Stress can be a killer and we are regularly overwhelmed with the newest stress reducer, tips to reduce anxiety and even the hot off the FDA approval line for which meds will help us manage our stress and anxiety. But what if your BFF could be your best natural defense for reducing your stress level?
Grudge-holding is a natural response people have after they've been hurt. They do it to protect themselves and create a sense of control over the situation, thinking the wall that they build will make it more difficult - or, hopefully - impossible to get hurt again. This is an understandable inclination but unfortunately, notes Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, doesn't work.
New Orleans is ready to run amok! Cities and towns across the country are gearing up to celebrate right along with the Cajuns in themed parties and parades. The Toad Kingdom is in a state of frenzy. What is the cause? Beads and breasts! You may not know it but for decades, one of the rather crudest parts of the annual fest is the baring of breasts. Women, usually in an alcoholic stupor, lift their shirts, showing off their assets for the precious reward of a cheap set of made in China plastic beads.
When my grandparents got married in the 1930s, I’m quite certain neither one of them had the kind of engagement anxiety I see among people today. My grandmother did experience grief about leaving her mother and two sisters. The difficult feelings were displaced onto her wedding dress and veil (a mosquito net so an understandable disappointment on her part!), but she didn’t spend a moment wondering if she was making the best possible choice or if she loved my grandfather enough, if he was her soul mate or any of the other anxiety-based questions that wreak havoc on my clients’ minds.
How are those New Year’s Resolutions working out for you? Do you even remember them? Truth be told most of us wind up foregoing the resolutions we’ve barely begun, a few short weeks into the New Year. If your resolve has begun to wane it’s not too late to re-energize it. Drop that defeatist attitude because here are seven ways to keep your motivation up and “life” well out of the way of your goals:
Bullying can be described as aggressive behaviour that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often patterns of abusive behaviour becomes evident over time. Victims or targets sometimes downplay the violence and damage to their self esteem, hoping it will just go away or at least get better with time. Bullying and aggressive action rarely stop without some sort of intervention. Bullying is not strictly a behaviour of the young and not all bullying involves fighting. Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else thus empowering the bully. There is no single reason why some people attempt to take advantage of others, but those who intimidate and manipulate often use aggressive tactics.
When a couple have been together for quite some time, they often tend to lose sight of a supposedly mutual goal to make each other happy. This is a sad yet common reality these days. Then again, you have the power to change all this and using these tips for women for a good marriage just wait and see how your man responds. With the right pieces of advice and the desire to keep the man in your life happy, you will definitely be able to make a difference in your romantic relationship with your husband.
Sometimes I think marriage is wasted on the young. The qualities that insure a happy marriage are those most of us only begin to master after going through many painful life lessons. I didn't marry for the first time until I was 53 years old, and by that time I had been through so many rocky relationships that I was "forced" into learning how to be a better woman.
Temptations fill each of our lives. Sometimes these are temptations we wrestle with all of our life and at times these are short term temptations. Regardless, what we are often tempted to do is to try to avoid the thing that is tempting us. Often, it can be more effective to remove from our lives the things that lead to the temptation. This is a lesson we can learn from Shrove Tuesday.
'The Help.' What a moving and powerful film. If only each of us grew up with that mantra so that the lies of self-doubt and unworthiness would stop haunting us. In the movie, the main character, Aibileen (a black maid and nanny) would say the following words to the 4 year old child that she cared for every day: "You is kind, You is smart, You is important." In the movie, the mother would ignore her child and treat her badly. The little girl just loved Abaleen and told her that she was her real mom. She felt safe and loved in the arms of her caregiver.