It can take less than three hours to have an affair. Yet once your affair becomes exposed, you can pretty much count on that sooner or later it will be public knowledge. You will fairly quickly start to feel that the topic will never end. You will find yourself drowning in a sea of endless repetitive questions, countless accusations and threats. Your name will be nominated as the favorite person to gossip abouut in your community. All this reflects the truth that affairs are much easier to get into than it is to resolve them within a marriage.
Sometimes you just want to watch a funny movie with a girlfriend and just laugh and laugh and NOT critique the darn thing, y’know? I went to see Bridesmaids with a longtime girlfriend of mine the other day, anticipating some comic relief and pure enjoyment. I got it. To a degree, anyway. It WAS hilarious. One funny and/or ridiculous scene after the other, laugh out loud funny.
Relationships have given me great opportunities to get to know more of myself. We cannot discount the relationships that have been a struggle because this is where we can learn about our unhealthy patterns. People can trigger negative feelings of unworthiness and lies that tell us we are not good enough. When we start to walk on egg shells, feel unsafe or uncomfortable our inauthenticity becomes a barrier to love. The freedom of joy, passion,intimacy, trust, and safe love keep relationships alive!
After an affair, deciding to stay together may be one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make. You have decided to listen to your heart and not to any of your well meaning friends or relatives who may be telling you to leave. You both want to work on your relationship and are committed to a new monogamy, together.
Studies and research will tell you that couples most often fight about two topics in particular: Sex and money; different ideas of what’s too little, too much or how these issues affect the couple. While these are real struggles that jeopardize the health of a relationship, the gaps that lie between partner needs and how to bridge them still aren’t the real reason why marriage is so darn hard. The answer lies in the “shift.”
I was surprised to find savvy online dating advice in a new action/adventure/comedy/romance "This Means War". The film's testosterone-driven opening sequence shows two of the world's deadliest CIA operatives chasing and beating the bad guys. In a quiet lull after the carnage, the CIA warriors played by Tom Hardy and Chris Pine, show us their personal side. One is a player with no desire to settle down; the other is a divorced dad looking for real love. They are inseparable partners and best friends, until they discover they've fallen in love with the same woman, played by Reese Witherspoon.
Staying in theme as we wrap up February and National Condom Month, it truly is all about the size of the package — but, not in the way that you might think. It is time to take a stand regarding penis size.
The New York Times reported that over half of the births to US women younger than 30 occurred outside of marriage in 2009. Most of the ongoing rise of births to unmarried women occurred to couples living together but unmarried. So why don't these young women want to get married? New York Times experts speculate on a number of economic reasons in a follow-up article in the Motherlode section. They reported that many young parents said “they would like to be married but not now and not to each other.”
Year after year we enjoy dissecting the cornucopia of colorful characters seeking love Bachelor style. After all, they're cast no differently than the consciously composed ensemble of a Hollywood movie. Film producers wish to cash in on their featured collective with highbrow awards, while Bachelor producers along with the network make calculated choices designed to rake in a windfall of captivated viewers and extraordinarily lucrative advertising dollars.
One of the most “popular” mind games that so many of us play is also the game that causes destruction and pain. This is the game that nobody wins. It's called... The Comparison Game. You might play it too. Do you compare yourself to others? At a party, do you look around at the other men or women and judge how attractive/thin/fit/muscular/successful you are compared to them? This can make or break your night!