I remember in my early twenties considering the idea of not being married. Three facts swirled through my mind constantly… all adding up to me thinking I wasn’t “marriage material:” 1) My parents are divorced. What if I was to make the same mistakes they did?! 2) Independent woman syndrome. I was completely capable of taking care of myself and proud of it. What on earth did I need a spouse for?!
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. It all started with the Marital Rating Scale. You've heard of eHarmony and Match.com, of course. These and other high tech matchmaking services have their roots in a low tech project started 80 years ago.
Have you ever gone out on a date on which you felt you really connected with the guy? The conversation is awesome. You have so much in common. He has a great sense of humor that has you laughing throughout the night. There's even a moment in the middle of your date where your mind wonders what it would be like to have sex with this guy. At the end of the date, he tells you how much he likes you, and how he would like to get together again. He seems like the perfect guy… the guy you've been waiting for.
There’s a split among experts about whether the kids or the relationship should come first. Frankly, I think putting your relationship first is putting your kids first. Why? Because if you want your children to grow up and have healthy, well-balanced relationships, a fulfilling sex-life, and a good sense of self, it starts with you setting the example.
Divorce is full of myths and legends. There are myths and legends regarding statistics of divorce and how others see people who are divorced. The myths and legends that I am talking about are not the ones that are propagated by others, but feelings that many divorcees have themselves. Dispelling the myths of divorce is not easy, and trying to do so can be a lesson in futility, but let’s give it a try.
Sometimes in life we find ourselves feeling stuck or stopped, imprisoned by your thoughts or trapped by your circumstances. Notice yourself saying: nothing's working I'm stuck why me? I feel like I'm spinning my wheels Some common triggers that my clients say can land them in energetic quicksand include:
I have a guilty pleasure. I LOVE the Bachelor. Now, don't get me wrong, I see the contrived nature of the show. I understand the unreality of reality TV. That doesn't stop my delight at watching these women handle their attraction to handsome Brad.
In fairy tales, sometimes the princess kisses a frog, or otherwise falls in love with a beast, and by doing so reveals his true nature as her prince. There are two facets to this particular myth. The first facet is that you can change someone, which is almost always untrue and sets the princess up for disappointment. You can’t change another person; you can only change yourself.
In my on going quest for personal growth and my commitment to expanding my consciousness I have been constantly pulled and pushed to challenge myself in looking at how I can shift my perspective. I was having tea with my friend and amazing relationship coach, Orna Walters, not too long ago. We were talking about our journeys and how we got to where we are today. It was like I had run into an old friend, and we were both giddy as we talked about our lives and realized we had so much in common.
Many would agree that as a culture we have been seduced by industries that spend billions of dollars each year encouraging us to buy and buy and buy to try to achieve an elusive and unfeasible ideal of beauty. Millions of our friends, family and neighbors feel so tortured by this unattainable standard of beauty that they are willing to starve themselves, make themselves sick or avoid interaction with others because they feel ashamed of being seen. On the less extreme scale, millions of others feel disappointed about their bodies and beli