One reason your relationships tend to fail is that you start out well enough, but then slowly, without realizing it, you start to give away your power. This process is insidious and before you know it, instead of having a healthy give and take, the relationship has lost its balance. When you give your power away it erodes your self-esteem and you start to feel a sense of unease and resentment. This affects how you show up as half of a couple and can't help but create tension and dissatisfaction.
It might just be the last taboo: admitting you don't find your partner physically attractive anymore. In a culture that worships physical beauty and encourages you to place attraction somewhere near the first spot on a list of non-negotiables when choosing a marriage partner, admitting that you don't always find your partner attractive is considered blasphemous and a valid reason to walk away.
Up with Masculinity I feel blessed to be a woman in our post 60’s culture, where femininity and female strength, independence and success are touted. Unfortunately, however, our changed views of women seem to have occurred at the expense of how we perceive manhood. In short I believe that we’ve lost a real appreciation for men being men. We women want our men to be breadwinners and rescuers (help us when the car breaks down or the sink sprouts a leak). We want our men to be strong, both emotionally and physically.
In almost every old movie when the couples are in love and committing to one another there will appear a door, and the man carries the woman over the threshold. Whether that happens with a newly married couple moving into their first home, or whether it happens on a date when the guy carries the woman into the bedroom…. it represents a new beginning and a change in the relationship. Today there is a new threshold, where the woman is being carried over the boyfriend/husband’s parents’ threshold, or her parents’ threshold.
Okay ladies, I know you all have something about your body you wish you could change, alter, or delete. News flash: you are not perfect and you never will be.
I once had a friend who was on the constant hamster wheel of "almost-men." She continuously dated men who were not her match, but whom she thought she could fix to become her match. She was miserable and exhausted most of the time from all her failed efforts.
Unless you have made a conscious decision to stay in your marriage and reaffirm your relationship with your husband (and some do), you will need to work on the business of ending one phase of your life in order to start another. Before I get into that, I want to stress that the process of your self-acceptance and readiness to leave your marriage should be done in your own time. Don’t feel rushed to make hasty decisions—by your spouse, a new love, or anyone else. Take the time YOU need to figure out what it is you want.
I will be offering a Complimentary 5 Week Teleseminar Class on the Elements and Nature starting on May 29 at 7PM Eastern Standard Time 1 Hour Come and join me in this 1 Hour Presentation for each of the Elements starting on Tuesday May 29 at 7pm Eastern Time in the comfort of your own home! Tuesday May 29 is the Earth Module Tuesday June 5 is the Water Module Tuesday June 12 is the Air Module Tuesday June 19 is the Fire Module
Are you considering bariatric surgery to cure your diabetes? Results of a study reported in the New England Journal of Medicine have received quite a bit of media attention and may encourage people with diabetes to ask about bariatric surgery. There are 27 million people with diabetes type 2. Diabetes type 2 is associated with macrovascular disease (heart attacks, strokes and non-traumatic amputations) as well as microvascular disease (kidney disease, and blindness).
After seven years of what appeared to be a loving marriage, Heidi Klum has filed for divorce from Seal following a three month separation. The couple issued a joint statement: "While we have enjoyed seven very loving, loyal and happy years of marriage, after much soul-searching we have decided to separate. We have had the deepest respect for one another throughout our relationship and continue to love each other very much, but we have grown apart."