This guest article from Psych Central was written by Marie Hartwell-Walker, ED.D. Talking about one’s financial situation early in a relationship is as important as talking about safe sex. It’s something that needs to be shared just as early and just as deeply. When deciding whether to pursue a relationship, both people deserve to know what they are getting into.
What is the quality of your life without a love relationship in it? How do you feel about yourself independent of anyone else or everything else? This article will discuss the first life level, Self-Expression, and its influence on the quality of your relationships and life, as well as the first steps toward creating something better for yourself. First, a brief summary of the Four Life Levels. The Four Life Levels
Have you ever have your heart broken? Imagine how you would feel after you found out that your husband of 15 years, the father of your child, the man who was the co-writer and producer of your music and one of the biggest driving forces of your multi-platinum, multi-million dollar career was having an affair. And to make it worse he was having the affair with a woman who was very close to you, someone you would consider a very close friend.
Plenty of people are happy and contented with your marriage, until one day their partner demands that they come and get some relationship help with them? If that sounds like you - read on. Guess what? You are in a large group. In most couples there is one partner who is “dragged in”. We call them the draggee. So you are not alone – you may even be a group that is nearly half of all those who go to some form of couples therapy or workshop.
I think everyone has a reaction to the event that occurred in Tucson, Arizona on January 8, 2011. Twenty -two year old Jared Loughner shot 19 people, six fatally! His actions prematurely took lives, shook the nation and caused government to pause and take notice. I’ve bore witness to a range of emotions – disbelief, anger, horror, hate, shame and even forgiveness. And some want to exact revenge, a scary notion. But what should we do?
I’m sure you have seen it before. You and your partner go out for a nice dinner and get seated next to another couple. They begin bickering, and before long you are sorry you are sitting next to them. Their talk is unkind to one another, and you can only wonder why they are hashing their problems out over dinner.
Are you wandering through your life? Have you set clear goals? Are you on a clear path or do you often find yourself in unknown territory without a map? I’ve often resisted techno-advances. Several years ago, I was text-free and Facebook-free. Surely if friends wanted to get together, picking up the phone to make plans was easy enough. But when GPS hit the market, I was one of the first in line.
“I hate him.” “I love him.” “I can’t get him out of my head.” “I want to move on but he is in my mind night and day.” “Maybe he is the one and I should wait until he changes his mind.” Is this your inner dialogue?