This guest article from Psych Central was written by Jenise Harmon, LISW Being in a close, loving relationship is many things. It’s comforting, satisfying, challenging, enlightening, and fun. The one thing that a close relationship is not, however, is simple.
Reality and truth travel a very narrow path. What is the truth? It actually is a perception. There is no proof in the universe that anything is a truth. Many things perceived as truths have been disavowed after more is discovered. So in terms of relationship, where is the line between truth and a lie, or truth and dishonesty? What does it mean to have truth in a relationship?
Stress is a normal and expected part of our lives, but it's not a part we always know how to deal with. We learn how to handle stressful situations by watching our parents and peers as we grow up. If you didn't have positive coping modeled for you, it may make it harder to handle even everyday stressors.
Growing up in a relatively typical Chinese family in Singapore, I received very little sexuality education. Let me give you the context: I did not know that what I had "down there" was called the vulva even though I had the "bits." I did not attempt to pronounce the word penis until I was 26, and as if that by itself was not awkward enough, I was then told that I said it wrong! Here are nine things that I wish I had learned in sex-ed as a teenager...
Today's post will explore avoiding boredom, which can set in when we have the same old routines, same old conversations, the same old avoidance of hot topics and generally start taking each others presence for granted. Boredom opens the door to several giant killers of relationship. It can lead to affairs, and it can also throw us right over into the opposite ditch of contempt, as we begin to think we know everything about our spouse and stop actually listening to them.
Do you love Valentine's Day or do you wage a war on all things red and pink as the day of love approaches? It was less than four days after Christmas when I saw the first virtually all red shopping aisle infused with splashes of pink and fuchsia. My tree was still up, its light timer was still active and I hadn’t eaten all of my red and green m&ms! Seriously... we hadn’t even celebrated the New Year! Yet despite the scores of people likely struggling to recover from the winter holiday roster...
The cultural stereotype is that it’s great to be a man. Not only do we have shorter lines at the rest room, but we make scads more money and can reach things on higher shelves in the marketplace. We don’t have to deal with double standards or glass ceilings, and we’re raised to have confidence and high self-esteem, so we can all comfortably act like the Sean Connery version of James Bond.
People date, putting their best foot forward, to acquire the relationship they want. If you are married, you succeeded at the Compatibility Stage of Relationships, deciding you and your spouse had enough in common to make a lifetime commitment to each other. Congratulations!
Think about the most annoying people in your life, whether it is a partner, a boss, a friend or someone else close to you. In these relationships you seem to lose track of yourself and you can’t figure out how or why, but before you know it you are acting like a maniac or you are feeling constantly uncertain. You can look back in history and see you have not behaved this way in any other relationships but in this particular relationship you seem to get hooked every time. Why do certain people have this power over us?
Do you ever feel pressured to be with some one for Valentines Day when in your heart of hearts you are really ok with being alone? I recently did a reading for a woman who was really down on herself. Why? Because all of her friends are in long term relationships and married and she is still single. As we continued to talk, she began to pour out her heart.