There’s a very common scenario that seems to happen to all of us at one time or another, and sometimes over and over again. We end up in a relationship with a guy that has tons of potential, IF he would just commit! And the dilemma is always – how long to wait it out to see if he truly IS going to come around? Or are we just wasting our time? Or, what if you’ve finally had enough, and decide to move on right before he was about to come around? This is one of the most commonly asked questions because we are such a hopeful group.
As a culture we’ve become increasingly acclimated to change; the desire to progress, to find the “latest and greatest”, to be on the cutting edge. Initially this phenomenon was apparent in places where change was welcome, e.g. the frequent purchasing of new technology; the trading in of cars, homes or even careers. As we’ve continued to embrace it, however, change has crept into aspects of our lives where tradition once reigned and consistency was paramount.
There is no goal more enticing for a woman then the promise that if you follow this path you will find the right man to share your life with. Match.com offers one opportunity for this venture, while E Harmony provides even greater reassurance that they have the man for you. Many prefer these ways to depending on friends or single places to narrow the search. However, after many disappointments and frustrating experiences with so called bad dates, there is a growing suspicion that seeking the “ONE TRUE LOVE” will never happen.
As divorce rates in the U.S. were rising by the end of World War II, so were fears over the state of marriage and family life. Skyrocketing rates sent many couples to seek expert advice to bolster their marriages. During this time, the idea that marriage could be saved—and a divorce prevented—with enough work gained ground, according to Kristin Celello, assistant professor of history at Queens College, City University of New York, in her fascinating book Making Marriage Work: A History of Marriage and Divorce in the Twentieth-Century United States. A slew of experts stepped in to help American couples strengthen their unions...and with some interesting suggestions.
Jennifer Aniston's love life is better than she’s ever had it, and her new beau Justin Theroux is different than any other man she’s dated before. But, it's missing one critical ingredient for their relationship to last.
"Adam" recently wrote me with this question: "Should I be tolerant when it comes to a girlfriend hanging out with ex-lovers? They are not people she dated, but people she has slept with. Recently, she blew me off for a “friend” coming into town and I found out the “friend” was someone she had a threesome with..."
I am delighted that you are reading this post. Helps me prove my point. Headlines with a bit of naughtiness get noticed. Cheryl Hines was on the Ellen Show this morning talking about her new hit TV show, Suburgatory. I always loved her on Curb Your Enthusiasm on HBO, and her performance as new and hot-to-trot divorcee Dallas Royce on the new ABC sitcom is delicious.
In the 1700s the prominent belief was that people would have to be threatened and punished to do good deeds for one another. The common saying was that people had to “be threatened with hell, and promised heaven” in order to be positive players in society. Along came Frances Hutcheson, philosopher and teacher, who noticed that people are at their happiest when they are helping another human being. It was recognized that stepping outside of oneself and not being self-absorbed lead to the happiest of times.
Most people are not conscious of when they are operating from their ego wounded self – the part of them that wants to control. They generally don't know they are being needy, demanding, blaming, attacking, guilting, and so on. And, they often don't remember what they said and did while operating from their wounded self. Therefore, trying to talk about a difficult or painful situation after the fact generally doesn't get anywhere, or leads to even more conflict.