You might have heard this powerful realization before: “The quality of our life is determined by the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.” The bigger the question, the more important it is to answer it right now. We just finished a season focused on gift giving and receiving. Here’s a big gift for you. It’s a gift in the form of a question (a big question!) you can use to create your own fulfilled life. Just by answering this question, you’ll be prepared to make this year super great in every way.
Undeniably, sooner or later, we all have to deal with life’s realities—those hard surprises and “unknowns” that can literally change everything in less than a nanosecond. Imagine you’ve just been fired. Many of us would react to this situation in at least some of the following ways: “I’m terrified." "I should have seen this coming.” “I’ll never find another job in this economy.” “Am I going to be homeless?”
The relationship between the brain and porn is a mystery to most. So many people have shared with me how pornography has affected their brain and ultimaltely their relationships. Many women try to understand why their partner seems to be addicted to it? Seems like they just can't get enough of it! And it's NOT just men that enjoy viewing it. It may be they are just more vocal about it.
The enchantresses in the legends of King Arthur brought balance to a society ruled by male domination. Through their seductive, female magic they magnetized the men of Camelot-- the King’s warriors set aside their brutish behavior and broke their backs to court these women. They acted with chivalry in the hopes of earning a smidgen of feminine admiration and tender, female affection. You, too, can be a modern-day enchantress and inspire a man to honor the laws of chivalry in your relationship. You can magnetize and hypnotize the men you are dating by embracing the power a woman has when creating intimacy with a man!
Ruby and Jim had been dating for 11 months and were considering marriage. Ruby, 32, felt "head over heels" in love with Jim, but she had felt head over heels in love with Adam, as well as with Mark. "That feeling didn't last with Adam or Mark. How do I know it will last with Jim? How can you tell when it's the real thing?"
The road of recovery is not the same as the path of despair. Many, perhaps most people fear allowing themselves to feel their darker feelings because they remember times of being overwhelmed or crushed by them. Consequently most of us find creative, elaborate, or self-destructive ways to avoid being in touch with our painful memories and feelings.
Our human form is relatively fragile. Resilient in many ways, of course, but even the most cursory amount of attention to the news reveals the many ways our bodies and spirits can be harmed. That said, we live on a part of the planet that is not as subject to some of the on-going violent and destructive forces found in other parts of the world. From a physical safety point of view, those of us who have the privilege of reading words like these about safety, tend to be actually relatively safe — at least in a physical way.
One of the greatest things you can do to keep that intimacy alive is to kiss on a regular basis. I'm talking about kissing on the lips, not just a peck on the cheek or the forehead. You can save your pecks for your Aunt Ethel. Kiss when you say goodbye in the morning, when you come home at night, when you go to bed, when you're leaving on a trip and when you come home.
How can I be sure infidelity won't happen again? It was probably quite painful and difficult to discover that your partner was having an affair. If you two decided to stay together and rebuild trust, you are aware that the healing process can take time, patience and care. No matter where you are in this relationship rebuilding process, you might be experiencing jealous fears.