If you wonder why you seem to be more invested in working things out than your partner appears to be, then there might be a mismatch in the level of commitment each of you bring to the relationship. Whether you are both strongly committed or both weakly committed is not the crux on which the relationship succeeds or fails.
Gerald, a thirty-five year old PR executive came home after a business trip and announced to thirty-year-old Beatrice that he wanted a divorce. The shock of it made Beatrice stop breathing for a few seconds. She froze in a state of complete disbelief. For a moment there was no reaction, until Gerald started talking again. Then a sharp pain and rage swept her up and made her go on the attack. That was the only way she could shut down the unbearable words that rocked the ground under her feet.
Rita is head chef at a gourmet restaurant. She is renowned for creating unique dishes that keep customers coming back. While she is proud of her accomplishments in the kitchen and her career, she is really worried about her marriage. It seems that no matter what she tries, she can't seem to get it right when it comes to her relationship.
Travelers Digest Magazine recently ranked the top 10 cities with the most attractive women. Stockholm, Sweden came in at the #1 spot. They explained that Stockholm looks like the set of a fictional show, “What Happens When Supermodels Work at a Convenience Store.” Farrah Fawcett was recently ranked as one of the “100 Hottest Women of All Time” in a 2011 edition of Men’s Health magazine.
Finding our perfect mate involves chemistry. But it’s a complex equation! If I could go into a laboratory and invent a powder called “romantic chemistry” that I could sprinkle around to make people fall for each other, I would be famous. Not to mention rich! It’s a total mystery why people are attracted to one person and not another. Why do I feel the “chemistry” to kiss my husband but couldn’t imagine kissing his equally attractive friend?
I hear about it week after week, month after month. From men and women. No, it is not affairs. Here's what it is: "When we are home together, life is great. But when we are with friends, family, workmates, bosses (take your pick—all are mentioned by various clients of all ages), he/she does things that make me want to hide under a table, or better yet, run." The examples are endless...
When I make this statement during my speaking events or to clients, I get instant resistance from everyone. After I explain, the resistance seems to dissipate. Although it is true that men are very visual and are attracted to the most beautiful women in the room, they usually won’t approach them. The women in the room are usually intimidated by the beautiful people, both men and women. They don’t approach the most beautiful either. So how does this work?
By: Malia Karlinsky, Love and Sex Editor from GalTime. “The relationship between what you eat and your sex life is like the fuel you put into a car,” says nutritionist Elizabeth Somer. “Pump the nutritional equivalent of sawdust into your body and you are more likely to feel like a jalopy than a race car. Put high-octane foods into that system, rev it up with a bit of exercise and you will pump up your thrill quotient and reconnect with the Maserati within.”
If it was up to me I would get rid of LOVE from the dictionary. I would even go so far as to completely remove it from our vocabulary. And to go ever further I would imprison anyone who uttered the word love from their mouth. I would then replace it with a different four letter word. One that also begins with “L”. But this word would be easier to understand and would not cause so much confusion in your life.