourself play long enough to get the joke? Do you even take the time to hear them when they are funny...even if they don't intend to be? Do you factor in the self confidence and self worth they derive when you express your appreciation for them through your laughter? Live a little—Laugh a little!
Does this sound like your family? You are a Type A personality. You’re driven, intense and focused primarily on your career. You tend to look at yourself as having to be perfect, are impatient with co-workers and subordinates who are slower than you or who don’t share your passion about their work and careers.
Have you ever had this conversation with a group of your girlfriends at a bar, “OMG, check him out, he’s damn cute. I know he’s been checking us out all night. Why doesn’t he come over and say ‘Hi’?” Well, I’m about to shed some light on why that cute guy doesn’t dare approach you. Once this secret is revealed, you will better know how to position yourself and act like a magnet to any guy anywhere anytime.
Teenagers are amazing. They’re tough, they’re needy. They laugh at their friends’ awful jokes, then look at you like you’re from some other planet. They can’t sleep or sleep too much. They’re far more sensitive than they let on, but won’t ever admit it. They take risks with no thought for consequences, insist that pizza is a major food group, take “stands” on issues that you don’t think are important, and expect mom to be taxi-therapist-cheerleader-nurse while never giving you enough information.
Getting tired of the constant battles with your teenager? You are not alone! Parenting teens is one of the toughest jobs in the universe, and you often struggle with how best to create healthy relationships, enforce good boundaries, and help your teen as they navigate through this challenging growing up process. Parenting teenagers can make you question your parenting ability, push all your emotional "buttons", and create a home atmosphere of overwhelming stress.
As a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and former therapist my job is to help clients uncover patterns of behavior that sabotage their goal of finding love. My specialty is preparing Singles over 40 to return to the dating world, date more mindfully, and gain the highest level of results in their dating lives. Having worked as a Dating Coach and Matchmaker since 2005, I have seen recurring themes in my clients that have sabotaged budding relationships. Here are the five biggest pitfalls I have noticed.