As divorce rates in the U.S. were rising by the end of World War II, so were fears over the state of marriage and family life. Skyrocketing rates sent many couples to seek expert advice to bolster their marriages. During this time, the idea that marriage could be saved—and a divorce prevented—with enough work gained ground, according to Kristin Celello, assistant professor of history at Queens College, City University of New York, in her fascinating book Making Marriage Work: A History of Marriage and Divorce in the Twentieth-Century United States. A slew of experts stepped in to help American couples strengthen their unions...and with some interesting suggestions.
Jennifer Aniston's love life is better than she’s ever had it, and her new beau Justin Theroux is different than any other man she’s dated before. But, it's missing one critical ingredient for their relationship to last.
"Adam" recently wrote me with this question: "Should I be tolerant when it comes to a girlfriend hanging out with ex-lovers? They are not people she dated, but people she has slept with. Recently, she blew me off for a “friend” coming into town and I found out the “friend” was someone she had a threesome with..."
I am delighted that you are reading this post. Helps me prove my point. Headlines with a bit of naughtiness get noticed. Cheryl Hines was on the Ellen Show this morning talking about her new hit TV show, Suburgatory. I always loved her on Curb Your Enthusiasm on HBO, and her performance as new and hot-to-trot divorcee Dallas Royce on the new ABC sitcom is delicious.
In the 1700s the prominent belief was that people would have to be threatened and punished to do good deeds for one another. The common saying was that people had to “be threatened with hell, and promised heaven” in order to be positive players in society. Along came Frances Hutcheson, philosopher and teacher, who noticed that people are at their happiest when they are helping another human being. It was recognized that stepping outside of oneself and not being self-absorbed lead to the happiest of times.
Most people are not conscious of when they are operating from their ego wounded self – the part of them that wants to control. They generally don't know they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don't remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. Therefore, trying to talk about a difficult or painful situation after the fact generally doesn't get anywhere, or leads to even more conflict.
What happens to your sex life after the honeymoon's over? Did you ever wonder why long term relationships can sometimes lead to boring sex? And why do we need advice from therapists and sexologists (like me) to spice things up?
Today let’s talk about why publishing a book helps you help others. Many people do a variety of things to help others. Some work professionally as teachers, trainers, consultants and coaches. Others work in the healthcare field. Some work in a non-profit organization. Others volunteer, and still others find ways to support their local communities in some meaningful way. Everyone wants to make a difference somehow some way.
It’s Oscar time, and the fine films that were nominated and won featured some fine actors, great writing, directing, and totally love life-killing movies. Wait. What? Listen, we’re experts in helping women find the love of their lives, so our job is to find anything and everything that might be standing in the way of that happening, for real. It’s the same stuff that stands on the way of your current relationship from developing further. How do the fine films featured at this week’s Hollywood red carpet extravaganza fit into that?
Did you know that according to Patrick Carnes, Sex Addiction Expert, he reports that relapse happens for most individuals who struggle with sex addiction in the second six months of recovery? Most individuals gain traction in recovery through counseling, support groups and establishing strong boundaries. It is very important that individuals who struggle with sex addiction stay proactive in their recovery and the journey to having healthy and satisfying relationships. These are three effective ways to avoid relapse in a