Over forty years, just how important IS attraction, anyway?
Why do you obsess over how the guy you've been dating for all of a month and a half feels about you? Why are you tormenting yourself already with “Where is this relationship going?” I'm on my way to a conference in a very full plane, and two women are talking in the row in front of me. The one is saying “We've been seeing each other for over a month but I have no idea where this is going." "Well, obviously he likes you," the other says. "I know he likes me," the woman says, “but where is this going?" "Who cares?" her friend replies, “You're having a good time. "Sure," the woman says, "But I don't want to be wasting my time." And there's the dilemma. You're afraid of wasting your time on a relationship that'll go nowhere, yet a relationship can't happen if you don't spend time developing it. So what do you do?
Yesterday I wanted to quit. This is too hard. There are days things seem to be clicking and I’m finally getting it…marching boldly toward my goal.
The Soul Mate that you're longing for is also longing for you.
It’s time for a new story. It’s time for a revolution! It’s time to step into our power and glory as women and begin to tap in to that magic and mystery that is inside all of us. In that magic and mystery is the power to create the relationship of our dreams, and the life of our choosing. It’s time to leave a legacy for our daughters that shows them that women’s liberation is really about claiming our absolute feminine power. It’s time to take back all the control, and take care of the business of taking care of ourselves.
How well do you really know this guy or girl you are about to marry. If you haven't asked these three questions, not as well as you need to. 20% of marriages end in the first 5 years, not because people fall out of love, but because they aren't asking deep enough questions to be sure who they are marrying will be a great partner for THEIR life. These 3 questions, will take you deeper, without scaring your beloved away!
A few weeks ago, my friend Adam Sheck blogged about the 3 P’s of relationships from an Imago Relationship Therapy standpoint. The 3 P’s are: Pick, Provoke and Project. It occurred to me that there are two more P’s possible for couples who want to move into a conscious relationship.
It’s vacation time! Summer is in full swing and here in MA we’re having the warmest, sunniest summer I can remember. It got me thinking about how to make a vacation getaway with your partner even steamier. 1. Schedule a little time just for the two of you. Send the kids to grandma’s (as we did this past weekend) and the pets to the kennel. Resist the temptation to meet up with friends for at least one full day. 2. Sample the best of summer foods, and feed them to each other. Any food can be an aphrodisiac if it’s presented properly. The Thai Butter Mussels on the beach Sunday were out of this world—so good we had seconds. 3. Lube each other up… with sunscreen, of course (where did your mind go with that?!). Sunburns are definitely not sexy, but having your partner run their slippery hands all over your body is pretty hot.
Dan Savage is a journalist for The Stranger; he writes an advice column called Savage Love. I recently had the pleasure of watching a video clip of him, and I now think I’m in love. He was talking about swinging and non-monogamy, and I know I found a kindred spirit. Here are a few of the points he made, along with my own thoughts about the subject.
When people engage in these three destructive behavioral patterns, they create a miserable marriage. Knowing this and working on these three behaviors can help you to turn it around to create a successful marriage.