Love, commitment and relationships seem to be in disfavor these days. I’m seeing a lot of articles and TV shows saying love doesn’t last, so why bother. But, I believe that all of us want to be loved, and I know from experience that a relationship can work, and that a great partnership is a joy not to be missed. A lot of people come into my office searching for love, especially unconditional love.
Do you know that we don’t know how to take it easy? In our wired society of being connected via our cell phones, Wi-Fi, email and internet; we have forgotten the importance of just “being”. There is this urge to “do” constantly to the point that we feel lost if we are not doing something.
So I met Coach Andrew Poretz about 4 1/2 years ago at a Quentin's Friends party in New York City. If you live in the tri-state area and you're not a member of QFNY, you need to be! There was immediate affinity, followed by hysterical laughter of everyone around us. Do you know what happens when 2 men have all around them laughing? They attract lots more people who also want to laugh. Big hint there guys.
A run has never returned me exactly the same. I go, I grow. Kristin Armstrong This quote was my inspiration for revising my thinking about before and after. “Before,” as in before one of the partners goes, and “after,” as in after they go, or post-divorce. The “before” is often a rose-colored view of the way we were. It’s like when someone with whom you had a terribly conflicted relationship dies, and you remember only the good times. It’s nice, but unrealistic.
Set in Victorian-era London, the rom-com Hysteria audaciously treats the rather tricky subject women's sexual pleasure and vibrators, along with another popular current theme of the "Good Girl" vs. the "Bad Girl." When single handedly - no pun intended - tackling the common problem of hysteria becomes too much for Dr Dalrymple to handle alone, he hires Dr Mortimer Granville to assist him in alleviating the symptoms of Hysteria, brought on by women revolting against washing one too many tea cups and husbands who are clueless as to what might be involved
In this fast-paced world, we sometimes forget that the interactions that we surround ourselves with can either replenish or deplete our essential energies. Interactions that infuse your essential energy include: Expressions of love, communication, and actions that demonstrate a willingness to invest energy to show you how much you are valued, loved and respected. Friendships and relationships that acknowledge your essential core energies–people who see and acknowledge who you truly are.
Over the many years that I have been working with couples, certain issues have emerged over and over. One of the most common issues for women is: "I am not turned on to my partner. I love him, but I just can't bring myself to make love with him. The thought of it is repelling to me."
Close your eyes. Please. Just for a few seconds. Visualize your wardrobe closet. You know, the place you go to first thing every morning. The place where you begin your day. The place where all your personal ghouls, goblins, devils and demons dwell. Now, envision the first five items hanging on the right hand side. How many of them are your faves? How many of those five do you reach for over and over again when you need to dress to impress? All five? Two? Zero?
Whether you're just now contemplating ending your marriage or its been some time since it was over, you'll want to spend some time and energy helping your kids manage the big changes in their lives following your divorce. While teenagers often say things like, "It doesn't matter", and "I don't care", deep inside their still-developing hearts they really do care very deeply about what happens between their parents. When your teen knows it was bad...