I can remember as even a tiny little girl (around 4 years old) my mother telling me “to marry my best friend.” What she forgot to mention (aside from the fact that yes, eventually I might actually not be totally grossed out by kissing, let alone boys), was that I first had to fall head-over-heels in love with me. I first had to truly know what a best friend was and could only do so, by best-friending myself.
As in nature, in relationships a balance of give and take must be struck for harmony to be achieved. Sounds cliché, I know, but its true, and often, as women, our natural tendencies to mother takeover in a relationship and we can over-give, resulting in not paying attention to the scales. While relationships shouldn’t be about score keeping, they should feel balanced. A mutual decision to show up and play the game with equal devotion must be there or only one team member will win, and guess what? It won’t be the giver.
Are you in a relationship that you can barely tolerate? Are you in a marriage that is hanging on by a thread? Is the tension so high that you can hardly breathe when you are in the same room together? Has this been going on for a while? Have you been contemplating divorce but haven’t had the guts to make the move? Very often couples who are struggling think a lot about divorce but never take action. They stay together far longer than the expiry date of the relationship and allow the tension to fester, the mold to grow, and the resentment to build.
For many singles, the New Year signifies a new beginning with hopes, excitement and the anticipation of the relationship they have always dreamed of having but with the same limited understanding of how to attract it. Here are five sure fire ways for the dating single to attract love into their life in 30 days!
At one of my workshops I asked my audience why, in their opinion, they hadn’t been able to attract their ideal life partner. One woman raised her hand and said: Because I want it too much. We all have a sense that when we want something too much, we never get it. Because when we want something too much – we suffer because we don’t have it yet. And from a place of suffering it is impossible to create anything healthy or positive.
There’s a lot of debate about whether the 1st of the year is a perfect and natural trigger to implement life changing resolutions or if it’s only an excuse for a temporary behavioral change and ultimately a set-up for failure. Here’s my take:
Do you love your mate but really hate the complaints and nagging you get from him or her? Your partner might be a flat-out bully who says and does things that make you feel bad, wrong or inept. Or, your spouse might more subtly pick at you. The criticism may be said in a “sweet” or soft voice, but the sting still hurts. When living with a critical or nagging partner, you might frequently feel defensive and like lashing back. Instead, your reaction when you feel attacked could be to withdraw into yourself. There are many things you can do in response to your partner's criticisms. Some of these reactions will strain your relationship even more.
In relationships, women often find themselves having the same conversation with their men, and hoping that this will finally be the time that they get what they want...or that their men are finally aggravated enough to change.
When the calendar turns over into a new year, some people dread it. Instead, carve out some time during the first week to rethink your life and goals for the year. Here's a simple form to use to address the components of emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, relationships and work.
On November 18, 2011, it became legal to slaughter American horses for human consumption in the United States. What?! Americans don’t eat horses. We ride them, groom them, love them, use them in therapy, and make movies about them. Imagine sitting through two hours of War Horse, only to watch "Joey" get slaughtered after his brave and heroic service. Unthinkable? Think again.