I was probably 11 or 12 when I watched a video called “The Silent Scream” in primary school (or grade school in the U.S.). It is a documentary video which depicts the abortion process via ultrasound and shows an abortion taking place in the uterus. During the abortion process, the presenter dramatically paused the video as the 11-week fetus opens its mouth in the uterus – in what appeared to be an outcry of pain and discomfort – and went, “There, there, there is the silent scream!”
I just wrote an article for YourTango.com, as part of their “Break Up With Your Ex” campaign. It got me thinking about how common it is for couples to break up but never really get over the relationship. They move out, but they don’t actually move on. How can you tell if you’ve moved on from a past love? Ask yourself these three things.
Depending upon your social status or quality of current relationship, Valentine’s Day can either be a heaven or a hell day for you. Being single into my forties, I can tell you that most of these supposed heart-filled days have been on the disappointing end. Each of my single years I would be exposed to all the happy coupled women in the office bragging about their dinner plans among the gigantic bouquet of flowers on their desk with the heart-shaped “I Love You” balloons.
"My ex drove by me today and I almost threw up. I couldn't believe how that wave of nausea hit me. It has been a whole year and I thought I was over him. I can't believe it. Luckily, I was near a Starbucks so I ran in to the bathroom, sat on the throne and composed myself. Will I ever get over him?"
My friend Kate was driving with her dad when he showed her what it really means to look on the bright side. It happened the day they got a flat tire and his face lit up. “Oh good!” he said. “I’ve been meaning to teach you how to change a flat tire and now we have the perfect opportunity!”
"I am not my child's playmate, I am his parent" a mother announced in our playgroup. Many in the group echoed her thought with similar comments such as, "It is not my job to entertain him all day!" My first thought was, "I can tell you as the mother of an only child I am my son's main playmate." My second thought was, "Wow. Play is really important to me and my son. Am I doing something wrong?"
If waiting for the right guy seems too risky, suddenly the man you didn’t want starts looking better, and being single-and-waiting feels tragic and scary. Start thinking, “what if Mr. Right doesn’t come along...what if my expectations are unrealistic and I end up alone?” and it’s almost a guarantee that you’ll go back, even though you know it will end in disaster.
Valentine's Day is one holiday we can give ourselves permission to let loose and have fun with our mates. Whether we are dating or married to our Valentine, this holiday gives us a little nudge to show our partner how much we really love him. Here's how to spice it up a notch and really blow his mind.
R.E.B.T. is based upon the idea that we feel the way we think, thus if we can change the way we think about events in our life, we can also change the way we feel. R.E.B.T. can be particularly helpful in strengthening relationships. It is a fairly simple concept that contains the letters A-B-C-D. Here is how it works!