I glanced down at the scale and shame rushed up from my toes. 219. Me. Svelte Soul Sister Singer of the LIght. I couldn't even look myself in the eye in my bathroom mirror. Before now, when my clients complained to me about putting on weight for no reason at all or swear to me that they never eat a thing after 4 pm, I really didn't buy it.
Analysts everywhere speculate about the rise of the divorce rate over the past 75 years in the United States. There are many different theories on the reason behind this. The divorce rates in the United States are alarming! 45% for a first marriage and over 60% for a second marriage. But before I share my theory of why divorce has been so steadily on the rise, let's look at the plight of women in the United States over the past hundred years.
in part 1, our heroine declared she was ready to enter the realm of romance again. She had been a virgin bride and was now a widow after 30+ years of difficult marriage. Her three children had left the nest and she had recently participated in “the teenage crush rejection experience” .
Jenny is irritated and worried. It seems that her fiance, Nick, has been ignoring her for the past several weeks. Sure, he talks to her and shares meals with her, but he seems distant and far away. He forgot their dinner date the other night which he's never done-- ever.
Dr. Adam Ostrzenski, a surgeon and retired professor of gynecology working in St. Petersburg, has reported that he has been able to find the G-Spot in a cadaver. Verifying the existence of the G-Spot has been a controversy for decades and I find the scientific search for it charming and interesting, but the way discussions about the G-Spot unfold tend to frustrate me and, I believe, highlight some of the damaging ways we approach sex in our culture.
Sometimes a coaching series can feel like cleaning out our life's closet: out with the old, keep what still works, and make room for the new. Quite literally, one's self image can also change in the process and the closet does need a cleanout! That old frumpy dress won't match with the new confident and inspired you, or the weight loss puts a whole new world of wardrobe opportunities at your fingertips.
As parents, we are in a role of teaching our children so many things to help them prepare for adulthood. It is an important job, a difficult job and a very rewarding one. Our primary goal to to ensure that our children enter adulthood with sufficient skills in the areas of education, relationships, emotions and basic life skills so that they need to navigate successfully, both professionally and personally.family in sunset
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi This is a wonderful quote to think about when you are in a relationship or seeking one. Often, in my work with couples, I have found that the tension and negative cycle that they get stuck in are really about their underlying feelings - their hurt, shame, or sadness when needs for attachment are not being met and/or when fears about abandonment and loss of the other arise.
One of my female clients, who desires to get married and have a family, has been dating her current boyfriend for at least six months. She is 37 and he is 42. Both have never been married before. In our last coaching session she said, “When I was s.ingle….” as if she were referring to a life long past. That phrase made the hair in the back of my neck stand up! What I had to remind her was that, “technically, you are still single!” According to her tax returns she is single and especially according to her parents and family members she is still s.ingle!
When we take the 1550s English Proverb “practice makes perfect” to heart, we put unnecessary pressure and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. It can also keep us locked into our comfort zones and afraid of trying something different for fear of failing. Love relationships give us vast opportunities to practice communicating openly, expressing ourselves, allowing our partner to be and do what’s best for them, being open to how our relationship unfolds, etc.