Aside from the obvious factors that are necessary for marital success, men and women should derive pleasure from each others femininity and masculinity. Regardless of sexual orientation, if you can not revel in your partner's distinct gender traits, maybe you are with the wrong person.
Now that the family holidays of Thanksgiving and Christmas are over and we have turned our calendars to a new year, the next worldwide holiday approaching is Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day has become the number one romantic holiday in the world but what happens if you find yourself alone for this momentous occasion? How do you make it through?
Dear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a party a few weeks ago. It was a public event at an art gallery. She was a high school teacher in her early thirties. We had been talking for a good half hour and really seemed to be hitting it off.
I love working with people who are frustrated with dieting, and ready to be healthy. One of the questions I hear a LOT from these clients in the beginning is: “So, if I want to eat healthy, does that mean that I can NEVER eat (favorite unhealthy food) ever again?” Or…. “I would love to try a plant-based diet, but I could NEVER give up my burgers”. There is a lot of energy around NEVER.
Many of us live under the misconception that laughter should be reserved for the good times. The reality is that humor is more necessary than ever when life hits the skids.
There are scads of articles and books written promising a foolproof formula to finding a husband. Usually they include a step by step guide with a guarantee of success in x number of days. If you are a reader of these, time to toss them and whatever manipulation they have down to your head and heart and it is time to get real! The thing is, love takes time to find and to grow. It can’t be assigned to a timeline just because you think you are ready. And if you don’t believe this, check out my TOP 3 reasons for why you must stop looking for a groom now:
New research confirms The Beatles’ lyrical hypothesis and finds that there are indeed some things that money just can’t buy. Heading up the list? A happy and stable marriage. “Couples where both spouses are materialistic were worse off on nearly every measure we looked at,” said Jason Carroll, a Brigham Young University professor of family life and lead author of the study. “There is a pervasive pattern in the data of eroding communication, poor conflict resolution and low responsiveness to each other.”
Idyllic Vision of Love Most of us grew up with an idyllic vision of love from “Happily Ever After” stories and movies. This idyllic vision takes us on a roller coaster ride, full of twists and turns. We’re in relationships that aren’t ideal. We stay in relationships that are clearly over. We don’t fully express ourselves for fear of getting hurt. We do these things in the name of love. I know this to be true because this was who I was.
December 31 may be all about the New Year’s kiss, but by New Year’s Day, most people are thinking about what comes after the kiss. This can be a good metaphor for our dating habits in general. The person we look to for instant passion, an immediate spark or even a New Year’s kiss is not always the same person we would be happy sharing our lives with long-term.