by Dr. Lynda Klau We all yearn to be real, to feel connected to ourselves and to others. Often, however, we lose this connection. We’re not living from our deepest passion, but we cannot find a way to bring it into our lives. We yearn to be more successful at work, but we lack the courage to take the necessary steps. Or perhaps a personal crisis, such as divorce or illness, has shaken our foundations.
Many people seek to find true love by looking for compatibility, matching life experience, shared interests, and warm fuzzy feelings. Sounds pretty good so far, right? I mean…who could be against that? Well, I’m not against that, but there is a trap in focusing on compatibility, comfort, and convenience – it’s BORING!
What do we do when we meet up with someone whose values are so opposed to our own? What about being curious as to why and how they made their decisions versus being judgmental? What about pondering their philosophy to come to a deeper understanding of another person's point of view, before condemning? Lastly, can we maintain civility and be polite regardless if we vehemently disagree?
We tell children that words can never hurt them, but the recent comments of Rush Limbaugh suggest otherwise. While it appears Limbaugh is the one most harmed by his words, it prompts us to consider our personal role in such name-calling.
In a deliberately well articulated cry for women's equality, Sandra Fluke's plea before congress called for new legislature to cover the cost of birth control for women seeking contraception, as well as those suffering from medical conditions that benefit from its use.
Dr. Seuss on the Authentic Life—Great Advice for politicians “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” ― Dr. Seuss Dr. Seuss hit the nail right on the head. There really is no one alive who is more authentically you. And yet we have all witnessed people pleasers or politicians who strive to be what others want them to be.
It’s great that Rush Limbaugh called Sandra Fluke a slut and a prostitute! By saying what he did, this misogynistic ignoramus inadvertently launched public awareness on this important issue like never before. I’m sure that was the last thing he was trying to accomplish, which is exactly why it’s extra satisfying. To add delicious icing to the cake, Sandra Fluke has handled the potentially devastating situation with dignity, grace and intelligence. Instead of shrinking in horror from the public attention and disgusting remarks, she rose to the occasion in a way that makes all of us self-respecting women proud.
There are many reasons why relationships fail. Some people will tell you their relationship failed due to infidelity, addiction, lack of attention, abusive behaviors, or severe money problems. And while these are all legitimate reasons for a relationship to fail, I propose that these reasons are just symptoms of the real reason why relationships fail. From my perspective, failed relationships have one thing in common. Relationships fail due to a difference in the desire and ability to create true intimacy. I believe that this is at the foundation of most, if not all, breakups.
Fighting can cause severe damage to a relationship. Yet on another hand, if it is done appropriately and honestly, it can open doors to better communication which will lead to a better relationship. Here are a few tips on fair fighting: 1.Choose your battles wisely. You may want to write down the issues YOU are having. Remember, because you are having issues, does not mean your partner is. People are individually different species. Stick to only one topic in your talk. If there are several issues to be resolved, it might be best to arrange separate times to deal with each.
Secrets are felt energetically so it’s important to share and be clear with your partner, and to be truthful with yourself. Share your fears with your partner because secrets can threaten the trust. The place from within that is holding the secret can shut down your heart and create a barrier in the relationship. It’s important to keep an open flow of communication. If you are hiding something, an open heart will sense it.