To get what you really want, you must say "No" to what you don't want. Simple, but not easy. I've settled for less than I really wanted many times in my life, and each time my awareness of just how much of myself I gave up to accept that "OK" job, buy that "OK" car, enter that "OK" relationship that was less than I really wanted came much later, when it was too late to do much about it.
Believe it or not, finding your perfect mate is completely possible. But if you don't believe this, stop reading here, because the most important principle for success in anything is "What you believe you can achieve." Here are the precise five steps you can take to find your perfect mate: Step One: Allow yourself to be single
Beloved, you are the love of my life and I'm grateful for each day with you. Our relationship is the most important part of my life and I am committed to being together forever. Though we are surrounded by cynicism and challenges, I resolve to love you and be with you for the rest of my life. Through our relationship we will nurture each other and make the world a more loving and positive place for ourselves, our family, and everyone we share this planet with. Five Promises to My Beloved
Every so often I have rough moments or days and I lie to myself, telling myself that I’m happy. But in those moments, I’m not. I don’t want to lie to myself, I do it automatically because I feel like I should be happy ALL THE TIME, given I have a clear life purpose, an incredible business, and an inspiring fiance. (It doesn’t really matter why I have those rough times, but mostly it’s because uncertainty, fear or doubt creep up on me and tackle me for a bit, before I can kick ‘em to the curb.)
I believe that disconnect from the wild magic of the natural things around us creates Dis-Connect in the heart, which leads to all kinds of trouble when it comes to finding love. We are each born "knowing" amazing things about joy and about the deep relationships we innately share with all other people and things. We come into this life with gifts that only we possess that we are here to express into our world, with gifts that are a match to someone out there who is a soulmate.
I overheard a conversation a couple of days ago in a men’s clothing store, between three guys. I will fully admit that the topic of conversation caught my attention and I intentionally eves dropped. I probably would have taken my mini-notepad out and started taking notes if that hadn’t been too obvious.
Pssst. I have a secret. This little nugget of insight just might force a whole paradigm shift in how you view your relationship. It just might change everything - for the better. The arguments you have with your partner aren't really about what you think they are. Really.
The wish for a bikini body motivates many a springtime diet. But if your beach body dream came true, how would your mate feel? The answer to that question may well affect your progress—whether you’re aware or not. For now, let’s set aside the issue of whether or not it makes sense to diet for a short-term goal, like a “bikini body”. It often doesn’t. However, our mate’s responses to our efforts to change--how we care for ourselves, how we look—weave in and out of the change process itself, no matter how or when it occurs.
Single and struggling in the dating world. Find out the reason for your troubles. Many singles tell me they have a problem getting a love interest to stay in their life. Everything starts off fine but then the guy disappears a few weeks into the relationship. After an intense pursuit of her love, he just stops. Now, you can read all the rules and understand men until you are blue in the face, but you if you have a “love leak” this is what will happen to you no matter how clever you are in your dating tactics.
John only had a short affair. And it was a long time ago. Years later the truth came to light and his marriage to Maryanne hit the critical list. Maryanne didn’t want the marriage to end. But how could she ever again trust John? John desperately wanted to be forgiven for the past, and find a way for the marriage to continue.