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The "like" button on Facebook may not be the root of your relationship problems...

Facebook Doesn't Ruin Relationships, People Do.

I often hear people say, "Facebook ruins relationships." And I must admit, I absolutely loved that the last guy I dated didn't have an account. But Facebook doesn't ruin relationships. Neither do strip clubs, porn, or online dating sites. People ruin relationships.

 Codependent? 7 Step Reality Check Process

Codependent? 7 Step Reality Check Process

Manifestation continues to make headlines as stars like Jim Carrey, Oprah Winfrey and Ellen DeGeneres tout manifestation techniques as part of their career strategy. If you want the life of your dreams, say the gurus, keep picturing that new job or that perfect soul mate or new home will amazingly come to be, it must come to be.  It is Universal Law. 

How To Read Your Partner's Mind
If you want coffee in bed every Saturday morning, simply make it known to your partner!

How To Read Your Partner's Mind

It always seems like one person wants their partner to have the ability to read their mind. This is what they tell me in my office : "He should KNOW what I like/want/need without me having to tell him. If I have to tell him what I want, well, then it doesn't mean as much when he gives it to me." The funny thing is that some couples seem to be very good at mind reading. But are they really?

Why Respecting Boundaries Is Crucial, Part 4

Why Respecting Boundaries Is Crucial, Part 4

In this final chapter on identifying boundaries we continue to explore how our boundaries and limits stem from our views about ourselves and how they impact our lives and relationships. Recognizing your value and making choices to support that value is an integral part of relationship building and maintenance. Boundaries can show your level of respect for yourself and your body through how you act and what people you allow to have influence over you. Learning that you have value can help you to understand that the way in which you treat yourself is how others will treat you.

The Little Box You Live In

The Little Box You Live In

What Little Box Are You Living In? Have you ever noticed that we have a tendency to put people in little boxes, as if that is all there is to them? These are the labels that we quickly spout off when someone asks us something like, “What is Susan like?” More a label than a description, these boxes are a one dimensional view of a person, as if that were our nature. It reminds me of a old song by Malvina Reynolds.. Little boxes on the hillside, Little boxes made of ticky tacky, Little boxes on the hillside,

Are You Mature Enough For Marriage?

Are You Mature Enough For Marriage?

I’ve accumulated several licenses after 37 years. These documents empower me as a woman and contribute to my identity. My transition into adulthood is unequivocally tied to my credentials. My paperwork is a timeline of personal and professional growth. When I received my driver’s license, I felt incredibly free. (It’s amazing what four wheels and four cylinders can do for a 16-year-old). After receiving my dental hygiene license, I felt academically accomplished. When I received my CPR certification, I felt capable in the event of a crisis.

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Bully parenting leads to many unnecessary fights with your teen!

Do You Use Tough Love Or Bully Parenting?

Since the 1970s, tough love has received a great deal of attention. It's all about creating tough consequences for teens when they make irresponsible or dangerous decisions. Sadly, the term has been used to describe a parenting style that often resembles bully behavior. Parents are struggling with their parenting voice – trying to find a way to be effective parents with teens who are making poor choices. They need help practicing tough love by creating healthy boundaries and external controls for children who are unable to do this for themselves.

Not in Front of the Children!

Not in Front of the Children!

They say that marriage gets more difficult once you have children. It can be tougher to find the time and energy for connection and romance. It can also be a challenge when you and your spouse have a disagreement and you don't make time to be alone and resolve it . You might have uncomfortable or even traumatic memories of your own childhood listening to the adults in your house argue and fight. The yelling and anger may have sent you racing to your room where you hid underneath a blanket or turned up the volume on your stereo to drown out the raised voices.

Russell and Katy Split On Worst Week of Year for Marriage

Russell and Katy Split On Worst Week of Year for Marriage

Russell Brand and Katy Perry’s marital split has happened in the worst month of the year for marriages.  Another of my survey's for IllicitEncounters.com has confirmed it - January is harder on couples than any other month. Statistics show that the 4th of January is the day most married people either think about embarking on an affair or splitting from their partner completely.  Marriages are often stretched to breaking point over the festive period and thousands of unhappily married people look for a new partner or a way out.

8 Steps To Strengthen Your Marriage After An Affair
Something that once appeared so vulnerable can turn into something so beautiful!

8 Steps To Strengthen Your Marriage After An Affair

Few things harm a relationship more than an affair. Whether the affair is emotional, a 'one night stand,' long term or a cyber-affair, the betrayal delivers a life-altering blow. Will the injury to the relationship prove fatal? There are some essential steps a couple must take for there to be any hope that the relationship can survive an affair. If done wisely, there is hope the relationship will come through the ordeal stronger than before. Here are eight steps that can help save your marriage.