DISC is an assessment tool that many are familiar with in a professional setting. It has great application as a tool designed to assist in the development and improvement of interpersonal communication skills. Understanding your DISC profile will enhance the ability to be self-aware of the four dimensions of your behavioral style. Successful people are aware of their strengths and find ways to place themselves in those situations that are likely to result in positive interactions.
As we get older, we begin to worry about our future. We need to pay the bills and we want to get ahead. Many people want children, and still despite so many major changes in our economy and the state of the world as it is today, here on American soil things still appear to be moving on as before, and still seem status quo in many ways, and thus many still aspire for a semblance of the American dream: to buy a house, drive a nice car, be successful at something whether it be a career and/or raising a family.
Rationalizing Your Exit from a Relationship Every Tuesday morning, I join Brad Booker and Maria Todd on the radio for an hour to talk about relationships. Maria Todd actually named this article after a caller told us why her marriage wasn’t working. The caller was trying to rationalize why the marriage wouldn’t work, because it appeared she was done with it in her mind and had moved on. I looked up the meaning of rationalize and came up with this definition:
Said: "I love to flirt." (Heard: "I've got it and you don't.") Said: "It's not my fault that guys are so easy'. (Heard: "I've got it and you don't stand a snowman's chance in hell of ever having it.") Said: "It's just the way I am." ( Heard: "I am made different than you. There's something wrong with you.")
Warning: The following statement may not make sense at first glance. The worst time to fight is when you’re mad. I know that might seem like a contradictory thought. However, when anger comes up it’s usually because there is an issue that needs addressing or a problem that needs solving. Anyone who’s ever had a fight, (which is pretty much anyone at all) knows the energy of anger itself is not conducive to problem solving.
It’s not about just seeing the good or just seeing the bad of any situation, which tends to be very black and white thinking. It’s about all the shades of grey in between and not just the grey of possibilities. It’s the grey of what else you might open your eyes to seeing that you haven’t before, that IS actually there. Especially when faced with making a decision about ending a relationship or marriage.
It was in grade school math that I learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. “Reducing to the lowest common denominator,” however, is a great way of describing how we so often “sink” to the level of those with whom we are engaging. If you’ve ever argued with a child, you know what I mean. Before you realize it, you’re exchanging “did” and “did not” as if your life depended on winning. When this happens in your relationship, the results are never pretty. Example:
Setting the stage for your first post divorce tryst! If you are like me you aren’t into one night stands. Waking up in the morning next to your new lover won’t happen after a night out and too many drinks. You will know his first and last name, more than likely his mother’s name and many details that have led you to believe he is the one you want to share your first sleepover with post divorce.
Time and again, single people hear “You should meet so-and-so” from friends and family. This type of date can be extremely nerve-wracking and uncomfortable, because you’re both walking into a meeting, well, blind. The reality though is that blind dates can be very successful ways to meet someone who is compatible. I’ve studied married couples and their relationship patterns for many years.
Over the last few months Father's Rights activists have been attempting to have Parental Alienation Disorder added to the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V), the American Psychiatric Association's "bible" of diagnoses. When learning of this effort the National Organization for Women (NOW) became concerned and sent out an Action Alert to counter the campaign. According to NOW's Tracy Simmons: